Post # 1
I thought about making this a poll, but decided against it bc I’m sure there are a million reasons. Besides the stuff you can find in magazines (career, the right girl, finances), what do you think makes your guy wait? Not the reason he gives you, but the real ‘feather on the camels back’. Engaged/married bees please chime in, what flipped the switch for your guy?
Post # 3
Job security/money. Unfortunately, it didn’t work out the way we thought it would, but he doesn’t regret proposing. He also said this past weekend at his cousin’s wedding “well, you just know when it’s time..”
It really depends on your guy though. As you mentioned above, there’s so many reasons as to why he hasn’t popped the question yet.
With that being said, please don’t push it. I know so many girls can get impatient waiting, but trust me – it’s worth it!
Post # 4
I honestly don’t know what made him ready, now I want to ask him! It just kind of proogressed naturally. Though, when it came to proposing, having the money was a big issue.
Post # 5
What flipped the switch for my guy was when I told him that I won’t be waiting forever. Once he realized I was serious, he had a decision to make and he chose that he wanted marriage as well. A few months later, he proposed.
My guy was in his 30s, working, done with undergrad and we were living together and we just had a baby, so I wasn’t dealing with excuses.
Post # 6
I think for my guy its the same as alot of others, he had all the “expierence” he wanted to have and found that he wasnt getting what he wanted out of it. He has a good stable job that he feels he can support a family with and he is just tired of being alone and wants more and found someone he feels is the right person. Nothing has changed for him in the 4 years we have been together other then inside of himself. 4 years ago he would not have been ready (funny enough now that I think about it turning 30 was his turning point where he started to feel like he wanted more). I think he might have been ready for awhile before we had the talk and found out where I stand now its just a matter of waiting for the funds to buy the ring in the fall
Post # 7
For my FI, it was us finally sitting down and talking about our expectations for the wedding. I will fully admit that I’m addicted to wedding shows, and he thought that what we see on those shows are what I was expecting for our own wedding – something over the top, and more importantly, expensive. I had to tell him that yes, while I want the “big day”, I also think it’s ridiculous to waste a ton of money on one day. I was never expecting or wanted a spectacle of a wedding. I want the “big day”, but within reason. Ultimately, I just wanted to be married to him.
Post # 8
I asked my FI and he said “money and bugging from the woman” haha. He was kidding though, mostly. 🙂 I didn’t play it as cool as some of you guys but I really don’t think it made a difference. He wanted to wait until he could afford to get my dream ring and the timing was right with school/work/etc.
Post # 9
For my FI, he had interviewed for a job that is 4 hours away from our family and friends. We had already discussed the possibilities of what happened if/when he got the job and I had agreed to move him with leaving friends and family behind. The day he got the phone call that he had gotten the job, he went straight to the store and bought me an engagement ring. He proposed a little over a month after that. For him it was the fact that I had agreed to move away with him and we had been together for close to 3 years.
Post # 10
Okay I just asked my FI since he’s sitting next to me… he said “money and mortality…”
Post # 11
I agree with happilyeverafter, My FI said that if it wasnt for his new job he just got not too long ago, he would have not taken me ring shopping to later propose to me. It was the major factor, which I am glad he has a job b/c we are very attracted to each other intimately and want to wait till we are married and without funds to support that life style we would have probably went to the court to elope and have a real one later but everything kinda fell right into place we know we love each other deeply, he is stable finacially where I am not so that was a concern and he is done with school where I am starting but we have plans to work it all out. We have been tremendously blessed and I think it was finances, future plans( being on the same page with parenting roles or lack their of, school, interests…) health, and last but not least intimacy. Dont want intercourse until our love is set in stone before God and Family.
Post # 12
He said that when God layed me on his heart and he began to want to know more about me and be with me more…he realized I am the woman is has been praying for- for so many years…
He didn’t waste any time, my FI’s model is when you know it is your mate— why wait? We became a couple in October, he proposed on his family’s beach trip in May, and we are getting married in Nov. So, I feel “when he is ready and wants you=
nothing can keep him from making you his wife