Post # 1
Hi Bees…since the wedding for me isnt until 10/14…I’m not doing much yet. I have only looked at one venue (3 hours away)& that is beacuse we were on a road trip up there. I haven’t gone dress shopping, I haven’t thought of who would take our photos, what kind of food, or even the time of day. I have however settled on a budget…oh & I bought some sandals for the wedding. I feel a little lost.
FI says its to early to plan, so I feel kinda silly when I throw ideas out to him, I also feel foolish when throwing an idea out to my mom. They dont make me feel this way necessarily, but I do get the whole “what’s the rush, the wedding isnt until 2014”.
So what do i do? Nearly kill my Pinterest boards with all of my wedding ideas and I’m constantly on WB. However, I go between the dresses, the waiting, the rings & the Money boards. I feel like I have no home exactly on WB…
What do you do? Where do you stalk? My title? The “waiting..not THAT kind of Waiting Bee”
Post # 3
Trust me when I say this, the earlier you start…the HAPPIER you will be in the end. A lot of things sneak up on you when you least expect it so as much as you can get done..do it! Don’t worry about it being way too early…your fiance’s bank account will thank you when money is spent spread out instead of in one huge, large, lump sum. Just make sure you are set with themes, colors, etc. so you don’t get up in a rut.
Post # 4
In saying that too, if you do plan early, try not to get all caught up in the unimportant details that can very quickly blow out the most frugal brides budget. There’s also the risk of changing your mind. A good idea would be to plan but hold off buying or booking ANYTHING until closer, but set yourself up so your ready and know exactly what you want a few months out.
have fun planning your dream wedding! I personally love the recaps board 🙂
Post # 5
@Jessy727: Thanks for the reply! . I’m an indecisive person IRL, so planning a wedding is just the ultimate wishy washy scenario for me. I do know thatbif I start locking down some things now it will just be easier later.
@KellyLouise: Some of my fears in getting started, is the fact that if put $ down and change my mind, we are screwed money wise. LOL I would agree that it is the minutia of the little things (that wind up a bit more whenthey are all piled up).
My post was truly intended to figure out where others hang on WB while waiting to plan, I don’t mean to mislead any bees. But a sincere thanks to you both. It has made me feel a bit stronger in my resolve to plan.
Post # 6
I’m not waiting to plan, as my wedding is already planned (I started and finished pretty early) but I still stalk the “dress” boards. I know this can be dangerous since I already have my dress but I can’t resist looking at all the pretty gowns. So far I haven’t had any “regret” from looking at the board, maybe just a little envy at some of the bees amazing figures lol.
I like to read the posts that are so dramatic haha (I guess this would be the “emotional” board?). Kind of makes me feel slightly more normal 😉
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I stalk the honeymoon boards, they always make me daydream about future trips. It’s never too early to start researching your honeymoon! You can plan out a budget, itinerary, and research hotels and activities. When you get busy with wedding planning, you’ll be glad your honeymoon is already researched and ready to book!
Post # 8
I dont think its too early for you to start to plan! believe me it comes faster then you think!
I started planning as soon as I got engaged. Dec, 2011. Take it slow but start doing some stuff if you save everything for a year-10 months away you will be over welmed. I believe thats how bride zillas are created lol look at it this way, if you find your venue early on you are basically garenteed they will have your date avalible! same with all the venders! you dont wanna wait and then have them say “o sorry that days already booked” especially when you had all this time to do it but you chose not to. good luck and have fun with it 🙂
may I suggest making a wedding binder to start out with, make sections like “dress” “tux” “bridesmaids” “cake” “flowers” “ceramony” “receptions” “music” “photos” “video” etc…. and get all your ideas and put them down. look threw wedding magazines, tare pictures out, start recearching. 🙂
Post # 9
Start planning now!!! The less stress you’ll have in the end. Then come October of this year you can start putting deposits down. We got engaged in March 11′ and I had all deposits made by May 11′ and we were married the following June 12′.
Post # 10
we have very similiar wedding dates, and i have started a few DIY projects that are pretty time consuming to keep me occupied. My mom isn’t too into the planning so when I do tell her about things she gives off the “its too early vibe”. My fiance is supportive though, which is great.
I spend a lot of time on pintrest finding ideas then using my budget tool on the knot and a few Excel spreadsheets to weigh pros and cons (with ilnks!) to make me feel like I’m planning. I cost things out and get ideas in between projects.
I know what shoes I want, so I’m making those and what card box so I’ve made that (mostly). I love the Month Twins board, it keeps me occupied and the DIY boards are so great for ideas.
I agree with above Bee, the more we do now, the less we’ll have to do later! Any detail left to the last minute isn’t crucial, if it was it’d be taken care of sooner 🙂 Just watch your budget, I’m afraid too much time could possibly lead to spending too much, thats something I try to be very cautious of.
Post # 11
I’m getting married in September (or october) 2014 and I’m already planning. I have a wedding binder, I’m in the process of narrowing down the venue and we’ll be putting down a deposit in the next month or so.
I’m a huge planner, i’d rather over plan! 🙂
Start with your guest list, then move onto the venue, go to bridal expos etc. The more time you have to plan the better deal you may be able to find 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
start now! Get the venue booked early and get all the important vendors nailed down. You’ll thank yourself later
Post # 13
We started planning oct 2012 for our wedding in oct 2014. We booked our venue and we have a lot of little things planned already as well. We know what our favors will be, all of our colors, i have my shoes( hopefully i can find a dress to match hahaha), toasting glasses and cake serving set. I know that i am making our table numbers and will probably start making them soon.
Its never too early to start thinking about what you want and discussing it with your fi.
Post # 14
This was soooo me 😉 I got engaged 2.5 years before my wedding! I would go along the same lines as you are already. I began a binder of ideas, but soon realized pinterest is better 😉 I am keeping a binder for my contracts though…I would advise you to begin a seperate e-mail account just for the wedding, since I had so much time I have found great deals from bridesmaids dresses all the way to my own since I could pay attention to specials through e-mail. My biggest advice is to wait to go wedding dress shopping…otherwise you will get overwhelmed fast! I also am doing a lot of DIY projects and growing my own flowers! Good luck!
Post # 15
I know what most of you mean. I started planning in early 2012. My FI and I were off for a month vacation last Feb so we decided what better time to research venues? We narrowed it down to two, and we put the deposit on our absolute favorite in October… exactly TWO YEARS before the date lol!
Now, I am mostly Pinterest crazy while I narrow down the DIY projects I plan to do. But it has been fun. And of course WB recaps of other brides makes the waiting that much easier.
Post # 16
Ok…took everyone’s suggestions and I’m pushing forward. I will wait for the dress, as I could possibly change my mind. I’ve requested more help from FI on the where…because we are moving in together this summer…and his focus is more on today…fustrating because he can’t think further than 2 days ahead. We already have opened a joint wedding checking acct, and we are going to visit a local winery on my b-day in about 2 wks. I’m not telling him its in my interest scope. Want to see what he thinks on his own. I have the seperate email address and I plan to keep it strictly for wedding related things. My pinterest is completely blowing up with wedding related items… I am ok there.
This DOES not mean I wont be back w/o more questions or possible insecurities. I’m glad I’m on WB….I can officially stalk threads and not feel crazy.