Post # 1
So I was just reading that virgin thread (did you wait until marriage) and I thought of a good/funny/sad? one – for all of us to talk about our first and whether you regret it! Do you still talk to them?
Mine was a college boyfriend who has really thrived. Don’t really talk to him much and I don’t even know if he realizes he was my first…he must have though, right?
Post # 3
He was my first boyfriend. I was his first girlfriend. We adored each other. It was very sweet. He is in my past now, (we are “amicably distant”), but I don’t regret it at all.
Post # 4
First one was FI, I was his first too, neither of us regret it and yes we still talk lol
Post # 5
Mine was my husband, so I hope I never regret it! Lol.
Post # 6
My first “sexual” experience was being raped when I was 11, but I stayed a virgin up until I first had sex with the guy that is now my fiance at age 21. I don’t regret any of it – I doubt I would be where I am today without all of my personal experiences.
Post # 7
I was definitely young and stupid but I don’t regret it. What I think I would regret is having sex on my wedding night how my “first time” went…
Post # 8
My first was my 2nd boyfriend, in college, I was almost 20. We don’t talk, I hate him and wish diarrhea upon him. I don’t regret the act, I regret the person and the entire relationship. But, I guess there’s no point because I can’t go back and change and I suppose it’s shaped who I am today.
Post # 9
Mine was with my first boyfriend and I was young-ish but I don’t regret it at all. I was his second, and he was hesitant about having sex with me because he felt like the first girl he had sex with pretty much just used him to lose her virginity. But I eventually wore him down and our first time was very awkward. After that, it was great.
One thing I just remembered was that we would count how many times we’d had sex… like, “We’ve had sex 11 times now!” It seems very “quaint” looking back on it now.
Post # 10
It was with my first boyfriend, and I was his first girlfriend. We were 18 and in love and thought we’d end up getting married (and were engaged at one point after that) so no, I don’t regret it. It was in the context of a relationship that at the time was very safe and loving. While I hate what our relationship turned into and how it ended, I don’t regret any of it. We talk occasionally now, to check in on each other every few months to see how things are going. DH doesn’t mind because he knows it’s all in my past and that I love him more than anything!
Post # 11
My first was with my now FI, so obviously I don’t regret the person. lol. I also do not in the slightest regret not waiting for marriage. I don’t see sex as exclusive for marriage.
Post # 12
@QueensBee: lol I remember counting too!
Post # 13
My first was my abusive ex. I regret it sooo much! After I gave in he started sexually abusing me and then mentally abusing me, and then physically abusing me.
It made it worse because I held out for so long and I met the love of my life after that. I tend to consider my FI my “first” because he’s the first one that actually meant something.
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Post # 15
Absolutely no regret – I had a positive experience, and it’s something that had an impact on me at teh time. It was my then long-term boyfriend and we stayed together for a few years after that. He is now a close friend of mine, and while it sounds awkward it’s so not. My partner has met him and they’re friends. whenI look at him I don’t see my “ex boyfriend” but just my close friend. There’s no attraction on either end anymore. He helped me (emotionally) through my divorce a few years ago. We didn’t plan loosing our virginity to each other, it was just something that happened and went with the flow of what was happening that afternoon. It brought us closer together. Even if I had waited until marriage, it wouldn’t have been for my soon to be as I was married once before (as was he). I have nothing against people who wait, I think people should do what is best for them
Post # 16
with an ex, and yes, i do regret it. i’m not gonna go into details, but we’ll just say it wasn’t a good situation. it wasn’t good, either.