Post # 1
I recently put up a post about putting money towards my own ring, as I earn a little more than my SO, but he want to pay for it on his own. Some of the bees suggested that instead I could help out with house hold bills etc, so I sugested to SO that I pay for all of the Christmas presents that will be given by both of us, i.e his mum, dad, brother, uncles and Granny.
Yesterday we went late night Christmas shopping and he said to me, ‘if you’re helping out with Christmas shopping, together with my Christmas bonus i should have a fair bit of cash left over this month…’ to which I was thinking yay I may still get my proposal in the snow, which he knows I would love. He then turned round and said ‘I should have just about enough to buy a new TV!’ As i’m sure you can imagine my face fell! Please note we don’t have a TV, or time to watch it, it is purely a bigger screen for his Xbox!
After dropping some pretty heafty hints (my SO’s not very observent) like ‘Well if you by your brother that (a very expensive present which he agreed to pay half) then you’ll never be able to afford the TV you’re going to buy, let alone anything else that you’ve been saving for the past 15 months for!’ This seemed to sink in, and then he started back tracking, saying he probably wouldn’t have enough cash for that afterall.
ARRGH!!!! So frustrating, especially as he’s only about £400 pounds away from his ring fund (the amount he chose to save), which is about the same as the TV!
MEN – DON’T THEY JUST DRIVE YOU CRAZY?!!!! : )
Post # 3
@emmylouloubobells:hahahaahahahahahah, yeah! you´re right!! men are soooo dense!!
Post # 4
This seems to be common on the boards lately. It’s good that he didn’t get defensive about it 🙂
Post # 5
Are we dating the same guy?? Hahahahahahaha!! 😀
Post # 6
Yes men don’t see the bigger picture with purchases, hence my SO went out on his own and bought a new bike without telling me (and it was double the cost of my e-ring he was apparently saving really hard for)
You just have to laugh it off sometimes.. but I’m glad you made him see sense before he bought a tv!
Post # 7
Grrr, men! Lol. I swear SO isn’t even thinking about saving! He’ll probably only get around to buying it when he does some overtime and gets some extra money in the bank.
Post # 8
Ohhh yes, I’ve been there! LAST YEAR! (thought it would be THE year, but I was wrong) I thought I was going to lose it! SO’s friend works at an electronic store and got him a “really good deal” on this huge flat screen tv that he was lusting over. I agree it is a very nice tv, I couldn’t tell you one thing about it though, besides it’s black?! But he HAD to have it. It was the cost OF MY RING. I tried very very hard not to be bitter.. But of course there were comments and hints dropped about better ways to spend money 😉 … Sighhhhh they just don’t get it sometimes lol
Post # 9
We got the house paid off, and now it’s ‘let’s remodel the bathroom!’ ‘let’s take trips for several months to foreign countries!’ Not that I wouldn’t like those things. However, none of this is of as much concern to me, since the ring I would like doesn’t cost any more than other gifts he’s previously given me, and I don’t want a big wedding. Sigh.
Post # 10
That is hilarious especially because my Darling Husband did the EXACT Same thing when I was waiting!!! We had numerous talks about the engagement timeline and he KNEW he was reaching the end of it. He also wouldn’t let me give any money towards the ring (not that I offered), but we had been splitting up costs intentionally so that he could save easier FOR THE RING. What does he do as the timeline is drawing near? Upgrade his TV to a 42″!!
I didn’t say anything, because he had already bought it, but I definitely didn’t let him push the timeline back because of that, even though he tried.
Post # 11
Ahhh—the diversion. My brother did that to my S-I-L before they got engaged. He would mention how he needs a new XBox, motorcycle dohickey or TV just in an attempt to play with her and “divert her” attention from his evil plan.
I hope you get your proposal in the snow–that’d be so cute.
Post # 12
My SO can’t stop drooling at all the giant tvs any time we are at a store lately, I don’t know what has gotten into him! It’s soooooo irritating. He knows that I don’t approve of buying a new tv right now (for the obvious ‘ring’ reason but also just because the tv we have now works just FINE!) so he makes jokes about how he’s going to sneak it home when I’m not there. The other day we were at the store looking at the tvs and he said “I’m tellin ya, one of these days you’re going to come home and it’s going to be here and there won’t be anything you can do!” and my response to that was that if he brings home a tv and we still aren’t engaged he’s going to be watching the tv in his new apartment, lol!
Post # 13
UGH! I know how you feel!! My SO and I have been talking about engagement for almost 2 years and he finally JUST stopped purchasing “extras.” It’s good that he didn’t get defensive and you didn’t get the “It’s my money, we’re not married yet” speech. But it’s so contradictory to hear “I’m saving” BUT “WOW, that TV is marked down a LOT! I NEED a new one too!” UGH.
Post # 14
@emmylouloubobells: Mine bought a TV right before the ring! It only cost him like $50 a month to pay it off but I think he felt like he needed to buy something big for himself first. Men can be selfish ding dongs but I LOVE watching football on that high def screen! haha.
Post # 15
Mine is so dense in the membrane! He recently bought a piece of furniture for HIS living room. He didn’t have anywhere to house his messy cords, the DVR, etc. He could tell I was in shock and peeved and he said “Oh, this one will look great in your house too.”
Post # 16
@MrsCoachBtoBee: Hahahahahahahahhahaahha, ding dongs 😀