(Closed) so worried FI will be turned off

posted 6 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I promise he wont be seeing your insecurities on your wedding night! or any night for that matter πŸ˜‰

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I guarantee that once you are in bed he will NOT be looking at your stomach.

It’s natural to be concerned about body image the first time you will be with him, but I can assure you that he wouldn’t be marrying you if it was any concern to him.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mirabell35:  Try to be more confident!  Confidence is sexier than anything else to a guy.  Walk around the house and do your chores naked, it sounds so silly but it’ll help you get more comfortable with your body! πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper

@MissBoPeep:  Confidence is sexier than anything else to a guy.

This! Seriously.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh, hon!  No way will he be turned off!  He loves you and is marrying you – and you will be naked in the bed with him.  Enough said, lol.  Trust me, when a man sees the woman he loves naked in the bed with him the only thing he is thinking in his mind is “YES!!!”

But I know how you feel and we all have our little insecurities sometimes, it’s perfectly normal.  On that night take some time to make yourself feel as beautiful and sexy as you possibly can.  Get some beautiful lingerie, to start with.  If it makes you feel a little better keep the lights a little dim or have candlelight – create a romantic atmosphere.  Have some wine and focus on HIM, not on yourself.  You will be beautiful and sexy and everything he has ever dreamed of.  Believe in it!  Also, play up your best features, 36DDs – hello!  He won’t be able to see anything beyond what you project.  He’ll be nervous in his own way, too.  The last thing on his mind will be anything negative about your body.  He’ll be hoping he pleases YOU.

Confidence is the most sexy thing ever to a man, regardless of just looks alone.  The most “pretty and perfect” girl in the world doesn’t come across as sexy at all if she has no confidence in her own beauty.  And I have seen Plain Janes with all the attitude in the world blossom and bloom into a beauty in their lover’s eyes.  In fact, I work with a girl who by conventional standards is a little plump and a little plain.  But her personality is bubbly and fun and she has tons of dates.  Men adore her because she’s friendly and fun and most of all, confident.

Don’t worry.  If he thinks you are gorgeous – believe him!!!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have nice legs, 36DD boobs and a cute butt, and I’m blonde and blue-eyed. So I’m pretty.

I don’t think this list of attributes makes for an obvious “so im pretty” HOWEVER that being said, Im sure that you are and that your fiance will think you are just as gorgeous after seeing you naked..probably more so…even if your body is not perfect, you are your own worst critic and I think he will not notice your flaws the way you do.

Dont stress, in fact, he probably has the same concerns about his own body but since you are both in love it will be such a special moment and i bet he will go gaga for you and think you are the sexiest woman on the planet (he has the rare gift of knowing your inner beauty first and then your outter beauty..makes you that much more breath-taking in his eyes) πŸ˜‰

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Did you say 36 DD? He’s going to be drooling. I guarantee. You coudl have an extra leg and he probably wouldn’t notice. Get yourself some nice babydoll lingerie to show off that amazing rack and just wait for his jaw to drop. Have you considered boudoir photos? They’re a GREAT sexy confidence booster.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Your stomach isn’t gross, you only think it is. Assuming your SO has reasonably average sexual tastes, he will not see any grossness in your body (cellulite and all). Just try not to worry about it, and remember that he doesn’t see what you see.

Once you start having regular fun times with your SO, and with compliments from him (encourage those), you will soon gain more self confidence and (hopefully) loose your incorrect body image. 

If you do want to tone up more generally, the only way to do so is through weight training — restrictive dieting won’t do it. But even then, women just are not designed to have super firm bellies. We’re supposed to have a little pudge, and most men find that attractive.

And remember that he most likely has his own body insecurities, too.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Your FI loves you and will think you are gorgeous.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Can you imagine the pressure on him πŸ˜‰ Everything has to be up and working- and he wants to im sure last long and please you , or make the first experience comfortable. Plus if you have never seen his personals, guys are usually concerned about their size and girth and your opinion.

I waited to have sex with my husband and let me tell you, in the moment I cannot even think about what my name is, what i wore the day before, your mind gets taken to another place and Im never thinking about his body or how it looks anything like that. and my husband appears to seem the same way. Im no porno model looks wise, and my husband thinks im the best thing since sliced bread in bed!

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mirabell35:  Here’s what I do – I don’t look at the parts I don’t like.  I only look at the parts I do like, and fool myself into thinking I’m a perfect, sexy beauty.  Works for me.  Wink

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mirabell35:  Sorry if that seemed snarky it wasnt intended to be and like I said Im sure you are very pretty!

I just dont like stereotypical lists of what defines a woman as “pretty” perhaps I am just jealous and a little bitter because I am like the exact opposite of what you described haha (5’5″ , 34C, 115lbs, brown hair and brown eyes! lol)  so I was like “if thats what makes a woman pretty, then I am not pretty” haha

but yeah sorry if I sounded rude! I am positive you are beautiful πŸ™‚

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