Post # 1
Hey guys…we’re waiting until the wedding night to have sex. We have only ever made out, no further, and no plans of going further until after we’re married. I’m a reasonably attractive girl, not overweight but on the heavier side–152 pounds at 5’7″. I have nice legs, 36DD boobs and a cute butt, and I’m blonde and blue-eyed. So I’m pretty. HOWEVER I carry all my weight in my thighs/stomach. My stomach I HATE. It’s really flabby and I have love handles and stretch marks and some cellulite on my hips. I’ve lose about 20 pounds, and never eat more than 1700 calories a day (I’m 21), but it’s plateau-ed off. Toning doesn’t seem to work at all either. 🙁
I’m super worried FI will be turned off by that. He thinks I am gorgeous now, but I worry that once he sees my gross stomach…he’ll not think that anymore. 🙁 Any advice?
Post # 3
I promise he wont be seeing your insecurities on your wedding night! or any night for that matter 😉
Post # 4
I guarantee that once you are in bed he will NOT be looking at your stomach.
It’s natural to be concerned about body image the first time you will be with him, but I can assure you that he wouldn’t be marrying you if it was any concern to him.
Post # 5
@mirabell35: Try to be more confident! Confidence is sexier than anything else to a guy. Walk around the house and do your chores naked, it sounds so silly but it’ll help you get more comfortable with your body! 🙂
Post # 6
@MissBoPeep: Confidence is sexier than anything else to a guy.
Post # 7
Oh, hon! No way will he be turned off! He loves you and is marrying you – and you will be naked in the bed with him. Enough said, lol. Trust me, when a man sees the woman he loves naked in the bed with him the only thing he is thinking in his mind is “YES!!!”
But I know how you feel and we all have our little insecurities sometimes, it’s perfectly normal. On that night take some time to make yourself feel as beautiful and sexy as you possibly can. Get some beautiful lingerie, to start with. If it makes you feel a little better keep the lights a little dim or have candlelight – create a romantic atmosphere. Have some wine and focus on HIM, not on yourself. You will be beautiful and sexy and everything he has ever dreamed of. Believe in it! Also, play up your best features, 36DDs – hello! He won’t be able to see anything beyond what you project. He’ll be nervous in his own way, too. The last thing on his mind will be anything negative about your body. He’ll be hoping he pleases YOU.
Confidence is the most sexy thing ever to a man, regardless of just looks alone. The most “pretty and perfect” girl in the world doesn’t come across as sexy at all if she has no confidence in her own beauty. And I have seen Plain Janes with all the attitude in the world blossom and bloom into a beauty in their lover’s eyes. In fact, I work with a girl who by conventional standards is a little plump and a little plain. But her personality is bubbly and fun and she has tons of dates. Men adore her because she’s friendly and fun and most of all, confident.
Don’t worry. If he thinks you are gorgeous – believe him!!!
Post # 8
I have nice legs, 36DD boobs and a cute butt, and I’m blonde and blue-eyed. So I’m pretty.
I don’t think this list of attributes makes for an obvious “so im pretty” HOWEVER that being said, Im sure that you are and that your fiance will think you are just as gorgeous after seeing you naked..probably more so…even if your body is not perfect, you are your own worst critic and I think he will not notice your flaws the way you do.
Dont stress, in fact, he probably has the same concerns about his own body but since you are both in love it will be such a special moment and i bet he will go gaga for you and think you are the sexiest woman on the planet (he has the rare gift of knowing your inner beauty first and then your outter beauty..makes you that much more breath-taking in his eyes) 😉
Post # 9
Did you say 36 DD? He’s going to be drooling. I guarantee. You coudl have an extra leg and he probably wouldn’t notice. Get yourself some nice babydoll lingerie to show off that amazing rack and just wait for his jaw to drop. Have you considered boudoir photos? They’re a GREAT sexy confidence booster.
Post # 10
Your stomach isn’t gross, you only think it is. Assuming your SO has reasonably average sexual tastes, he will not see any grossness in your body (cellulite and all). Just try not to worry about it, and remember that he doesn’t see what you see.
Once you start having regular fun times with your SO, and with compliments from him (encourage those), you will soon gain more self confidence and (hopefully) loose your incorrect body image.
If you do want to tone up more generally, the only way to do so is through weight training — restrictive dieting won’t do it. But even then, women just are not designed to have super firm bellies. We’re supposed to have a little pudge, and most men find that attractive.
And remember that he most likely has his own body insecurities, too.
Post # 11
Your FI loves you and will think you are gorgeous.
Post # 12
@MapleCreekBride: Oh, I wasn’t trying to be conceited…obviously I have a hard time believing I’m more attractive than anyone else. I think I’m average at best. Just usually those characteristics are the stereotypical things guys love. Men definitely love a wide range of characteristics and there are many, many women whom I envy for their dark skin and hair and thin frames. 🙂
Thanks to you all…I feel better about it. And yeah lol, I have enormous boobs. Super annoying for any kind of working out, but he sure likes them haha. I do need to work on confidence, it’s a problem for me 🙁
Post # 13
Can you imagine the pressure on him 😉 Everything has to be up and working- and he wants to im sure last long and please you , or make the first experience comfortable. Plus if you have never seen his personals, guys are usually concerned about their size and girth and your opinion.
I waited to have sex with my husband and let me tell you, in the moment I cannot even think about what my name is, what i wore the day before, your mind gets taken to another place and Im never thinking about his body or how it looks anything like that. and my husband appears to seem the same way. Im no porno model looks wise, and my husband thinks im the best thing since sliced bread in bed!
Post # 14
@mirabell35: Here’s what I do – I don’t look at the parts I don’t like. I only look at the parts I do like, and fool myself into thinking I’m a perfect, sexy beauty. Works for me.
Post # 15
@mirabell35: Sorry if that seemed snarky it wasnt intended to be and like I said Im sure you are very pretty!
I just dont like stereotypical lists of what defines a woman as “pretty” perhaps I am just jealous and a little bitter because I am like the exact opposite of what you described haha (5’5″ , 34C, 115lbs, brown hair and brown eyes! lol) so I was like “if thats what makes a woman pretty, then I am not pretty” haha
but yeah sorry if I sounded rude! I am positive you are beautiful 🙂
Post # 16
@Eva Peron: That’s great to hear. I’m sure it’ll be fine, I just worry… it’s only 3 weeks away now! Aagh. But that’s really reasurring, I appreciate it.