(Closed) Soap Opera Style Friend Drama – Very Long

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I invite Nancy to the wedding?
    Ditch her - It's time to face reality : (27 votes)
    96 %
    Invite her - why can't we all just get along? : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I now you probably already know this, but being a diabetic has nothing to do wtih being an immature dramam queen. In fact, I resent her using her diabetes as an excuse for horrific behavior.

    I think inviting Nancy or maintaining any kind of relationship with her will only lead to future drama. I would break ties now to avoid more issues later.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1991 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Ummm…..basically…..the answer would be no.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5658 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I would not invite her and I would make sure your ushers tell her to leave if she shows up. She threatened to “burn down” your wedding. Sorry, but that alone is enough reason to not invite her, nevermind all the other stuff. With a friend like that, who needs enemies?

    Post # 6
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    503 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’m with the previous posters. I would just come outright and tell her I don’t want her drama. It doesn’t sound like there’s any particular reason to keep her around anyway.

    Post # 7
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    6893 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I wouldn’t invite her. Too much drama. And the whole “burn down your wedding” comment. Seriously?

    Post # 8
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    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think her actions clearly show that she is not your friend. Drama causing people like that just really aren’t worth having in your life. You said you’re not close with her anymore anyways so I say break the ties and don’t invite her to the wedding. 

    Post # 9
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    She sounds batshit crazy.  Don’t invite her and stay the hell away from her!!!

    Post # 11
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    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Wow, she sounds so sad. I wonder if she has been saying stuff like that to “Eva” because she would rather piss you off and make SURE she’s not invited than risk the emotional hurt of being left out. That said, I think you definitely shouldn’t invite her, but you also shouldn’t try to take some big stand against her, leaving her out of your life forever.

    I work with middle schoolers, and this sounds like the type of thing they go through (minus the marriages and babies, thank god!!). I always tell them to ask themselves if what they’re thinking of doing will cause more or less drama. In your case, writing her off forever is likely to cause a lot more drama, with her talking about you all over town, etc. I’d say if you are asked about it, explain that you are going through a hard time in your friendship right now. Be kind, because it seems like she is leading a kind of desperate life.

    Post # 12
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    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    She lashed out on your FI for no reason, he asked you not to invite her, she is not a good friend, and the list goes on and on…So why do you want to invite this woman to your wedding? I’m sorry I just don’t get it.

    Post # 13
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    2321 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @bikinihoneymoon: I wonder if she has been saying stuff like that to “Eva” because she would rather piss you off and make SURE she’s not invited than risk the emotional hurt of being left out.

    I think the above to be true about her as well. She definitely has no self-esteem. Friendship (or lack thereof) is no reason to invite her. Would you want to provide a good meal, beverages, and entertainment for someone who even ‘jokes’ about burning down your wedding? Those are toxic comments any which way you look at it. In other words, ditch the b*tch!

    Post # 14
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    64 posts
    Worker bee

    Don’t invite her!!! Anyone that says that they are going to burn down your wedding does not deserve the honor of attending your wedding. And honestly I doubt she has the balls to actually do anything. She’s probably just talking a big game to sound cool. Leave her out. I know you feel bad bc you are odviously a good person and a good friend but the older you get you have to weed out the “friends” in your life that cause more bad than good. This would be a good time to start with this crazy nutbag. GL with everything!!!

    Post # 15
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    just because people know each other a long time, doesn’t make them still your friend.  Friends want the best for you and help you get there.  This chick wants to burn it all down for you… move on

    Post # 16
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    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I am too with the others when I say don’t invite her. From what you’ve said in your post, it sounds like she isn’t much of a friend to anyone anyway, and top of that you said you aren’t that close anymore. These people who create drama aren’t worth keeping in your life, and as much as you want them to, they never change.

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