(Closed) sobfest

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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8354 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are having to stress about this, but I do think that offering your guests coffee, tea, and plates for desert would be a good thing. I thought coffee and tea would be a waste at our wedding and I had to be talked into offering it. I am glad I was talked into it because a lot of our guests drank it. As for the plates, guests appreciate having something stable to put their desert on.

Try to breathe, and I know this is easier said than done, but try not to stress about things. Everything will work out 🙂

Post # 5
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5106 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs. Meowerson: I have no advice because I think in one way or another we all go through this. And you just have to push through. Weddings make people bat-shit crazy.

I’m so sorry, you can sob on my shoulder anytime. PM if you ever need to vent, I have a FMIL who drives me crazy on the daily.

((((hugs))))

Post # 6
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2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Poor you. If it’s any consolation, I’m sure that the party will be a success, plates or no plates, desserts or no desserts, _____ or no _____. Fill in the blanks, it’s still true. Hang in there.

Post # 8
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ha. Get a Keurig or Nespresso machine. Let guests make their own coffee at a “coffee bar.” 😉

I’m sorry! i”m sure it will be a great time once you get there.

Post # 9
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410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Mrs. Meowerson: I have a pushy mom and FMIL too. Sorry you’re dealing with all of that stress.

Can you tell your mom and FMIL to pick up the slack on all this extra planning they are insisting on?  If it were me, and I know everyone’s family relationships are different, I would be saying something along the lines of “If you want to add all these extra things that’s fine, but you need to call the caterer then, here’s the number….” Then I would probably also let her know that she’s driving me crazy and making a special occaision annoying and unbearable, and that I don’t even want to come anymore. LOL But, my mom and I fight like that and get over it 10 min later. My family is very emotional.

Post # 10
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Mrs. Meowerson: ((hugs to you!)) That’s got to be so frustrating. I agree with the PPs, some things you just have to roll with, even when they’re making the simplest of parties a complete PITA. I would do like the PP above me stated, and give them the info to the caterer and let them know that if they want x,y, and z (and ONLY those things, don’t give free reign) then they need to arrange it. Just call your caterer and tell them you’re authorizing only xyz, and if FMIL calls to discuss the details and that she is the one to do the pickup/dropoff, etc.

The wedding is about two families, but as long as you’re inviting them both, you’re good in my eyes. I don’t think that they should be able to pushy and change your party plans due to the way they’d prefer to do it…they can throw a dessert and coffee shower for you. ((hugs again, I’m riled up for you!))

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