(Closed) So….do I throw my own engagement party or what? *Etiquette?*

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

We almost threw our own in NYC, it was going to be an engagement beer tasting party for local friends and family. But when we contacted some venues and realized just how expensive it is that idea was thrown out the window. Our apartment is absolutely not big or nice enough to have a decent party either and we weren’t willing to spend several thousand dollars (every venues minimum) for just a couple of hours.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We threw our engagement party – bridal party and family live far away – for our friends and basically said it’s an engagement party but gifts are not expected.  It really just turned out to be a cookout at our house with our friends, which was awesome for us. 

I think as long as you don’t make it about gifts then it’s okay to do it yourself 🙂

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

@staceynrick: I also had a friend who lives in a really nice building with an ‘event’ space and I felt bad asking her to reserve it for my party, I didn’t want to take advantage. But I honestly had no problem throwing my own engagement party, it was going to have the beer tasting theme and we were going to hire an expert to do the tastings and everything.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think the whole idea that someone is suppose to “throw it for you” is kind of stupid. No one I know or am close to has the time or organizational skills to do it. It’s been five months into our engagement and today I decided to plan my own. Having it at my future in laws house since it’s bigger than our house and we’re going to play pool in their basement with some friends and family. I guess it’s just a regular house party but we are having it to celebrate our love!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

ya i would do it if i wanted to! Have people over and bring in some food! Why not it is a great reason to celebrate!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Fiance and I threw it ourselves. It was a really great informal time!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011 - Calgary Opera Centre

I’m glad you asked that question, because I’m feeling the same way. There’s tons of people here that I would invite, but I don’t think anyone who would spontaneously say “I’m going to throw you guys an engagement party!”

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

I WISH I threw my own, but never did…. DO IT!!!!  This is the one time in life you get to celebrate this… don’t let it slip away like I did!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree, my mom hosted oen for us (for out families and a few close friends) and we are having one of our own for our friends too. We are taking care of the planning and hosting it at our house but we had my MOH listed as the RSVP (for those who might think it is weird thatwe would host for ourselves) she lives out of town so it seemed natural to do it at our place.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you truely want an “etiquette” answer – then the answer is no, you don’t throw your own engagement party unless you are using it to announce your engagement.  But “etiquette” seems to be antiquated in some circles.

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