- 9 years ago
Thank you to all of you who responded to my "ironic twist" post. I found so much comfort on here when I was dealing with the mixed emotions about my roommate’s engagement and my boyfriend’s plan being altered because of it. I haven’t told my roommate about that little story yet….I’m not sure if I ever will — would you?
My boyfriend and I never argued about it at all – had to have a serious talk so we were on the same page, but that’s it. I told him to wait at least a month, which is around this weekend actually. He really respected that and understood. I also made sure that he knew I wanted him to do it how HE wanted to – if that meant waiting longer, so be it. I don’t want him to change plans to fit some timeline. Well, he kept pestering me to check our schedules since this month is INSANE with my roommate’s graduate graduation, a big event for a team that I coach, end of the school year (my boyfriend and I are both teachers), and everything else! Next month I’m jumping back into grad school and he’s teaching summer school – it’s obvious that he’s getting nervous about even finding a good time to do this secret plan.
We’ve made plans to go away in 2 more weeks…going camping – one of our favorite things to do together. He always is joking to me that this (the engagement) is so hard for him – not because it’s scary or intimidating, but because since we’re best friends, he wants to tell me everything. This is the first time that he’s had to deliberately keep something from me. He is so hilariously terrible about keeping a secret from me. I went to his place and was helping him move something – he freaked out and started saying quickly "don’t go in the closet don’t go there don’t go there!!" Now, I didn’t have plans to go in there ….but now it’s killing me!! I don’t know if it’s the ring or something else related to whatever he has in mind. One thing he was big on was picking the ring himself – he knows what I like, but he wanted to be really romantic and do that part himself.
Even though I really wanted to be surprised, we had talked about marriage – we knew it was coming. Now that he’s a terrible liar (but that’s one of the things I love about him 🙂 ) I have a very strong hunch that our trip is something big…how do I act?? He probably knows that I figured it out…but I’m not planning to say anything. I’m so excited, but nervous, I want to go now but I don’t want it to be over, either – time is going too fast and too slow at the same time! Anyone had a strong feeling when it was coming (a trip, holiday, etc coming up) and can help me deal with this? Again – thank you girls for your support – I don’t know what I would have done without this site the past few weeks!
Haha…watch him completely blindside me with some other plan. *Sighs and laughs*