Soldered rings and OCD – haha

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1349 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Jessiann79:  Mine isn’t exactly perfect and if I think about it or look at it too much, it drives me insane!!  I have to just try to ignore it and tell myself there is perfection in imperfection.  🙂

Post # 4
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1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Jessiann79:  OMG YES. I don’t have my rings soldered, but I think this is relevant.

I have an antiques style halo. A few weeks after I got it, I noticed that the halo wasn’t even all the way around… There was a dip on one side! I took it back to the store, where they agreed and sent it away to get fixed. They honestly didn’t do a good job fixing it, it was still crooked. I had to send it away 4 times. Now it’s aaaalmost straight, but I can still see where it’s not EXACTLY perfect. Nobody else would notice it now, and I admit it’s very very slight. It doesn’t bother me as much now, but if I think about it lots it drives me nuts!

So I get you, totally! I hope they do an awesome job fixing it up. 🙂

Post # 6
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2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Jessiann79:  we just got our bands today, and mine is curved to match my ring. I swear the band matches up better on one side of my e-ring than the other (and they aren’t soldered). If it’s uneven, it is so insignificant you can’t tell without closely examining the ring. I can’t decide if it bothers me or not. I started to mention it to FI and it was stressing him out that I might not be happy with my ring. So he quoted a magnet we have on our fridge “Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful.” And I think that totally applies to our rings! They may have little imperfections, but they are still wonderful!

Post # 8
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3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Jessiann79:  I had my first wedding set soldered because it was driving me insane.I had a solitaire e-ring with channel set rounds in the band. Then the w-band also had channel set rounds. But neither were eternity and they would not sit perfectly together for more than 5 minutes. Once I had them soldered I was sooooooo happy, until I realized that the jeweler had exactly matched up the edges of the channels on one side and the other side was (quite literally) about a half a mm off. I hated it every second of the 5 years I wore that ring. lol. I have issues.

Post # 9
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2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Jessiann79:  FI couldn’t even tell when I pointed it out to him. I think we just need to embrace the imperfections. I have an inclusion in my sapphire, and I’m the only one who knows/notices. At first I was disappointed that it wasn’t hidden under a prong. But then I realized it’s a way to identify it as mine. I think the best thing to do is find a way to put a positive spin on the imperfections, and you’ll learn to love them!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mine were soldered with perfection. 

Post # 11
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8603 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

My rings are soldered and I love it! But yeah im a perfectionist too!..my ring is a halo and there is a tiny gap on both sides of my center diamond..it drives me insane!! Really my only option is to get a bigger diamond to fill in the gaps because I do not want to ulter my halo in any way. My husband says he doesn’t see any gaps so I guess its just me being ocd!

Post # 12
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Jessiann79:  I am also OCD and it also drives my FI nuts Haha. My wedding band, which everyone tells me is beautiful, is so imperfect it’s driving me crazy. It’s not a perfect circle, it’s a bit more oval at the top, I’m the only one who can see it it’s that slight, but still, it drives me crazy. I really just need to get over it and realise there are more pressing issues in life haha. 

Post # 13
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2738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Totally understand! When I previously had a straight wedding band, I had it soldered and it came back crooked. Seriously?! I tried hard to love it but it bothered me. I had it redone and it still wasn’t perfect but it was much better. I try to see imperfections as a form of beauty…

Check out this Japanese view on esthetics and imperfections: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wabi-sabi 

Lots to learn from other world views!

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