Soldiers lying about their ranks

posted 3 years ago in Military
Post # 3
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have (thankfully) never met anyone who’s done this, although I did have one guy (and his girlfriend) from highschool on my friends list who’s a Marine and that’s ALL he talks about. As an Army brat whose parents served in Kuwait, it really gets me going when people do that. “GUYS I’M IN THE MILITARY I’M SUPER COOL PAY ATTENTION TO ME! I’M A HERO!” Yeah, no, you just like to put on your dress uniform and post a million pictures. We had a couple of guys from our class who were killed in Iraq, so why he would even do that, I don’t know. For the attention, I guess?

In your case, I’m willing to bet that it was all talk because he had a crush on you (still does?) and wants you to see how awesome he is now. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My husband was injured in the military and NEVER talks about his army experience. You’d have to hang out with him quite a bit for him to even mention it, and when he does, he never tells the “cool” (in my eyes) stuff. He also can’t really talk about a lot of it (classified), so I don’t even know the real story about how he was injured. 

I do know some people who were/are actually in the military who talk about it A LOT (especially on FB), but for the mostpart, I think your FI is right that the people who actually have stories/scars/experience don’t often talk about it. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I work around military soldiers and the only people who “brag a little” are usually full bird colonels or generals, but even that’s rare. Yeah, that’s not cool. And National Guardsmen are already seen as “less than” so he really should keep his trap shut.

Post # 7
Hostess
15072 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My whole family (huge family) is military and in every branch, some were in “special” parts. They never brag, never talk about missions or “scars” and some of the older ones will even go as far any deny what units they were in so they don’t feel the pressure to talk about it. The only ones that talk to me about their service duties, is my brother and uncle (he’s more like my brother as my parents raised him) and they are careful what they say even to me. 

The ones that lie and brag, in my experience, have self esteem issues and they probably are not the best fit for full time military duty. A family member calls it “Hero Syndrome”. There is always the guys who want so badly to be the hero soldier but just don’t have what it takes. It’s sad. They really have no idea that they are shooting themselves in the foot, but in the long run, it’s better that command know before these guys have a chance to put someone’s life at risk. I know I’ve turned in a few braggards who showed up at bars in full dress to their commands. These guys could be risking my family’s lives, it’s not worth the risk to me. 

Post # 10
Hostess
15072 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Silly_love:  They will once in a while tell the funny stories, but never bragging or mission related. 

My favorite red flag, and I’ve heard this more times than I can count, is: “Oh, my old Commander called me and asked me to get back in” umm, yeah, you moron, that just doesn’t happen. I especially love it when they do it at the bar with a bar full of real vets. Oh man does that usually not go well for them. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My DH is in a Captain in the Army National Guard and went to Ranger School (with full time army guys) while in the National Guard.  ..I’m not saying this is the case with your High School friend, but it IS possible to be a Ranger (wear Ranger tab) and be in National Guard. 

That being said.. your friend could possibly be in Ranger Battalion (I think there’s only one of these in the US), and not have a ranger tab.. its possible, but unlikely 🙂

National Guard deploys just like regular Army does (not as frequently tho, but DH was in Iraq in 2009 and could be going back any time now).  They train for military AND have full time jobs like the rest of us, so in my opinion work twice as hard 🙂

Just trying to give some love to the NG soldiers out there, some of them work so hard!  In this case your friend DOES sound like he’s trying to show off. Pity how some people can lie about their ranks when others work so hard to actually achieve them like your FI!

He never really talks about his time in Country, but I do love hearing some of the funny stories from training or about his guys that do stupid stuff on a daily basis.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Silly_love:  You can’t lie about rank just because of uniform! Their uniform gives it away every time 🙂 Here in the Air Force you only hear the pilots brag, the biggest joke is that you know they are a pilot before you even know their name (ha!) In AFROTC you hear people brag about being in the military even though we are just all cadets with no rank. It was the same back in high school when kids wanted to join but hadn’t signed with MEP’s yet. I think it is common for people to lie about rank while in the process of trying to join. DH’s old friend from elementary school started texting him and said he was going into basic as a E5! DH worked in an office the whole time he was deployed and we got to talk more than most people do but other than how his day was going but never bragged….Even our friend who is in the Marines just says what happens over seas stays over seas. 

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