Post # 1
Okay all… question…
Do you ever see a post where a Bee is super excited about her dress, and they ask for your honest opinion but you look at it objectively and see that maybe it isn’t the best for her body shape/type/etc???
So you sit and remain quiet?
This happens to me, so I am wondering if it happens to anyone else? mostly I LOVE the gowns the bees pick out, however, sometimes I come across some that just aren’t flattering, if this happens to you, do you tell them? I mean, I do not know them, so I do not feel comfortable saying “uhm, excuse me, perhaps this isn’t the most flattering for you”
Just wondering. Would you want an objective stranger to let you know that perhaps your dress may not be the best for you? Not that it would change your mind… but you know what i mean?
Post # 3
@Ronneykay: I know the feeling. I only say something if they are asking for an opinion though. Otherwise, I usually X out of the thread.
Post # 4
If someone is asking for an opinion, I will give it… But if someone is just saying “Hey! Here is my dress and I LOVE it!!” Then I keep quiet.
Sometimes if I am tired or grumpy I will not comment rather than post an opinion that might be seen as rude rather than constructive : )
Post # 5
if i see a bride and dress and think ugggh i usually keep quite and not post – but ive only thought that in a very few handful of threads. only one comes to mind where i was good god woman, hell no but i still kept that opinion to myself
Post # 6
Thanks ladies;) that is what I was thinking.
Yes this has happened a handful of times, I can think of 4 right off the bat. Dresses that the Bees were/are very happy with, however, hrmmm, not so much (at least in my opinion) and I didn’t say anything.
So “honest” opinions are just null and void here in my book, because I do not want to crush anyones dream.
However, my friends are totally different. My best friend Stacy got married this last year and was trying on dresses, she really liked one of them… however, I saw it and I was like “girl, you look like a drag queen, take that off” LOL… She went with a much more beautiful classy dress that fit her ceremony and her personality. I am so glad she did not pick that other dress.
Anyhow, I guess I am just honest like that with my friends, but do not want to give my “honest” opinion here… Go figure!
Post # 7
i think that when i post my ideas whether it be dress or anything else, if i don’t get many replies i assume bee’s don’t like so don’t comment rather than commenting honestly. i’m not sure how i would take the honesty…. depends on how it’s written….. rude comments are in fact just that so they would not be welcomed but if someone said….. i think you’d look lovely in ________________ then i would see that as constructive critism instead. i kinda of hope my dress isn’t one of these you mention is i love my dress but i have only tried on a small few…. so maybe you constructive critism would mean i looked more and was able to find something better. i don’t think any of my fellow bee’s would comment just to be rude but because they truely thought they were aiding in my ulitmate goal of looking the best that i could. the one thing that is hard about commenting is that very little of a brides personality is known, you may think oh stokiegal your dress is lovely but is it maybe a bit traditonal and your only 27 have you thought of something more so and so….. the reasons for my dress choice could be that i am resevered (i’m not) i actuall want something that covers all my body flaws and that dress did just that.
apologies if i’ve rambled or gone of point… i hope you get what i’m saying….
Post # 8
my personal opinion, for example, if a bee hasn’t decided on “the dress” and they show a couple that they have tried on, I will state my opinion on which one I like; but if a bee has found “the dress” their glow of being so happy about it out weighs my personal opinion. I feel like a lot of it has to do with personal taste. someone may not like my dress, but i love it, and as the bride that’s most important. Not only does someone feel beatiful on their wedding, but also confident!
Post # 9
@stokieGal not that it matters but i really honestly truely love ur gown (sorry for th grammar on my phone) ur dress is very pretty:}
Post # 11
There have definitely been times where I have opened a thread and thought that the bride picked the WRONG dress. Normally, if it’s already been bought and she’s happy with it, I just back out and don’t say anything. I’m not about to post a fake reply about how I love it, but I’m not going to comment that I don’t either.
If she’s making a choice and wants an honest opinion, I try to give mine in the most tactful way possible. I usually try to form my opinions as constructive criticism.
Post # 15
Usually if I’m really thinking “Oh girl, no” I just click out.
But most of the time I’ll point out the positives and then make a suggestion about another design elements that might not work.
More often than not I think brides tend to overstyle themselves. It’s like they have all these things they like and try to cram them all in on one dress since they are only going to be wearing it once. So most of my advice tends to be in the “less is more” category. You don’t need head to toe jewelry, tiara, veil, bows, ruching, corset, ruffles, layers, lace, feathers, big flower appliques, beading, sequins and a see through bodice all on the same dress.
Post # 16
I think it is very hard to try and not break someone’s heart and to read into what they are really asking, as so many times they are hoping that the majority of opinions will be leaning towards the one they love.
I also think sometimes its a little easier to be objective and strictly look at the overall style on a body as opposed to actually knowing the person and their personal style or quirks or personality and to give an opinion.
Polls make it easier and are less harsh.