- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Sorry in advance. This might get long.
My Aunt was a tremendous help throughout the wedding planning process. She did a lot of my stationary stuff and I am beyond grateful. She is very anal about stuff and it drives me insane. ex. I told my mom, stepmom and grandmother I was going to pay to get their hair done. I have been going to this stylist for over 10 years. I completely trust her. My aunt lives in a different part of the country and said the stylist here do hair differently. I agreed with her and told her this lady is just like back home. She wanted me to get pictures and such for her to look at to make sure she liked her work before she let my Groomsmen go to her. Never sent her the pics, so Groomsmen didn’t go to her. Mom and stepmom loved their hair and said if they were living here she would definitely be their stylist.
We bumped heads over petty stuff thoughout the process.
- My usherettes all worked the day before the wedding and got off at 5 that morning. I suggested that the coordinator place the programs on the seats that way its less stuff for them to do. She disagreed because she said that guest will say they didn’t receive one. I told her the usheretts can give them one on their way in and the still say the didn’t receive one.
- I told the usherettes after everyone was seating for dinner they were allowed to drink and party. She was against this because she said someone might need to use the restroom and that they should be available to direct them there. I told her since everything was at the same location and by dinner time everyone would’ve been there at least 2 hours and I’m sure someone at the table would’ve been to the restroom and could tell them. The waitstaff would also be able to direct them.
Like I said petty stuff. If she is upset with you, she will stop speaking to you until she feels like she is ready to speak to you again. Now, that can be a week, a month, several months there is no telling. You can call her every day for a month and she wouldn’t return your calls.
So there was a lot of misunderstandings the day before the wedding. Like me asking my usherette do to something as opposed to a family member doing it. My reason is because none of my family lives here. It was easier me having my usherettes do it because they know the area. Most of them were born here. With family it would be me trying to give directions or find out the address so they could put it in the GPS and stuff. So as far as my Aunt is concerned, I was acting like I don’t need them so she has stopped speaking to me. My cousin which is her daughter was my Maid/Matron of Honor and I guess she had to pick sides so she went with her mom.
My usherettes were the BEST! They are my employees, and one had only worked there for about 2 months but since the others were usherettes and I had another dress I asked her to become one as well. Even my Bridesmaid or Best Man were raving about how great my usherettes were.
My 2 adult cousins who are sisters were traveling together along with their kids to the wedding. So that was a total of 6 people. They wanted to know if a female friend could come along. I told them no. At that time I was above my numbers. Day of I had a lot of no shows but how would I have known? When most of my Out of Town guest had arrived, I stopped by everyones room, including theirs just to say hello and thank them for coming.
After we were annouced at the reception, we did our first dance and the pastor blessed the meal. It was buffet and I told my Darling Husband let’s go around to all the tables before we eat to thank everyone for coming. I had two friends that I know couldn’t stay for whole reception so I wanted to try to speak to everyone. Apparently I missed my cousins table. Finally we made it back to our table and I left to change into my second gown. I came back my food was cold I got my drink on and started dreaking it down on the dance floor then the next thing I know my dad is pulling me and telling me I need to go speak to my cousins because they are upset that I didn’t come to their table. I told my dad it was an honest mistake and I don’t understand how I could’ve missed them. So I went straight over there I didn’t let them know my dad said anything to me and I thank them for coming and all that good stuff. And they were calling me back out on the dancefloor. I guess I didn’t spend enough time at their table so they are pissed and not talking to me!
I was so stressed out the week of the wedding I broke out and had to get a shot. MY Darling Husband exwife decided to play a guilt trip on his son so he backed out of the wedding, my bouquet was ugly and everyone agreed, my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were ugly and we agree on that too, I was there on time and my Out of Town guest were there on time but my local guest kept getting lost because the venue wasn’t showing up on GPS and its not a popular location so I had to wait for more people to get there, as we were getting ready to line up my flower girl threw up on one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man, outside ceremony and reception and the temperature dropped, the wind got so high that everyone was freezing and my floral arrangements for the ceremony had to be taken down cause the wind kept knocking them over, the lovely centerpieces kept getting knocked over as well so it had to be taken down too before the reception. I had 60 no shows which I couldn’t tell at the ceremony but could surely tell at the reception with the empty tables. With all the drama, I was still as calm as can be. Even my coordinator asked if I had taken something because I was so calm. I didn’t yell, cry, nothing. I smiled and joked about everything. Now, they won’t speak to me!
Just venting. I guess it is what it is. I can’t change the way people feel.