(Closed) Some friendly adivce / tips needed (blowjobs)

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
Hostess
18623 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have a bit of a sensitive gag reflex.  You best friend will be your hands.  Put a hand or two around the base of his penis, this keeps it from going in deep.  Most blow jobs aren’t full on deep throating like they show in porn.  Using your tongue to draw different patterns on the head of his penis or right underneath it, those are the most sensitive areas.

Post # 5
Member
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It seems like different guys like it different ways. I am sure your guy can help you out there. But I remember being really confused why they call it a blowjob….lol you don’t really blow on it. lol. But yes, I agree with playing with the head with your tongue and the use of your hands. I have TMJ (my jaw can lock up if I am not careful) and useing the hands really helps!!

Post # 6
Member
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

pretend it’s a delicious popsicle and lick/suck accordingly.

 

*the rum is talking, I cannot be held responsible*

Post # 7
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1177 posts
Bumble bee

Pay attention to your breathing, definitely. Because you may have your airway blocked at one point and you don’t want to panic.

I also have a sensitive reflex, and one thing I do is make sure I get at a certain angle to where it just goes straight back so it doesn’t really touch too much. Mine used to be even more sensitive, but if you pace yourself it really can help.

Post # 8
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1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Definitely get your hands involved. Use the moisture from your mouth as lubrication and go down the shaft with your mouth and hand at the same time (if that makes sense). He’ll like it, and using your hand for assistance will keep your mouth/jaw from getting tired too quickly. 

Don’t feel like you have to go all the way down with your mouth. You can use your hands for that part. The tip is the most sensitive part (like the clitoris). 

You did right by asking your FI to show you what he likes. Every guy really is different, so he’ll be able to tell you better than anyone else. If he’s not very forthcoming with what he likes, pay attention to how he responds to different things you’re doing. 

Post # 9
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1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You don’t need to deep throat it like on porn, you can use your hands too and like a PP mentioned, doing different things with your tongue….I know some guys also like their umm…balls…licked, and theres this part right below the balls that I guess is like a G-spot for women, you can give that a little rub with your fingers. Lol but all men are different so ask your DH what he likes best…

Post # 10
Member
1330 posts
Bumble bee

How to give a great blowjob

Stroke his member slowly withsaliva or lube in your hands to get him aroused

Gently run your tongue up flat along each side of his member, teasing him slightly

Stay away from the head of the penis at first-tease him a little bit, giving it gently laps, or brushing your lips on it

gently hold the penis at the base, applying some pressure but not tooooo much just yet

gently rub the base of the penis up and down, stroking him gently as you continue to carress and lick him, looking him in the eyes, talk dirty to him if you feel comfortable (like, tell him it looks so hot, his c* is getting so big, you want to make him c* all over your lips, whatever floats your boat)

Wait until he starts to get fully aroused, then start lowering your mouth around his head, gently letting your lips wrap around him, making sure no teeth get involved, and keeping your tongue wrapped along the bottom

Move your mouth up and down, like sucking a popsicle kindof…focusing your tongue along the base

Start moving your tongue towards the frenulum (sensitive part under the shaft) and start applying firmer pressure t othe base as you continue to gently stroke, as he appears more aroused

steadily increase your strokes..faster…work him up..moan a little or make some mmmmm noises, like you LOVE it…

Watch his pelvis…most guys when they are going to cum start thrusting..you can easily barf at this point if they hit that gag reflex, so make sure your hand is on the base…you take it away and he grinds into your throat…watch out

Imagine your mouth like its your vagina…welcome him in, keep it sloppy and moist…

the cumming part-okay, swallowing the first time around might be a bit out there, so if he is getting super worked up, ask him if he is going t ocum all over your chest, or have some sort of pre-bj talk of what to do with his ejaculation…

Try to relax..maybe a glass of wine or two prior.

Oh, and wear a sexy bra and heels, lay on your tummy while he lays on his back (you get more control like this) and he sees your face, the sexy bra, and a heel dangling from your foot in the distance.

 

 

Post # 11
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11287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

at first, i like to use just my tongue on the tip of his head to tease him.  go around in circles, flick the tongue.  then when he is not expecting it, i engulf his head in my mouth.  i know he loves it b/c he moans with pleasure every time.  then begins the stroking with my hand and mouth.

make sure your mouth is kept moist with saliva and keep his member moist with your saliva too.  nothing worse than dry on dry.  ouch.

good luck, have fun and hope he enjoys it.

 

Post # 12
Member
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@mypinkshoes:  ok yeah, I do this. The surprise engulf, lol.

Post # 13
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20 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Definitely use your hand(s) to stabilize, and you’ll be fine.. and this advice comes from someone who accidentally puked in the sink last week after getting a bit too zealous with her toothbrush. I wish I were joking. Never fear, though.. there is still hope for those of us easy gaggers.. or should I say hope for our men? 😉

Post # 16
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1128 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MrsHoneyC:  Mine stays pretty moist, you shouldn’t have a problem with that…it gets so wet for me that it drips lol gross I know but DH likes it that way…if you don’t feel comfortable making eye contact the first few times don’t do it. I don’t always do it, and honestly DH is so busy concentrating on what I’m doing he usually isn’t paying attention. I can do the job in about 3-5 minutes so theres not much time to think about things 😉 You’ll do fine!

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