Some girl at work said my engagement ring was "too much"

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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1190 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs_BunInTheOven:  screw her and her opinion. It’s gorgeous, it’s your ring. It’s what FI chose for you. Some people don’t like diamonds at all, some like small stones, some like big stones ala celebrity style. 

I love it! Do you love it?

Post # 4
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525 posts
Busy bee

@Mrs_BunInTheOven:  lol no it’s beautiful. Women who make comments like that are clearly insecure, jealous, or they have zero filtering abilities. Either way, brush it off. If you love it, who cares what she thinks?

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It’s beautiful. I love me some halo… on other people. But if I were to put it on my hand, then it would be “too much.” I’m a simple and clean kind of girl. Everyone has different tastes. Try not to let that person’s startled reaction (clearly she needs a better filter) ruin your enjoyment of your ring.

Post # 6
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Um it is totally gorgeous! She is obviously sick with jealousy!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs_BunInTheOven:  Wow, how rude of her.  I think it’s gorgeous and not too blingy, it’s perfect.  Your opinion is the only one that matters.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

“Too much” is relative and I personally don’t think your ring is. I do think that her lack of tact is a bit “too much” though.

Post # 9
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603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

First off, congratulations on your recent marriage! Second, your ring is stunning an perfect! Don’t let what she says bother you, obviously it’s her own insecurities showing their ugly face. Right now just enjoy the blissful moment of being a newlywed!

Post # 10
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1125 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

It was probably just not her style, no biggie… she could be more tactful about it though.

I think your ring is beautiful, although it wouldn’t my fingers or my lifestyle. it would be “too much” for me, but I have a very understated set that would be “not enough” for most especially since we could afford much more bling but chose to travel and pay off our mortgage instead.

You love it, it’s beautiful, be proud of it! You’re the one wearing it, not her!

Post # 11
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Mrs_BunInTheOven:  too much… Beauty! Lol. People are so rude. I’d be like ” no need to be jealous honey, I’m sure you will get a nice ring someday”

Post # 12
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477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s lovely and looks beautiful on your hand.  And I’m not just saying that to make you feel better.

She was being very rude, especially since it doesn’t sound like you directly asked her for her opinion.  Obviously she has never heard of the adage, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.”  Do I smell jealousy?

CONGRATULATIONS!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i don’t think it’s too much at all.  i love it!!

besides, the only person who has to love it, is you.

Post # 14
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Newbee

@Mrs_BunInTheOven:  What?? That ring is the PERFECT size for your finger. Honestly some people just make weird faces that I don’t think even they know that they’re making. Maybe it was tinged with jealousy? Or it reminded her of something personal in her own life? I was looking at some rings earlier and I saw a 42 carat gem! Now THAT’s too much. lol. Your ring is lovely and elegant. 🙂 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper

“Too much” is  relative and a matter of taste.  It would be a lot of bling for me, personally, since I favor understated and simple settings,  but obviously it’s perfect for you and that is all that counts.  That woman was way out of line.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

@Mrs_BunInTheOven: Honestly, it is all relative. Like, your ring is stunning. Absolutely gorgeous; I would never deny that. On the other hand, do I say that while knowing that no matter how much money my SO could afford to splurge on a ring, I would never in a million years wear your ring? Yes.

It is a gorgeous ring, but it isn’t for me nor is it my taste. Like your co-worker, I feel like that ring is too much… For me. I would feel uncomfortable wearing something so showy because I’m not a showy person. So her telling you it is too much shouldn’t bother you because I’m sure she is speaking from the perspective of whether she would or would not wear your ring. I will say, though, that the snarky b—- has no place being so blunt, rude,  and just straight up obnoxious. Absolutely no tact or filter. Maybe even a small twinge of jealousy. Who knows. The point is, “too much” is a relative term. What may be too much for her, is obviously not too much for you since I’m sure you love your ring. As long as you adore it, that is all that matters. Just smile and say “well, it is a good thing that you’re not the one that has to wear it then if that is your opinion,” and leave it at that.

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