Post # 1
I originally posted this in “reception” but it was suggested that I try here instead (apologies if you’re reading this twice!). So I’m looking for some help regarding our quickly-turing-out-of-control reception. Quick backstory; my parents live in NY and when Fiance and I got engaged, it was just kind of assumed that that’s where we’d have the wedding. I’m totally happy with this in theory as I LOVE NY, but as we’ve started looking at venues for the reception, I’ve been totally floored by how expensive this is getting. My mom keeps telling me that “money is no object for her only daughter”, but we’re up to $50,000 already and I really can’t justify spending that much money for one night. She keeps telling me that as long as I’m happy it doesn’t matter how much she spends. But honestly, I can’t be happy knowing they’re spending that much and I’m a poor lowly graduate student so I don’t have a ton to contribute (if she’d even let me).
My question–does any one know of a really nice, classy venue in Manhattan, the outer bouroughs, or in Nassau county, LI (we’re getting married at a church in the Bronx) that’s around $100-$150 a head and would be suitable for only around 100 people or less? The actual per head price is flexible, but the 100 people or less is really the key. I’ve searched a bunch online, but most places have a 200 person minimum for a weekend night and/or are $200+ a head. I’ve GOT to be missing something, but I’m in school in New Husband so it’s very hard to get down to NY to even scout out venues! Please help?!
Post # 3
Hmm..trying to think of the places I looked at – Are you open to a Friday night? Have you looked at:
Astra – smaller venues, but has a nice wraparound balcony with beautiful views of Manhattan
You are right..the city is soooo expensive…I will let you know if I think of anywhere else!
Post # 4
@lauren810c: Thanks!!! I’ll check those out. We’re totally open to a Friday or Sunday wedding, or to something in Queens–Long Island City would be awesome because of the views, but Water’s Edge is the only place I could find and it’s expensive and run-down looking to me.
Post # 5
Hmm I would check out Alger House, The Foundry (in LIC), The River Cafe, 620 Loft and Gardens, Hotel Giraffe…there are a ton of options!
NY Mag was super helpful when I was looking:
Post # 6
Try Giando’s on the Water in Williamsburg. That’s where I got married! I also looked at Water’s Edge and thought it looked run down. Giando’s has amazing views and great service!
I have a ton more pics, but I haven’t resized them yet. Let me know if you have any questions about Giandos! We had 150 people, at $120 per person before tax and gratuity. I know they have other banquet packages to choose from as well.
Post # 7
Definitely consider a Friday or Sunday wedding if possible, your guest minimums (as well as your pp costs) will be lower.
If I were having a smaller wedding I would have loved the Foundry – with your numbers you wouldn’t need to tent the courtyard, which would help with costs, and choose an inexpensive caterer.
I think 24 Fifth would also be suitable for a party of your size and as I recall the pp costs were quite reasonable for NYC.
Since you’re getting married in the Bronx, have you checked out the Stone Mill at the NY Botanical Gardens? I believe their max is 100.
Post # 8
Ahh you guys are great! Thank you thank you! Keep the suggestions coming!! 😀
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
ditto the NY Mag website – also, you may consider restaurants – those numbers are much closer to what a restaurant will often offer.
In Westchester, there is a gorgeous and delicious restaurant right on the water called Harvest on Hudson.
Post # 10
Take a look at Bayard’s. The packages start really reasonable for NYC and the higher package which includes a more robust cocktail hour with stations etc, was like $155 pp on a Saturday night plus tax and fee (which is about 30% extra in NYC). The total cost was like $195 pp for the high end or like $167 for the lower end (limited open bar and no food stations at cocktail hour) but again for a Saturday night with open bar the $155 was pretty dam good for NYC. I loved it but it was too small for us ultimately.
Post # 11
ps. Bayard’s in in Manhattan in the Financial District close to south street seaport…