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Let me share a little story with all of you bees that happened this past weekend. My FI and I went on a double date with some friends of ours this weekend and while we were out, the boys wanted to go to Best Buy so our friends wife and I went to Kay Jewelers, just to look around. Ive been trying to get an idea of what I wanted, so I took a girl friend in for advice. When we got to the store, I noticed an aquaintance of mine from high school just so happened to work there. We chatted casually for a few minutes. She congratulated me on my engagement, etc. She asked to see my ring, so I proudly let her see! Here's how the conversation went from here...

Her: "Oh, so I see he went for the quad cut instead of springing for a full stone?"

Me: (Mildly in shock from her rudeness) "Yeah, but I still think it's just as beautiful"

Her: "Well, let me show you what your ring could look like if he would've gone for the full stone"

She pulled out a ring that, in her mind, was far more exquisite than mine. I smiled and replied "Oh wow, that's gorgeous. But I still love mine"

After putting the ring back in the case, she proceeded to tell me how I could "always upgrade in the future for something nicer" or their policy would allow me to trade in my engagement ring for "one more my style." Then, she went into a story about how she knew a girl that hated her engagement ring and actually came in without talking to her FI about the situation and traded in the one her FI gave her for one she preferred.

I wish I could say that was the end of her rudeness, however she continued to give me her 2 cents on what sort of wedding band I should choose. I had considered getting a solid white gold band.  She immediately told me that "wasn't the way to go" and that I needed to get 2 diamond bands, one for each side, to "spruce up" my ring. At that point, I had endured enough rudeness. Rather than say to her what was really on my mind and dignify her hatefulness with a response, I simply turned around and walked out of the store.

I wish I could say that she was joking as she said these things, but she wasn't. I found it very hurtful and insulting. My FI put a lot of thought into picking out my ring and to be honest with you, I wouldn't care if it was a piece of chicklet gum put into a setting because it came from him! And I think he did a great job! Needless to say I will NEVER be purchasing anything from her. The nerve of some people...

Thanks for listening to my vent. Just in case you're curious, I've attached a picture of this "not my style, not so nice" ring of mine, according to her implications of course.

Some ppl are rude but just keep in mind that she's not a good friend of urs but just an acquaintance so she has no motivation to be on "your side".  Moreover, she's a salesperson!!! She wants to capitalize on any girls who could be spending more $ on unnecessary crap. Especially if she has had experienced persuading other unfortunate girls who doubt their engagement rings, she was hoping that you'll fall for her sales pitch!

quad cut? i dont even know what that is. even when i googled image searched it, i couldn't see a difference. your ring is beautiful and if she would have said that to me, i would have said something even worse like "i can definitely upgrade my ring down the line, but it's a shame you can't upgrade your face"

okay, so maybe i'm just mean...

@jjilyeah - Thank you! & trust me, I was VERY tempted to. But I didn’t want to let her know that she had upset me, she’d probably enjoy that!

@tanbarbiedoll - Thank you! :]

@stahlkl - I know! If that’s her idea of making a sale, I wonder how she makes any money at all?! & Thank you!

@pren79 - You’re right. I feel bad for the girls she did persuade to doubt their rings. Rude people suck!

@Dancy - Basically, instead of a complete 1 carat stone, it’s 4 0.25 carat stones combined. But half the time you can’t even tell! But apparently your FI and mine have great taste!

@kittayachi - Thank you! And trust me, a few choice words almost slipped out!!

@MissHelen - Thanks so much!

@Noritake - I was very tempted to call her manager, but like I said, then she would’ve known she got to me and I didn’t want her to have that satisfaction. At the end of the day, I still love the ring my FI chose and she lost a customer! Haha, it’s a win win for me :D

Your ring is gorgeous and I cannot believe how rude your friend was. She ought to realize that not only was she rude, but that kind of behavior is the easiest way to lose business. You don't win people over by insulting them!! Sheesh! You are a class act and handled it very nicely. Good for you!

@jennhasfeet - I literally just LOL’d. I wish I would’ve thought of something like that!

@Kiki- Thank you!

@Tali - Haha, that’s hilarious about your sisters co-worker! Thanks so much for the kind words!

@julia - Thank you very much! I agree. I myself have worked in retail and I sure as heck never convinced a customer to purchase something by insulting them!

@cola - Thank you! And trust me, I will NEVER purchase anything from her.

@caszos - I agree. Hopefully no one else will buy from her!

@mink2 - Thank you! That's extremely rude of your friend as well! Who on earth is she to judge your FI or the ring that he chose to purchase for YOU?! But I agree. Each diamond is beautiful in it's own way and the ring is special to it's recipient. Feel free to vent any time!!

@KLP2010- I really am considering calling her manager now. The more I think about her attitude, the more it pisses me off!

HOW RUDE. I am horrified for you. I know my fiance put hours, literally hours of time into choosing the perfect ring for me. He was at the jewelry store for more than 8 hours over the course of 3 days making the perfect decision of what to get me. What makes my ring so perfect for me is that he did put so much thought and analysis into it.

How dare anyone suggest that a ring your finace lovingly chose for you should be changed or upgraded to something better or something you want when this ring was his gift to you. You know, I had the same issues with Kay even before I was engaged. I went there to look and check out some styles since I had never even tried on an e-ring before. Kay's did nothing but encourage me to get a big old fancy ring that wasn't my style and then continue to say "and with every anniversary you can get an upgrade" Now, I'm not implying that all Kays are like this. But really? I went to 3 different Kay's stores and every one of them said that I should exchange my e-ring (when I got it) to something I really want and then continue to upgrade it every year.

So, obviously, we went with a different jeweler. And I am so proud of all the effort and love my finace put into choosing my ring. Way to go for being proud of your man and your ring despite the rudeness you encountered!

@rawrkitty - That's so sweet of your FI to have put so much thought and effort into your ring! I'll bet it's beautiful! It amazes me the lack of sentiment some people have when it comes to things like engagement rings. To me, this ring is so much more than a material possession. It's a symbol of our love and everytime I look at it, I'm reminded of the day he proposed! I don't blame you for opting for another jeweler. I hope other people have had better experiences with Kay than you and I appear to have had!

@vintage2010- I thought it was a style myself, but apparently not in her mind! I told FI about it, for the reason you said, to warn him not purchase a band from her. Now, I regret it because his feelings were very hurt. It broke my heart. He said "Well, I thought I had chosen a good ring but apparently not" I felt awful! He knows I love it though, so that's all that matters :)

@laktolkr - Thank you! & That's great you're in nursing school! I'm a nurse, but I'm in school furthering my degree, so I can still relate to the nursing school part. It's definitely rewarding though! Good luck!!

omgomgomg! I can't believe you didnt punch her! you obviously have class. What a loser she is, I would call her manager and tell them the business they lost because of their awful sales person.

and your ring is gorgeous! stunning actually

What a rude bitch! I would definitely contact the store manager, and I wound't mention that you know her, I would just refer to her as "Rude Salesperson".

@mander – Thank you so much! I really appreciate it :]

@Nexus – My thoughts exactly! I probably will end up calling the manager

@mrsmdphd – Thanks so much! I agree, I wish there were more consequences for people like that as well.

@daydreamwanderer – I’m okay with her not being gushy and I completely understand that she was trying to make a sale. I just thought her manner was rude & I felt some of her comments could have been more politely expressed. I see what you mean though. Thanks for your input!

@teacherbride – Thank you so much! You have a very good point! :]

@yrett- Haha, that would’ve been great. I wish I was wittier!

Thank you all for your input and for giving me a place to vent!