(Closed) some people just don’t think before they speak…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
768 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Ugh! Sucky friends…BOO. I have a friend that I was really close with in college and even helped her FI plan his proposal (which was at my house) and because of their grad school situation they have a 2+ year engagement. When my FI proposed I of course called her and she was so unenthused! Then when I told her when we were getting married (5 months before her…because our school schedule doesn’t suck) she STOPPED TALKING TO ME for THREE MONTHS! Needless to say, she’s not in the WP. Now whenever we do talk it’s really awkward wedding planning stuff and she totally has a wet-noodle/martyr complex about how much suckier her wedding’s going to be! Anyway, yeah, I avoid her at all costs now. We used to be close, but I just can’t handle how degrading and “poor-me” she is all the time.

Post # 5
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7054 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d call her a “frenemy”.  She doesn’t really have your best interest in mind does she?  I’d keep her at an arms’ length b/c it seems she hasn’t had your best interest now for a few years.

Post # 6
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7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

gross!

Sounds like a ‘jellyfish’ (Bridget Jones Diary reference) to me!

Good call on keeping her OUT of your wedding party. Now to get her out of all the planning…

Post # 7
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5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

That’s balls! I have a friend exactly like that! We were so close (I have known her since 1st grade). When I told her we were engaged I got, “Well congrats, I guess, though I suppose I’m not too surprised.”

This wwas just mean, since she knows my ex left me a week before our wedding! I mean, WTH! I totally empathize!

Post # 8
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

GAH! Yes!

One of my best friends was equally unenthused. In fact, she told me that she didn’t approve of my FI and couldn’t support me. In my case, my relationship progressed quickly and I felt she was concerned which I appreciated. So we sat down and she told me what concerned her and we had a long talk about it. It ended with her saying “I just don’t like it when my friends get boyfriends”, and then she refused to get to know my FI.

She was toxic and we don’t talk anymore. It’s amazing how ridiculous and selfish people can be! Why do they feel that not thinking things through is okay???

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