- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I have this friend, who was going to be a potential BM but after several of her comments and her reaction to my engagement, FH and I decided to only have one person by our sides. That is an entirely different story so I will spare you, but basically she said “I guess I should say congrats or something.”
Ok so I have put up with a TON of her blunt comments over the years and just say to myself she speaks before she thinks and has no clue how she is comming off. Which I fully believe is true. Well the other night I was talking to her on aim (yes I am 23 and still use aim) and she asked me about the wedding – very direct questions that I am uncomfortable answering.
She asked me how much my wedding is costing. Out of nowhere…there was nothing leading up to this or anything. Just “so how much are you paying for the wedding”? I said I didn’t know which isn’t true, we are on a budget. I told her the average American wedding is $22,000 and she said “more?” I replied “No” and her response? “Oh”. Like because my wedding isn’t going to put me poor house it isn’t going to be nice?
Then she asked me how my FI is and I told her how I don’t get to see him often because he is always working. She said “well you do have a wedding to pay for” (Umm I know! But that isn’t the reason. His work forces him to work at the last minute. He should have off on the certain weekends and they will tell him Friday he has to work that Saturday and Sunday. He makes good money and we can use it so it’s ok). Well then she says and this is the one that pisses me off…”So you are struggling?” Ummm No!! We are able to pay for everything when we need to and my parents are paying for certain vendors and us the rest. We also have money saved for other things NWR.
I’m sorry but if us not having a huge wedding that cost a ton of money and my FI working all the time because he HAS to because his work is making him (not because we NEED the money, although it is nice and great to save) translates into we are stuggling then I must be totally missing something in my life?
I try to ignore such comments and laugh them off but this one really got to me. I hardly gave her any information and these are the asumptions she came up with. I just needed to vent a little because some of these comments are like she has no clue about anything and how things work, but is one of those people that has a comment and opinion on everything (usually a rather strong negative one).
Do any of you have friends that leave this similar sour taste in your mouth after an initially friendly “how are you” kinda conversation?