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You're not crazy. Very often brides get the opposite ("What? You haven't booked that yet? Better get on it!") This is actually the first time I've heard someone venting about getting too much done rather than not enough. Regardless, unless you're planning extremely late or extremely early, like 2 weeks before or 2 years before, there's nothing wrong with either. It doesn't sound like you've done too much, so don't worry. It's really no one else's business when you book what, so feel free to ignore this kind of "advice".
I have a lot of stuff done and more stuff left to do, but I am like you, I want to get it done. My wedding is in March of 2011 and I keep getting asked that question and told the same things you are. Just try not to let it bother you. I just tell people that I want to get it all done, so I can just relax in the few months before the wedding. I am planning to have everything done 6 months before the wedding. You are not crazy for wanting to plan early. Now is when to plan to get the good prices and the good vendors.
I dont think you're early at all. Sometimes u have to book early to ensure you get the person you want.
My wedding is in Sept and I pretty much got all the major stuff booked and ordered. 2 weeks after my FI propose I already booked my venue. Most of my time spent now is the tedious DIY projects (invitations, favors, table numbers, etc..) that is taking so much time but i can still take my time and not stress over last minute on them. I think its good to be on the ball.
My wedding is a week before yours and I know people who are getting married before me and have been engaged for longer than us act surprised at what we have already done. I take it that they have been moving slow instead of me moving fast. Besides everyone's lifestyle is different and I know that right before my wedding I have finals so those last minute details need to be cleared up by the end of Nov. so that I can focus.
Thanks for all the comments. I'm glad it's not just me. I know she's entitled to her opinion and everything, but she just came across kind of harsh the way she said it to me IMO. I'm just trying to get as much done now as I can so when it gets closer to time, I can relax and not be so stressed out.
Not crazy! While I did get my wedding planned in 5 months, I totally wish I had longer! So I think you are pretty on top of things, and who cares if a few months before the wedding you have nothing wedding related to do! I promise you, that will make your life sooo much easier!
Wow! I have to say, I've gotten both brides who brag "oh, I did it all in 3 months, easy!" and ones who are like "you're 7 months from your wedding date and you STILL don't have X?" I agree with trugem, it's a lifestyle thing and depends on your time availability, wedding size, etc. But honestly, I can't see anything wrong with planning even 2 years in advance! Why not take your time, if you have it? Who wants to be rushed at the end if they don't have to be?
Sounds like she might have just been out to 'start something' - always better to be ahead of the game when it comes to the big stuff! There's always more to do when you get closer, and it's nice because you'll be able to take it easy, even take a break from wedding planning stuff before the big day!! =)
You are not crazy and it's not too early. Before you know it, it's been 10 months and you're scrambling to get everything done. Don't follow my example. I'm 2 months away and I am going crazy! LOL!
I feel you on this, with a 1 1/2 year engagement, I did all of my major bookings EARLY and got the exact same thing....and I have two comments questions for those people:
1) Why would I WANT to be totally busy in the month or two before my wedding? For me, the two months before my wedding are the BUSIEST of the year (I teach, so it's the end of the semester and I coach track -- which means meets and/or practice almost every night of the week!).
2) Honestly --- you can book vendors as early as you want, but you still have to meet with them to finalize details 1-2 months before your wedding!!! (I actually tried to meet with mine early and they won't!)
You, my friend, are not crazy! Keep doing what you are doing so you can ENJOY being engaged and not have the stress of having to do it all in a short amount of time stress you out!
Thanks bees. The part that bothers me the most is her saying "it's SO far away" when 10 1/2 months isn't that far away in the first place. From what everyone has told me, it flies by!
You are by no means crazy! Its not good to procrastinate and finish at the last minute. Don't let people with jealousy issues thwart your progress!
She's the crazy one for waiting so long, I couldn't do it.. My date is 10-1-11 and we're already getting started, and every single vendor said that because of the date, it's a good idea. If you know what you want to take the chance of not getting it because you waited til the last minute like she suggested.
How about you have the opportunity to not be crazy by your wedding date and have some time to breathe? This girl sounds like she was just being petty and trying to one up you. But guess what you won't be all stressed and crazy by the time your wedding rolls around. I think you've got a good thing going.
It does fly by! I planned/booked everything like as SOON as we got engaged. Now, with 4 months to go, I have so much done... which leaves time for all my DIY projects. They are the most time consuming! So don't worry, you're just making things easier for yourself further down the line :)
My wedding is now in a few weeks and I started planning just about a year ago. I will say I am so glad I started early as it has helped me manage the stress and get everything done so I can enjoy myself.
I think it's awesome that you started planning already. I only had a year to plan mine, and I was about where you were in the planning stages. It's so much nicer to get things out of the way now so that you're not stressing out a few months before the wedding. Let her have her opinion...why would she ask if she didn't really care to hear your answer? You're just fine!
@ 2PeasinaPod- That's what I asked myself. If she wasn't interested in wondering what I already had done, why even ask me?
Thank you all for your input, I feel better now. I just don't know why people have to be so rude. Why can't they just let me enjoy my wedding planning without criticism?
I think it's awesome to start planning early.. first of all, it really is not that far away lol, second, I'm sure if you've already found vendors you really like, if you waited, they might be booked. So if people act like that, just say you had specific vendors in mind and you wanted to secure them. Jeez I dont know why people are so judgemental. I'd rather book things early and get a good choice of everything! Heck, in my area, so many venues are already booking up for 2011!!! It's very hard to find good dates at good venues.
Its really great that you have those things booked so far, then a few months before the wedding you can just RELAX! I was just engaged on New Years of 2009/2010.
When I went dress shopping, searching for locations, etc. I got this:
Them: "So when is the wedding?
Me: "August 29th"
Them: "Of this year?!?!"
Me: "....yes :-) "
@Adnama- I get the same reaction!!! We got engaged Dec. 23 of last year, and we're getting married July 24th!!! :]
@nurselindsey- Just ignore her! You're not doing anything wrong! I would much rather have everything done in the very beginning, than be boggled down at the last minute trying to get stuff done! Way to go for being on top of things :]
I think you're right on track! Everyone's schedules are different, so I think people should do what they can when they can. Our wedding is 7 months away, and people keep telling me "you have plenty of time". For some reason, hearing that stresses me out more about getting things done.
You aren't crazy at all! A lot of people take a year to plan, and almost ALL the planning books I have seen start at 12 months before the wedding. we are trying to get all of our stuff planned so that we don't have to stress or do anything for our wedding for a month before it. Keep planning!
@rosiegirl - i agree about the wedding books. every book i have seen gives you month by month planning guidelines starting at 12 months. according to them, i'm right on track. but regardless, it's really none of her business when i start planning my wedding! lol
Just ignore her... she's trying to compare, when really, her situation and your situation are probably nothing liek each other. maybe she had a HUGE bunch of friends/family helping out, maybe she had a DOC, maybe she didn't pay as much attention to detail.
Whatever, her deal is, stay away from the negative and give yourself a pat on the back for being ahead of the game. After all, its not like we're all out to set a world record for "Best Wedding planned in the Least Amount of Time." 
I think you are doing great staying on top of things. I think a lot of people get bogged down with last minute things and that can make this whole process that much more stressful. I hope that I get almost everything done well ahead of time so I can really enjoy the process.
I've had a similar thing from a friend who had to organise her wedding in 6-7 months -- I wonder if it's partly an insecurity/competition thing? ie, you're doing great and you're likely to be a much more organised adn relaxed bride, and she doesn't want to feel inferior to that.
You're definitely not crazy! I'm getting married the day before you, and we have our venue/caterer, photographer, I have my dress, and we know who we're using for our cake, florist, and dj, we just have to book them all.
I think it's crazy to save everything until closer to the wedding! My goal is to be COMPLETELY done by about Thanksgiving, because, we're getting married SO close to Christmas, New Years, etc. and I think it would just be really difficult to be doing wedding stuff around the holidays!
I keep hearing the same thing. We're less than 9 months away and I keep hearing "you have so much time to do everything." Uh, not really. I have a lot of DIY I want to get done. Plus, I keep telling them, I want to get as much done early on so it's less I have to worry about closer to the wedding. Plus, I procrastinate. The longer I put things off, the better the chance they may not get done.
She just wanted to have something negative to say... if you had said you didn't have anything done she would have been like "you need to get on it! everything will be booked up if you don't do it like last week! "
Do whatever you want, and if you're done four months from now you have time to add more DIY stuff and make the wedding more beautiful than hers!
@cybele – The thing about her wedding is, not to sound rude, but it was just very simple & thrown together, nothing planned in advance hardly, just very plain. They got married right after graduating high school and didn’t have a lot of money & stuff, which there’s nothing wrong with that but my point is I never criticized hers so she should honor me with the same respect. But thanks, I will give myself a pat on the back :] lol
@mrskesslertobe- Thanks girl! I really want to get it all over with so I can just relax and enjoy everything.
@ wonderlanded – She may be jealous, who knows. But I’m just going to ignore her negative remarks, I don’t need to feel discouraged when this is supposed to be the happiest time of my life!
@ Amanda.lynn – I’m in the same boat, my wedding (& yours) are so close to the holidays, I don’t want to be running around the last 2 months trying to cram in last minute wedding details, I’d rather enjoy my last holiday at home with my family! I’m glad you and I are on the same track as far as planning goes, I don’t feel crazy now haha
@mattel – I’m the same way you are, I procrastinate & if I don’t do it now, it won’t get done!
@ what2bee- thanks girl, I hope it turns out beautiful!
There you go - If her wedding was plain and created with generic items, she may not think you'd need to start planning so soon. It's simply a matter of different perspectives, maybe she doesn't consider personalisation or DIY such a priority.
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Hi bees,
I need to vent today. Last night, I ran into this girl that I haven't seen in a while, she's an okay friend of mine I guess, I just haven't really talked to her much lately because we've both been so busy. Well, we got to talking about my wedding and she asked me how wedding planning has been going, well here's pretty much how the conversation went....
Her: "How's the wedding planning going? Have you gotten a lot done so far?"
Me: "It's going pretty good. We've gotten a good bit done so far. We've got our caterer/florist, our photographer and we know who's doing our cakes. I've got my dress. But other then that, I've just basically been getting ideas of little things I can do along the way"
Her: "Gah, why have you done all that already? The wedding is SO far away! It only took me about 4 months to plan my wedding. What are you going to do when it gets closer to time and you have nothing left to do? I'd slow it down if I were you!"
First of all, my wedding is January 8, 2011. The 2011 sounds like far away, but my wedding is in less than 11 months! That's not that far away. Secondly, when I booked my caterer, they already had people booked for February of 2011. So apparently, I'm not the only one. As far as the photographer & cake go, my cousin is doing our pictures and my aunt baking our cake, so that wasn't hard.
Am I crazy for doing all of this "so soon?" It really bums me out because I was finally getting excited feeling like it was close enough to actually start planning this wedding and here she comes shooting me down like I'm nuts for getting started. It really hurt my feelings.
Sorry for the long vent girls, I just wanted to know that I'm not crazy for planning so "early" lol.