Post # 1
Figured it was time to turn to the gals who understand how this can feel.
I’m still “waiting”. Some days, it’s torture. I’m grumpy, and snarky, and overly-sensitive. And then sometimes, things are just heaven. Amazing, productive, and happy.
Last week we made the decision as a couple to move forward on purchasing a new fridge for our home. It is a good, practical choice and I know we will both be so happy to have more freezer space! But I had a twinge of “there goes his savings that was dog-eared for the ring…” (I did not say this out loud!) But, practical wins in our day-to-day lives. (Yep, we’re both virgos! lol)
BUT!!! I gave him the go-ahead to buy a ‘placeholder’ ring, that he can propose with. We’ve gone back and forth and back and forth on if we both love this idea. But logic ruled in this case and we’re moving ahead! 🙂
He asked if there were any specifics I’d want for this ring and I said “Nope, I want you to pick it out.” He seemed pretty pleased with that.
It’s not clear yet when we would ‘upgrade’ to the moissanite ring we’ve been looking at. (He has a list of three choices, narrowed down from the 5 I sent him. He will choose one at a later date.) but I’m secretly hoping it’d be within a few months.
He reminded me that this choice means if I ever want to change up my wedding set later, that I wouldn’t have to give up the sentimental ring he proposes with. 🙂 That made me really happy!
Side note: someone I know is really hurting my feelings currently. We are fairly close and they said “if you have both discussed that you want to BE engaged, than that is silly that you are waiting for a proposal. Why aren’t you just engaged, if you both agree?” Um maybe because he wants to officially ask me.. and it works for our relationship.. 🙁
In closing: I’m still excited for my sometime-in-summer-of-this-year proposal, and I’m happy we’re getting a new fridge later this week! hehe.
Post # 3
Well it certainly seems like you and your SO are on a great track moving foward and it sounds like it could happen for you in the very near future! 🙂 i think thats great and def something t be happy about! (not that i’m saying i think you aren’t!)
what exactly is a “placeholder ring” I think i get what you mean, like a less expensive ring and then you would upgrade once your SO has the money to do so?.. i’m just curious how inexpensice a placeholder would be.. ?… But maybe he’ll just surprise you anyway!
Dont let your friend hurt your feelings… all of us waiting bees are in the same boat you are! there’s a big difference between discusing what you both want in the future and then making it a reality! Its a great thing that you know where you both stand and that you want the same things!
Post # 4
I agree with killerqueen13.. Don’t let your friends bring you down. Big difference between discusing and having lol.
Good luck atleast it’s super close!
Post # 5
@killerQueen13: If I understand him correctly, the placeholder ring would be something fun and off the wall and not traditional, and fairly inexpensive (I’d guess under $100). I hope hope hope hope it will be from Etsy!!! He’d never heard of etsy until I showed him a few months ago.
That said, I’d be totally thrilled if he surprised me anyways and got me the moissaniteco ring. 😉 Hehe.
Post # 6
@FutureMrs.browneyes: Thanks. That’s how I feel, too. But it was a big bummer when she came back at me with that!
I’m ready to have my waiting put to an end..
Post # 7
I have a place holder ring… It wasn’t cheap though but my dream ring costs a bit more. I was happy I got the “placeholder” because I was tired of waiting. When we upgrade, I will put my placeholder aside for my son so when he finds the love of his life, he can propose to her with it. This way, I am engaged, we are starting a nice tradition in our family and I AM NO LONGER WAITNG!
Post # 8
@scarlet_letter: Congrats on moving forward with the place holder ring. If that works for you guys financially and you both are on the same page, why not!
I totally feel you on the friend thing too. I have one close friend that hurt my feeling last week because hse said she thinks that he’s not the marrying type and he’s just telling me stuff to keep me around. Then tells me she doesn’t get why we are planning some things out already (we want destination so we’ve been doing preliminary research). Everyone does their relationship differently and I had to explain to her that the way she rushed in to moving in with her now Darling Husband, had a baby then got engaged was not the way i’d ever do things but that was her way so who am I to say anything if it makes them happy. She kinda shut up after that. maybe just remind this friend, whom I’m sure has your best interests at heart that you guys wanna do things your way and you aren’t about to spoil your BF’s moment being totally practical! hehe
Post # 9
Last night my bf was encouraging me to watch SYTTD. (While he went to go read his book in bed.) I said something to the tune of “Why would you want to encourage the wedding crazy in me?” And he said “I thought those shows were like your methadone to the wedding heroine”. Wait. WHAT!!?
Really, bf?! That did not make me very happy. 🙁