Post # 1
So, usually my period is kind of irregularish, I’m generally a day or two late unless I have been working out regularly (which I haven’t). Butttttt I’m nearing the 10 day mark, and have been feeling really nauseated (which I have basically chalked up to how stressed I’ve been and my anxiety lately)… but I’m also super drained.
I’m well aware there is a good chance that it is just the stress, but usually when I’m stressed it goes the other way (long, heavy period, and doesn’t stop until stress stops. I’ve had a 28day period before. not fun)
I mentioned to FI last night (before the fight) that I was late, so today he wnts me to pee on a stick, which is probably a good idea- just to be sure… but when we got in that argument it was VERY hard for me not to throw in a “well what diff. does it make if I am or am not, you are CLEARLY not ready to take on the responsibility of a child if you think one day is worth 70K”.
anyways, someone please tell me its just the stress. I’m kinda freaking out at the possibility.
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
It definitely sounds like stress to me– I missed your previous post (?) regarding the fight– but it sounds like there’s a lot going on there in terms of emotional and mental strains.
I’d POAS just in case, but I wouldn’t worry too much about it. You definitely seem to have plenty on your plate as it is; no need to borrow worry.
Post # 4
ahhhhh. I feel for you. I just read your last post too about the 70K reception. If I were you, I would POAS just to set my mind at ease. But it could be stress. I had a 60 day cycle because of stress which delayed my ovulation by several weeks. I chart, so its easier for me to tell if it was just delayed ovulation, annovulatory, etc.
Post # 5
The stress of wedding planning plus the stress of being late can do wonky things to a girl.
You should definitely take a pregnancy test, if nothing else just to know where you actually stand.
Pat yourself on the back for biting your tongue last night, but also realize that the two things really have nothing to do with each other.
Post # 6
Take a test. Report back. Keeping my fingers crossed for ya. That would be bad timing, to say the least.
Post # 7
@Neetch: do they really though? How prepared for the responsibility of a child, is a man, who thinks that spending 30K we don’t have, would be okay.. when he knows that 30K if we end up getting it, should go towards building our future for children… mmmm I get they are different, but think they are more intertwined than not.. :S
Post # 8
@Sunfire: agreed at bad timing. I’ll do so right after work. You know the WORST PART? when I said I was late, he almost seemed excited… which, yeah if it wasn’t for the drama of the wedding, I would be too.. but holy crap.. he has some screws loose I think.
Post # 9
@mayflowerbride13: LOL. Well, at least he had the right reaction about that. Who knows? It could get you out of having to have the big wedding. Bless your heart. 🙂
Post # 10
@Sunfire: oooh, didn’t look at it like that. I feel this day will drag on. I really HATE waiting
Post # 11
@mayflowerbride13: In light of everything else going on with your wedding planning, having a fight over the possibility that you might be pregnant really screams “this couple is in trouble” to me.
I think you and your fiance need to put your wedding on hold and sort out all the other issues in your relationship before worrying about anything else. I’m not trying to be mean so please don’t take it that way. To an observer, it doesn’t seem like the two of you are much of a team when it comes to any of these big, important things, and that you express your emotions aggressively while he shuts down. I think you have a huge gap in your expectations of yourselves, each other, and your relationship, and I think there’s a big disconnect in communication styles.s. You also allow one source of contention to bleed into another: your stress and worry over possibly being pregnant shouldn’t be a trigger for another fight about the wedding cost. These trouble areas need to be fixed so you can have a healthy, nurturing relationship.
Post # 12
@mayflowerbride13: Admittedly, I missed the original fight post, but people (guys and girls) have odd expectations sometimes about weddings from what they got used to growing up (or even some idea they’ve always had about their wedding). I’m not sure it’s the same as actually raising a child, though I take your point about the money management.
Post # 13
@mayflowerbride13: I think it is likely just the stress. Hell, I’d be stressed if my wedding day was amounting to $70K.
But yes, take a test to be sure. Buy one ASAP and just get it over with.
Post # 14
@fishbone: We didn’t have a fight over me maybe being PG? I think you misunderstood. He was excited at possibility,but we didn’t fight about it.. in my mind I was just wondering how he can be so excited when we don’t know how much money we’re gonna have as a result of possibly being in debt because of the wedding. For all I know, he might be thinking “yay baby, screw the wedding… which woul dbe good” but we haven’t discussed it much at all because we don’t want to get worked up over something we don’t know for sure yet…
@Neetch: Yeah, that’s true!
Post # 15
I would bet it’s stress from your other posts, but POAS just to be safe!!!
Post # 16
you really have nothing to loose, buy an over the counter test and try it out. worse (or best) case sinario you find out you are pregnant,,, but your mind is at least at east again … other case sinareo you are not pregnant and again your mind is at ease…
get a massage/take a hot bath
re-evaluate your priorities
everything works out just fine in the end… if it isn’t fine it isn’t the end.