- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
This is a long, ridiculous story, so if you want to turn and run now, by all means do. But my future sister-in-law’s boyfriend accused my fiance of cheating. and it’s freaking ridiculous.
Last Wednesday night, a mutual friend who is a girl brought a guy to the church where my fiance works as a pastor. She has a boyfriend who is in Iraq and I’m pretty sure she had innocent intentions, but you could tell this guy was in to her. She asked this guy to go out to a bar/restaurant with her after church and he agreed. Her father, who is also a pastor at the church, asked my fiance to go with them so he didn’t get any bad ideas. My fiance agreed.
He calls me on the way, I know exactly what’s going on, he’s very intentional about telling me what’s happening, etc. On the way to the bar, the guy she brought bails, saying he has to “grade papers” (ie he realized he wasn’t getting any). So, to be a good friend and not leave her hanging, they meet up at the bar.
I’ve known this girl for four years, and I’m not the jealous type. The word “cheat” makes my fiance physically ill. I absolutely know that nothing happened (and that’s not really the issue in the story).
This is where junk gets confusing.
A high school acquaintance of my fiance saw them and assumed the worst, and called my future sister-in-law’s brother, who also went to high school with my fiance. And he believed this friend.
And then the boyfriend went to visit my future sister in law at college and he was like “I hate to be the one who tells you this, and I’m really sorry, but I think T is cheating on L…”
… and she believed him.
And then… she told HIS MOTHER.
So my fiance gets a phone call from his mom on Thursday afternoon, and they’re chatting, and suddenly his mom says, “so, how’s your relationship with L?”
“uh, great, why?”
She lays down the news and he tells her the truth, and she realizes what happened.
So, 1. The boyfriend believed the person at the bar.
2. He didn’t have the guts to talk to my fiance, instead he gossiped to his girlfriend
3. My fiance’s own sister believed this guy
4. His sister didn’t talk to my fiance and believed this guy enough to tell her mom
and 5, his mom actually felt the need to ask him something.
HOW OFFENSIVE!!!!! This boyfriend has been the guy that girls have cheated with multiple times, thinks he’s Voltaire or something with a philosophy major, and has met us as a couple a whopping 2 TIMES! No one in his family likes this guy, except for the sister, who is completely love struck. (first guy who has ever paid any attention to her.)
And the fact that his own family members would even consider it a possibility is insane. Even after talking with my own family members, the first words out of their mouth weren’t “oh my gosh he cheated?” it was “wait, what’s the real story?”
So, that’s what happened. And now I don’t want to see his face ever again. the end.