(Closed) Someone assuming they're invited – worried that they should be on the list?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
662 posts
Busy bee

Invite the people you love and want to surround yourself with.  Invite noone out of obligation unless you 100% HAVE to.  In this case, just let her know that you are limited on your guest list and she will take the hint.

Post # 4
Member
1592 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

If he said no, don’t sweat it. Do you think you’ll see her after the wedding?

Post # 5
Member
680 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sweet5k:  I wouldn’t invite her, since your wedding is more than a year away hopefully she’ll forget by then haha.Since you don’t see them often it shouldn’t be a problem, if it was someone you saw regularly it could be awkward but i wouldn’t worry about it.

Post # 7
Member
7870 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i wouldn’t say anything to her. when she doesn’t get an invitation, she’ll know.

 that is bizzare, people are strange.  i would never ask to be invited to a wedding.

i have a few friends that i am not very close with anymore, when i see them, they ask me about wedding planning.  i tell them a few things but even though we talk about it, i still feel no obligation to invite them. 

Post # 8
Member
1937 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@sweet5k:  it’s actually pretty rude to assume you’re invited to anyone’s wedding, particularly someone you don’t know that well. Of course you can pretty safely bet you’re invited to a close friends wedding, a family member’s wedding, but to just toss out “oh, that means I can bring a date!” to a total stranger is way too forward. 

Just because she invited herself, doesn’t mean you actually have to. 

Post # 9
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

You’d think she’d realize that was bad manners after planning a wedding of her own. 

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