- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
So I now realize why I should have a policy of not talking about my recent engagement / wedding plans to anyone but I’m still in the excited and happy phase and even though I don’t bring it up, maybe I like to answer questions when people ask them…that might have been a mistake
FI and I went to his college reunion this past weekend and there are quite a few of his former classmates that he is still super close to. He had announced his engagement to them a few months back, but we haven’t seen any of them and so the weekend was full of congrats, well wishes and requests to tell the proposal story, which is fine with me because it gave me something to talk about with people I don’t really know very well. Unfortunately this doesn’t happen in a bubble of his close friends, but also with people who he isn’t so close to around at parties and such. I was chatting with a few women he wasn’t particularly close to while he was off with some friends and one of them asked to see my ring, so I showed her. Then she asked if we set a date and I excitedly relayed the season and year. Then she asked for the date, so I told her. Then she asked if the wedding would be where our hometown is currently and I said, no we’re planning on my hometown growing up. She said, oh great! I’ll be able to bring a date! – eek – What have I just done? I felt bad thinking perhaps I led her on to think she would be invited by chatting and answering her questions so I changed the subject and brought it up to my FI later.
I mentioned that she assumed she’d be invited and asked if we should add her to the guest list or at least maybe add her to a “b” list so she could be invited if we were short of numbers or whatever. He said no, he didn’t particularly like her BUT he was invited to her wedding some number of years ago – but I think shortly after they graduated college and she is invited to a few of his friends weddings in the next few months, so she seems to be a part of the wedding going group.
Do we need to invite her?