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On Wednesday morning, someone I know broke into my home, threatened to kidnap my child, told me they were going to kill me, and then attempted to strangle me. Thankfully I survived, the assailant was arrested and my daughter is safe. I do have a sprained neck, a cut on my throat that refuses to clot and continues to bleed on and off as well as a sprained wrist which is killing me.

It's been five days since my safe haven was invaded, my wrist was sprained and the nightmares began. I'd love to say I'm doing better but it's getting harder everyday. My wrist hurts more every day and my nightmares are becoming more frequent and more intense. I'm taking sleeping meds and still only getting a few hours of sleep a night.

I'm afraid to be alone in my house (which we just bought so moving is not an option), I'm terrified to let my daughter out of my sight and it is incredibly hard to function on the tiny amount of sleep I'm actually getting-not to mention not having use one of my arms. The police have visited my daughter's school and talked to her teachers, principal and counselors to make sure that she remains safe but that has done so little to reassure me.

I've spoken to a counselor but I still can't breathe normally. I feel like my entire life was stolen from me. 

I find night time is the worst. My daughter's already in bed and i just feel so alone. Mr. A is doing the best he can but he really doesn't understand what I am going through.

The person was arrested but found incompetent to stand trial so they are now on a twenty day hold at a psych hospital. I have to go back to court on October 3rd to beg the judge not to let this person out.

Does anyone know a support group I can join? Most I've found have been for survivors of domestic assault but it was not my fiance who assaulted me. My family expects me to just "realize this person is sick" and forget about what happened. My friends have been amazing and Mr. A is trying to be supportive but I think he is still in shock that this even happened.

We do now have a security system. The previous owners had one installed but did not use it. We now have it monitored 24/7. Mr. A added a chain bolt and a new lock on our slider door. 

Oh my goodness! Prayers to you for peace and comfort!

I haven't heard from you in a while. Is this related to that creep that made your facebook?

wow, your life is definately full of drama - be sure to seek professional help and i hope you can soon relax in your own home. im glad that no one was seriously (meaning it could have been much worse than your injuries) hurt

@Eva Peron: No it is unrelated to the facebook creep although I know question if my attacker put him up to creating the fake account.

Mr. A does live with me, thank God but was not home at the time. We do own a gun but due to Mass laws it needs to be in a locked safe and the bullets need to be in a seperate locked safe. I didn't have time to go for it. 

I should mention my daughter also has high-functioning autism so breaking her routine could severely set her back. Everything has just been so hard lately.

@sorrycharlie: No, although it was the same day. She had it much, much worse than I did. She is one hell of a fighter. I met her family at the arraignment and they are an incredible family. 

I can't get a protective/restraining order against someone who is incompetent. She met with the dr at the court was declared incompetent to be arraigned and sent away.

Is this someone you knew or a random act?

@Mrs.tobe: Someone i know.

It was a family member. I don't feel comfortable saying more than that.

@SoontobeMrsA: How did you get away from him (or her?) How did you survive?

@Mrs.tobe: I clawed, kicked and eventually hit them off the head with my cell phone. I screamed until my neighbors called the police. They heard the sirens and took off but was found a few minutes later.

@Moja Milosc: Because the person was arrested, there is no option for a temporary order (according to the victim advocate). Instead, at arraignment, I also go for the one-year order. Because the person was not competent to be arraigned they were also not competent to defend themself against the order. I will be back on Oct 3rd for the new arraignment and to get the order. The person was ordered to stay away from me but it is not as formal as a protective order and it does not cover little A.

@mrskesslertobe: This is the same person who filed for custody of my daughter claiming I was "unfit." The case was closed after my daughter's teachers, doctors, neighbors etc were all interviewed and all said I was a good parent. Since then, this person has been kept away from my daughter and was growing angrier and nastier every day. I had no idea this person would turn violent however.