Post # 1
I found out very recently that at my wedding someone in *my* family said they were surprised Fiance stuck around and actually married me. I don’t know who it was. I know they said it to my Grandpa and I know he told them off but he doesn’t think it’s a big deal and won’t speak of it now.
I’m not too sad about it to be fair, i’m just angry and indignant.
I get the feeling there are some relatives who think you can only be pretty if you are slim.
I’m not slim (obviously) but my curves are in the right places, I have a naturally unusually large chest and unless you look properly makes me look a hell of a lot bigger than I actually am! I eat reasonably well, I walk part of the commute to work and am on my feet all day. I’m steadily losing the weight uni round one put on me but i’m not tearing my hair out over it.
I met my now husband at uni round one. He told his friends that same night he was going to marry me one day.
There are people much more traditionally attractive than me, my cousins for example, but I have good, hair and nails from looking after myself. I have unusual eyes with partial heterochromia which husband loves. I study hard and now work hard at my job which I love. I’l never be as slender as my cousins, but I’m actually fine with that, my husband is!
I just can’t stop thinking about how incredibly rude a thing that was to say at my wedding. I can’t believe that while I was thanking all my guests personally for attending, one of them was being so two faced. I’m very honest, I would not go and be another number to pay for if I had a problem with someone. It stings that this was MY family.
Post # 3
@Anardana: It sounds like you have one jealous B in your family! That was incredibly rude, but I would try to shrug it off. It would be bad to assume that it was a cousin and resent them forever if you actually picked the wrong person to be mad at.
Post # 4
@Anardana: What a horrible thing for them to say! He is with you because he loves you, not for any other reason!
Post # 5
Wow, what a jerk! All that matters is that your grandpa set them straight and that you and Darling Husband are happy.
Oh ya and…
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
Just chock it up to jealousy. They figure that on some level being slim makes them better than you, which just proves that their attitude is why they’re single. Slim is not always better. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Bad attitude comes in one form though and that is ugly. Be thankful for what you have and dont compare yourself to others. You have an amazing man who loves you, a good heart, and beauty. Thats more than this person who is hurting you has.
Post # 7
Thankyou everyone. I don’t think it was my cousins 🙂 I know strangers have said things about our different looks before but we all love each other even if we do look different!
I’m always surprised at how rude some people can be and I naively wish they’d realise and stop but I need to accept I can’t change people!
Post # 8
@AlwaysSunny: LOL that picture is great! 🙂
Post # 9
That is pretty wretched! But you know what? Don’t be bothered, because he DID stay with you, and that’s because you ARE good enough for him! I think there was probably some definite jealousy involved, not to mention just tactless rudeness.
Post # 10
What a disgusting person to say something – to anyone – let alone at your wedding. Though I can understand your upset, your Grandpa is probably doing the right thing by not mentioning who said it (did he tell you about it) – although he shouldn’t have told you about it afterward. Regardless of who said it, the damage is now done.
It’s a sad world that we live in that so many people assume a woman’s worth is only in her appearance – and of course, the kind of appearance that’s dictated as beautiful by popular culture. If she can’t meet those standards, she’s “worthless” in that worldview.
Your husband loves you and you love him. And a family member defended you (and rightfully so!). That relative may have been so embarrassed they just shut up the rest of the night. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be so mean-spirited (people say mean-spirited stuff and stupidly think it will be funny) and they were quickly reminded how inappropriate it was.
In any case, I’m sorry you had to go through that.
Post # 11
I’m really sad to read this, but mostly because you immediately jumped to being less skinny than your cousins. I would hope that even though the comment was horrible, that wasn’t what they meant(though I’m not sure any other reason would be much better). How awful is it that you, as a curvy girl, jumps to that conclusion? Very awful. I’m sorry you heard about these comments at all, and more sorry that society has made you believe that your weight must be the reason.
Post # 12
Wow – That is unbelievably rude!
Honestly, I would try not to think about it. You’ll more than likely never know who it was that made that horrible comment at your wedding and it would be sad for you to assume it was X and build resentment towards them, only to find out down the track it wasn’t them.
Obviously there’s something about you that this person is jealous about and as previous posters have said – Haters gonna hate.
Post # 13
Look, that person is a jealous, bitter B. Your husband married YOU because he loves YOU. He loves how you look, he loves your personality and so many other things and that mean-spirited B will never get it because obviously she/he is vapid and shallow among other words.
I get where you are coming from. I look at myself and I do compare myself to my cousins and sisters because I will never be as slender as them, even at my thinnest my hips and chest are a bit bigger but guess what…that is fine.They are who they are and I am who I am. That will never change. You are fine and don’t let anyone let you down.
Brush the haters off.
Post # 14
Some people are SO awful! Sorry you have to deal with this…
Post # 15
What is wrong with some people?? Who cares if you aren’t skinny minny! You sound so sweet and your hubby loves you- that’s what matters. Piss on whoever said such an awful thing!!
Post # 16
First, I want to say I am so sorry you have to deal with small minded people. Second, your Fiance now husband fell in love with you at first sight and given that it may be surprising for some people to understand there are a lot of men who love curves. You are your husband’s dream!!!
My Fiance and I met online on a plus size dating website he told me that he has loved curves since he was 15 years old. I am 5’10, 210lbs, size 18 and he loves all of me; he is in the military. To top it off he is Italian/Irish and I am Black American/Cherokee so we definitely are looked at when we are together and we dont care what anyone thinks or say we love each other.
The person who said it was just so green with envy they couldnt hold it in any longer and had to same something to justify their own unhappiness.