Post # 1
Tell me I’m not crazy for thinking it’s bloody insane for me to be making a bridesmaid’s dress 8 days before my wedding (we get on the plane tomorrow)? I only found out Tuesday this BM neither had nor could afford a dress. Why did she not tell me 2 weeks ago, when I could have ordered something? And it was my mom, not the BM, who informed me of the situation. My mom is annoyed at me for being annoyed with the BM. And I’m annoyed at my mom – she apparently knew this BM’s situation roughly a week before I did, and just wouldn’t tell me.
It’s not making the dress that I mind (though it is vaguely irritating), it’s the timing. Had I known a week earlier, I could have ordered something, or at least had some options.
Post # 3
Making something is faster, easier, and with better results than just buying something?
Post # 4
uh. Someone wouldn’t be a BM. If your mother is so worried about it, your mother can do the work. That’s the last thing you need to be worried about. When your BM accepted the position she kind of accepted the terms that came along with it. One of those terms is being responsible for getting a dress…in a timely manner.
I’d be pissed. Have you talked to her about it?
Post # 5
Seriously, I’d be hauling my ass to Macy’s clearance section.
Post # 6
ummm not crazy at all – and youre MAKING it?! totally not crazy at all – how did she only figure out 2 weeks ago that she couldnt afford the dress? a heads up about 2 months ago would have been okay, less than 2 weeks is insanity!
Post # 7
Why dont you you just buy a dress instead of making one? You can visit department stores and they should have somthing that will coordinate with your colors. What color and style of dress did you have in mind?
Post # 8
What’s your budget? I ordered dresses from Nordstrom.com and had them delivered within a couple of days.
Post # 9
What? I’d be down a bridesmaid at this point. If you can’t tell me something this important until a week before my wedding then I can’t help you. I can’t believe the BM didn’t say anything, what exactly was her gameplan?
Post # 10
To clarify, the BMs are wearing medieval dresses – can’t just get it off the rack. Also I don’t know the woman’s size either, so I can’t order it (and I don’t have time for e-mail/phone tag). I’m making a one-size-fits-all style. The fastest I could get one in would be 6 weeks – I can make it in a few hours.
BM is trying to get out of a long-standing bad situation. I understand her not being able to afford it, and not telling me WHY she can’t get one herself. I just wish she had told me that she couldn’t get one herself earlier.
Post # 11
I don’t understand why your BM and mother were keeping this from you. What did they think would happen – that a dress would magically appear the morning of your wedding? That’s just nuts that they kept you in the dark. Good luck with it.
Post # 12
this whole thing is bit bizarre… have you tried a costume store or fancy dress place? They usualy have plent of medieval looking dresses. I would personally cut her out because it doesnt makes sense why your mom and BM would keep this from you.
Post # 13
@cyneswith: As a historical reenactment geek, I totally get the “Look, I can make this in a day but GRRR” feelings and yes, your BM or mom or a little bird should have told you as soon as they knew about the situation.
Sending you virtual good sewing vibes – may your bobbin thread not run out at a critical point, your needles remain strong and sharp and your scissors not vanish right when you need them.
Post # 14
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
You’re not crazy but damn! Sewing a dress in a day, you have mad skillz. Good luck hon! *hugs*
Post # 15
If it were me, she would probably not be a bridesmaid!
Post # 16
OK, it’s all done but the hem (I’m not 100% sure of her height or what shoes she’ll wear…) Why making the dress isn’t crazy in and of itself: It cost $26 in linen and took 3 1/2 hours from going into the store to chose fabric to having all but the hem finished.
Her reasons for not being able to afford the dress could put people in jail if they became public (she’s distancing herself from that, if I understand inferences correctly.) So I can’t really fault her for not explaining herself.