Someone Please Slap Me For Agreeing To Do This….

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

I will just say GOOD LUCK!! Best thing you can do is be yourself, who you are now. Remember, we all grow up after high school and if someone doesn’t… well then that’s just sad 😛 So don’t get sucked into any potential drama! Be confident!!! Who knows, this person may surprise you with how much they have grown up and changed too 😀

Post # 4
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534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Sunnyday278:  Agreed!

OP, it sounds like you’ve changed since HS, and I bet your frenemy has also.  If she ends up being awful to you, you have the power to excuse yourself and walk away.  And you also have the right to never have lunch with her again if you don’t want to.  But I really think this could provide some good closure for you.  Take a deep breath – it will be okay!  

Post # 5
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I hear ya on the loser in high school thing- although I look at it as a blessing bc it probably kept me out of a lot of trouble lol. Just try to remember, everyone is screwed up. Everyone is insecure in some way about something. She is probably thinking more about herself than about getting ready to judge you. Take a deep breath. Remember the completely unlosery person you have become and go to lunch. You can do it! 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You’ll be fine – everything will be OK. If this gal can’t be an adult and get over some of these things, then she can go stuff herself.

You’re not looking to prove yourself, not really. I do this sometimes (I was in the same boat as you), and it’s so not me. But I also want to show that I’m not the same girl people bullied and teased in grade school, so I go all out.
Doesn’t matter what anyone thinks, really – I’m effing aweseome (and always was haha) now, and have all this great stuff going for me. But when I see them, I want to make sure that those old grade school assholes don’t try to ruin shit for me again. If anything, it’s insecurity!
But this is fairly harmless – just go with the flow!

Post # 7
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9226 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

Good luck, hugs!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i was teased mercilessly in middle school and some in high school because i had a ridiculously large chest on my small frame where everyone else was flat chested.  those “IT” girls I certainly never wanted to see again. 

When I was 26ish, I went on a 2 week trip to Israel and 3 of the girls were on this trip.  One who was very mean to me, I just ignored and she ignored me right back. Two of the others, I was friendly enough with on the trip but didn’t really want anything to do with them after.

Since they say, sucess is the best revenge.  Go on this lunch date and know that you have a fabulous life.

 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

HAHA, I totally could have written this (except the athlete part). 

You’ll be okay! I did this not too long ago, and it’s scary (especially when said friend kept in touch with everyone BUT you), but it’ll turn out fine. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs_Amanda:  I also want to wish you good luck! 

For everything you went through then, I am so sorry!  I always hated the whole immature high school clique drama and stayed out of it as much as possible back then. 

But if I remember correctly from your wedding recaps, you are STUNNING now!  Go to lunch and show off your stuff, girl.  😉  And report back!

Post # 11
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3424 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I agree. Being happy is the best revenge. And if you don’t like her behavior, cut it short. YOU ARE IN CONTROL!

Post # 12
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240 posts
Helper bee

You can totally do this! I bet you will be pleasantly surprised by  how well everything goes.  For what it’s worth, I can totally relate to the whole reverting to your high school self/mindset in certain situations.  I bet you will actually end up having a great time!  Please keep us posted 🙂

Post # 14
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2581 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

Whenever I go visit my parents and have to go out and about around my hometown, I always make sure I’m looking pretty good. Just in case.

Post # 16
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@Mrs_Amanda:  I say if you don’t want to go, don’t go. Life is too short to spend doing things you don’t want to do (unless you need to, such as work). If it is just causing you stress, bad memories, and unease, then fuck it. Not worth it.

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