- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
So, Facebook-using Bees, if one of your facebook friends actually removed posts that you made on their wall, (“hey! hope we can get together soon, miss you!”), you would pretty much assume that they thought less of the friendship than you may have, right?
Well, what if I told you that the person removing my posts was…..
stop for dramatic pause…..
One of my bridesmaids!
Both of my FSILs are in the wedding (they are my FI’s brothers’ wives and we have been close for 3 years) and one of them, “Mary”, and I have kind of drifted apart over the past few months. She lives farther away from me but we’ve still seen each other maybe 5 times in the past 4 months and we’ve tried to connect via phone or facebook.
I am the total non-bridezilla…I had them pick black BM dresses that were already in their closet and I haven’t asked them do accompany me anywhere or do anything for me. However, I’ve noticed that whenever the three of us get together and the other FSIL brings up the wedding, Mary changes the subject. (I rarely bring the wedding up) This, along with the fact that her phone calls (and ability to return mine) and contact over facebook has been getting less frequent over the past 2 months has raised some red flags.
2 weeks ago her husband (FI’s brother) told FI that he couldn’t afford the tux for the wedding. FI’s Dad ended up offering to pay for it and FI and his bro are fine now, but they did get in a fight about it initially. A week later, I called Mary and we chatted about it for a bit. My FI was indeed irrational about it, but Mary said she knew it wasn’t my fault, blah blah blah. I asked her when we could get together next and she was non-committal.
The next day, I left a “Miss you!” on her facebook wall. Fast forward to yesterday and I check facebook and it’s not there. Hmm. I figure I’d give her a call. No answer. I then wrote on her wall, “Hey! Gimme a call..hopefully we can get together soon!”. An hour ago, I check it, and she removed that one too.
WTF? I don’t even know what to think.