Post # 1
so i get home today and hubby tells me to look at an rsvp we got (we re already married but having a reception/party for family and friends) well the rsvp was BLANK. No name and no return address just written was “will NOT attend”. well wtf i really want to know who was so nasty to do this, bc they obviously wanted to keep their identity hidden and will NOT be a friend of mine after this I just cant believe someone would be so mean to us..I feel like crying
Post # 3
@Pixie26: Maybe it was just to make it clear? It’s weird there’s no name but htat happens often even when people RSVP yes! I personally wouldn’t take this that personally, but I would definitely see when other RSVPs come in try to figure out who it is and let them know they left their info off.
Post # 4
Wow, that is something else. I’m sorry to hear that. Technically, you might be able to figure it out when you get all RSVPs back through method of elimination.
Post # 5
@Pixie26: Maybe they just forgot to write down their information?
Post # 6
@Pixie26: Maybe try to assume the best of people? Perhaps they thought you had them numbered in some fashion, and that you’d know who sent it? Maybe they were just clueless? Or drunk / miserable from a bad day at work / in the midst of beginning a divorce? You never know what’s going on in someone else’s head… it could have been anything! I’d try not to take it as a personal slight, and don’t let it ruin your evening! ((hugs))
Post # 7
@Pixie26: Sounds pretty rude! Too bad you didn’t number the RSVPs or something… I’d be pretty damn curious, too!
Post # 8
@PermaStudent: I certainly wish now i had kept them in some type of order! I have an idea of who it may have been..but i cant prove it just yet..i also dont want to seem insane asking everyone if they sent me the rsvp yet!
Post # 9
So… they can’t attend? How is that rude? Perhaps they just forgot to write in their information. Look at the postmark and see where it was sent from. Not that it really matters who isn’t coming, at least in my eyes.
Post # 10
Am I the only one whose first reaction would be that the person just either forgot or didn’t know how to fill out an RSVP correclty? I don’t view it as nasty unless there are facts we’re missing. Careless and annoying, sure, but not nasty. Doesn’t this sort of thing happen all the time and isn’t this why people number RSVPs?
Post # 11
There have been enough RSVPs sent back without the names filled in that brides and wedding sites have recommended that you discreetly number them just in case. Why would you automatically jump to the conclusion that someone did this deliberately to be nasty and rude? I think maybe you need to take a step back and look at this objectively…someone forgot…oh well.
Post # 12
@Pixie26: 🙁 I’m sorry. That sucks.
I like the advice to try to think about it less as a personal attack & more as a “maybe they were having a bad day & in the middle of a crappy divorce or something…?” It just hurts less that way.
Someone left a card in the cardbox at our wedding that said “Here’s to making many more memories with you. Love, Dougie & Sarah.” & it had one single dollar bill inside. First of all, neither of us have any idea who the heck these people are, & a single dollar? Seriously, that almost seems like they were trying to make a rude statement or something.
Anyway, people are assholes sometimes, try not to take it too personally because it’s their problem if they are that rude of a human being to write something like that in an RSVP card.
Post # 13
Even though I don’t reply that way, a lot of those pre-printed RSVP cards have only a will or will not attend line. It’s possible this person was not intending to be rude and just forgot to write hiis or her name.
Post # 16
I dont think its rude they cant attend, just more inconsiderate that not even a name or a return address was listed. Im on a budget and these were the DIY printable cards. Not only that, but Im planning most of this soloand to be honest I didnt even know that people number them to identify them in some way.
Im super stressed out so maybe im over reacting a little. I just cant see how youd forget to write your name..