Someone told me I "developed a pouch" today..

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Do you ever comment on anyone's weight?
    yes, no harm done : (2 votes)
    2 %
    no way : (86 votes)
    91 %
    only uf I'm close to the person : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    Ugh. She sounds like she wants to stir up drama simply for the entertainment factor, or perhaps she makes those comments to feel better about herself.

    I would NEVER comment on anyone’s weight except for FI, and not unsolicited.

    Post # 2
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    bossypants:  just chalk it up to rudeness.

    The only people I discuss weight with are my gym buddies, and even then, we only comment about our own bodies. I cannot fathom commenting on someone else’s body, especially unsolicited comments. 

    Post # 4
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    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    bossypants:  That totally rude. I don’t understand why people want to talk about others’ weight. DH’s grandma has a HORRIBLE habit of always commenting on my weight. She never says I’m fat, but, for instance, during my prgennacy the last timer she saw me she kept asking if the doctors were watching my weight, how much I’ve gained, if I’m at high risk, all these pressing questions that just weren’t her business.

    Before I got pregnant when I had lost a ton of weight she kept asking me how much I’ve lost, how much I have left to lose, where I’ve lost it all at, if I have loose skin or stretch marks becuase of it, etc just all these really personal questions I wouldn’t dive into no matter if it were family or not.

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    bossypants:  So… she’s saying she’s dense?  LOL

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    That’s really a horrible thing to say to someone. How rude.

    Post # 7
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    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    bossypants:  Wow she’s rude. Like really really rude. Why on earth is it her business how much make-up you wear or the state of your body?

    Evidently she has some pretty low self-esteem if that’s the topics she picks to talk to people about… next time she says she starts, just make a comment how you both have the same body shape, even if you don’t. Like anything she says about her body, just go “Yeah and our arms and abs are really similar… we could be sisters!” Just mess. with. her.

     

    Post # 9
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    33 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Hang in there, hunny.  Some people just don’t recognize what harm their words can do.  Most people have the social grace to avoid such comments, but others…they really are just unaware of their impact (or the very few who are genuinely out to hurt…but that’s very, very few!).  

    Keep in mind that you are beautiful.  No matter what shape and size.  It’s more important to be happy and healthy and comfortable with yourself than to be concerned with what others deem as important.  And it sounds like you are!  Someone else’s perception of what you should be doing for your body before your wedding is *their* problem (seriously, look at that statement again.  What YOU should be doing for YOUR body before YOUR wedding.). 

    Sorry that this happened.  Chin up!  Smile.  Let it roll off your beautiful shoulders!  

    Post # 10
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    8282 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    What an asshole. 

    Post # 11
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    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    bossypants:  What a bitch.

    She was definitely trying to cut you down a bit. Ignore her rudeness! That is not a nice thing to say EVER. The only time someone should offer core exercise suggestions is if they are directly asked for them. Laughing it off was the right response. 

    Post # 12
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    2250 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    bossypants:  Is it a cultural things? My all time favorite hairstylist would make very blunt comments about my appearance and weight, both positive and negative, she was generally a very sweet person, but she was Vietnamese, so I think those kinds of direct comments were socially acceptable in her culture. She was an amazing hair dresser, so I put up with the occasional unsolicited comment about my weight.

    If there’s no cultural issues or social awkwardness going on here, then the girl at school is just a rude bitch. I would be just as direct as she is and tell her “my appearance is none of your business. You don’t need to comment on things that don’t concern you”

    Post # 14
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    1864 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    What a bitch…

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