Post # 1
I just calculated how old I will be when I have great-grandchildren and a small tiny ridiculous part of me hopes my children have babies extremely early…like…EXTREMELY early (19-ish). And I would totally help them raise them of course. More babies for meeeeeeeee. Just kidding.
I have this huge fear of death and missing out on all these things and I am so upset with myself that I won’t be around to see the great-grandchildren grow up let alone get married. I wish I had found fiance sooner and procreated sooner. Mom had me at 20…wish I would’ve done that.
It’s ridiculous I know. But I’m sad. And I hope this was the right place to put this. Anyone else ridiculous like me?
EDIT: Good Lord I sound hyper. Sorry guys.
Post # 3
I kind of am. My (last) Great Grandma just passed away this year, and I knew my Great Great Grandma up until I was like four too. I have all four of my grandparents still, and I have met 3 or so of my great grandparents, and I think that is pretty cool. I also had hip, active grandparents who were very involved in my life.
My husband’s parents had him and his brother later in life than when my parents had me and my siblings (although, ironically my parents have been married longer by just a few months). He knew his grandpa, and still has a grandpa and grandma halfway across the country that he never sees. They were older and weren’t “fun” grandparents like what I had.
I guess what I am saying is that I am glad that we are having our first baby at 23 – later this summer. I’m excited that he or she will get to have grandparents who can be involved like I had versus the old and frail grandparents that my husband had.
ETA: I don’t expect my kids to have kids early for me, I am just glad that I can give them that experience on my part. 🙂
Post # 4
@farmgirl2106: Hahaha. I don’t expect them to have kids early for me either. It’s just a sick wish that I joke with my soon-to-be husband about. He just rolls his eyes and I giggle. I know its silly.
I had a similar experience as you, my grandma JUST turned 60, I’m 23. You’re lucky you’re having babies now, I’m going to be older due to graduate studies >.< My future husband’s grandparents on the other hand are almost 80 (although his grandma is still ‘fiesty’). His parents are in their fifties (my dad just turned 46, my mom 44). I really enjoyed having young parents. It makes me kind of sad I won’t be as young for mine. 44 when they’re 18 (earliest), 47 when they’re 18 (at the latest). I hate the idea and it makes me realize how permanent my decisions are. *Le sigh*
Post # 5
I had my daughter at 18, I really hope my little girl and future children will wait until they are married and are ready, but I do agree with you! I have a fear of death also and I so hope I get to see my great grand children 😀
Post # 6
I don’t think you’re crazy at all! FI is the youngest of 5 and his parents are in their early 70s. Mine are in their early 50s and are the same age as his oldest brother.
We both know that we don’t want to be old parents like his but really a few years won’t make a huge difference. My mom was 24 when she had me, at the earliest I’ll be 28 when we have our first. I’m not really too worried, it’s all about your attitude and not necessarily your age.
Post # 7
Wow, I’d never really thought about it. At this rate, even if we had a kid tomorrow, my husband would be 50 at their highschool graduation. I’ve never really counted on even meeting any great grandkids.
3 of my grandparents died before I was 5, and I had one great grandma up until I was 18. Now, I just have one grandma left that has no great grandkids, and she nags us something fierce 🙂
Post # 8
@Ms. Martian: That reminds me…FH and I had agreed on 2-3 children, but the more I think about it…5 sounds like such a good number. I imagine all the good times like thanksgiving and christmas. But I guess nothing would guarantee that. 70?? Jeebus. How long did they wait? I guess I’m worried about age because while I may be highly energetic still, the older I get the closer it comes to my death.
@SapphireSun: Isn’t it insane? I have always lived with one foot in the past, one in the future. I am deeply aware of time passing and what it means. My great-grandma is still among us at 88 years old. It makes me wish I could also be here for the great grandkids. But if my children wait till 26, that means when they reproduce I’ll be 52, when their children reproduce 78. So I’ll be 78 when my great-grandchildren arive, and if I’m lucky I’ll live to see them turn 12. Makes me sad. My great-grandmother might just live to see her great-greats…I never will. I guess that’s where I’ll be kind of happy if my children and grandchildren don’t take as long to reproduce.
Looking that far ahead sometimes hurts my head LOL
Post # 9
Ill probably be 40 when I have my first, so I totally get what you mean.
Post # 10
DH and I calculated it and if I had a baby right away, and she had a baby at 16-ish, and this cycle continued, I could easily be a great-grandma, or great-great grandma (I forget how far we got). Crazy.
Post # 11
@soon2bhis:ROFL!!!! I took the 16 year old approach tonight actually. This is when FH looks at me like “ridiculous woman”.
Post # 12
Having kids young doesn’t mean you’ll live to see your great grandkids. Not to be a downer, but young parents die, just like older ones.
This is just a pet peeve of mine, I guess because my parents had me at 20 and 21 and my dad died at 42. I’m 30 and still will be when this baby is born in Sept, I could live until I’m 95, like my great grandma. This baby will be her 9th or 10th great great grandchild. It just depends.
Post # 13
@MsMamaBear: That’s so fantastic for her <3. I suppose you’re right, but I’m already terrified of dying young (I’ve had some health issues, and cancer runs in the family) so I really try not to think about it. Absolutely right though. I’d like to live at least until 100. A century…that’s good enough for me =)
Post # 14
My mom and I were talking about this kind of thing recently. She was saying how she most likey will see my older daughter graduate college, get married maybe have a baby etc, but because of the age difference between my girls (8 years) she is sad that she may not get to see all of those things with the younger one. Unless they have babies super young- which I do not wish for! 🙂
Post # 15
I’ve definitely thought about things like this…. I was 20 when I had my munchkin… my mom was 20 when she had me…. AND her mom was 16 when she had her (was pretty normal for the culture… she was married already to my gp)… Becuase of that though my grandma has gotten to see my munchkin and is still young enough to enjoy him… I’m thankful that she’ll be around to see the children DH and I have and hopefully them grow up. My other grandparents are in their 70s so I’m glad they’ve gotten to see me get married and enjoy the munchkin… hopefully we’ll get many more years still so they can see more =)
I do hope that I’ll get to see the same things my grandparents have gotten =)
Post # 16
I never think of any of this… like a pp said you can die at any age… I just live in the moment and try not to worry about things that are totally out of my control. If I live to see my grandkids I’ll feel blessed and happy I wont be disappointed that I didnt get to see great-grand kids