Post # 1
and now I feel guilty about having been such an awful waiting bee at times.
SO, along with everyone in his office, were told this week that they were being retrenched. So come the end of April he will be unemployed unless he finds something ASAP, and in the current job market that may be extremely difficult!
We’ll be fine on my salary as far as day to day living and expenses are concerned, but there is no chance we’ll be able to get a ring or save for a wedding.
This whole situation has kinda hit me for a six but it’s also made the waiting easier. It’s made me realise how important it is just to have him with me and that we make things work. I’m more worried about how this situation will affect him emotionally than a ring. I’m not even interested in engagement anymore or a timeline. I just want him to find a job that he will be happy in and take things from there. It sucks knowing we realistically can’t buy a ring or even come up with a potential wedding date but this situation has made it almost easier to accept the waiting (if that makes any sense).
I’ve been telling myself “good things come to those who wait.”
We read about weddings having to be postponed due to finances etc, or brought forward due to illness but have any waiting bees have something similar happen? Ever have to put a hold on the ring buying, engagement or have to revise or totally forget about a timeline due to unforeseen circumstances?
Post # 3
I am sorry this has happened to you but it sounds like he is such a lucky guy to have such a strong and positive future wifey. It sounds like you guys have such a strong foundation for whenever you are able to get married . We had to postpone getting engaged and married because he had to finish grad school which is $$$$$; and while it was hard waiting at the time, looking back I am glad I had to wait. We have grown so much since then (3 years) and I finally feel like we are really really ready to get married now and it was all worth it.
Post # 4
oh for sure, i can relate to not focusing on waiting so much when something unfortunate happens. i waited 2 yrs total for a ring, the 2nd year most of that time my Fiance was unemployed,
part of me atleast felt relieved because now its a valid reason why he couldnt get the ring. but another part of me felt stress to solely provide and support him (which i did) it was rough. i also felt bad for him after seeing his endless job search for so long, you just want to see them happy.
but as soon as he got another job, i felt like celebrating! shortly after i got my ring, so all is well now. itll be 5 years together this august, it was worth the wait. hope your guy is able to find something else! i
Post # 5
Ohh I am so sorry to hear that he is losing his job. I am sure he wont be looking for work for too long.
But you are right though – sometimes its the bad things in life that really cement our feelings for the other person.
Post # 6
This happened to us- I had my ring picked out and we were going to use the income tax refund for it. My ring was $4500 and my fiance was getting back over 6K. However, before the money came in, expenses started happening- $1500 went to a car repair alone… so instead of pushing the engagement back, we got a cheaper ring and will upgrade later.