Post # 1
I recently got engaged and am currently planning a May 2014 wedding (while I’m in med school and he works full time, because we are crazy apparently!). Anyway, I was wondering what your thoughts are on using a borrowed wedding dress (that was previously used, by my sister). I am extremely petite (5’0″) so I know any dress I buy is going to have to be tailored like crazy. My sister’s on the other hand is simple, fits well enough that only minor alterations, AND is a dress that I pulled off the racks and said (in a half joke) “Now this is my dream dress so don’t even think about it!”.
In short, there is a dress that would be realitively easy to alter that I absolutely love, and also happens to be free… with the only caveat being that it was my sisters. What are your thoughts? Should I go looking for more dresses just to see? Use this dress and not look back since there is just so much other (and more important stuff) to be done?
Thanks for your help
Post # 3
@Spartanbee: I guess I’m mainly just wondering how you feel about wearing your sister’s dress! I personally wouldn’t want to do it, because i’d feel like everyone already saw her in it. All that being said, it would be kind of sweet as a family dress – are there ways that you could make it your own?
Post # 4
@Spartanbee: I say that if your sister doesn’t mind you wearing her dress, go for it! If you love it enough to wear it, just do it!
Post # 5
I think it just depends on how you feel about it. I’m the oldest, and if my sister one day asks to wear my dress, I would be so touched, but at the same time I would encourage her to try other options. She is always used to hand-me-downs, and I would want her to feel so special and just like HER- not her dressing up like me. I would at least look at other dresses. Your sister’s might be right for you, but you might regret never looking and not knowing if it was your dress
Post # 6
How long ago was it since your sister’s wedding? I would also think about whether or not you feel pressure to wear it since you did like it and it’s free – I know I’ve felt a lot of pressure to not spend money if I don’t have to. But the dress is a big deal! You want to feel amazing and look at your photos and be excited about that day all over again. So do a little soul searching and see what you want – nobody else will care and will support you no matter what. They will love it if you go buy your own and love it if you want to wear a borrowed gown.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I would absolutely wear it. I don’t have a sister but if I did and I loved her dress I would wear it. You can always make it “yours” by wearing a different sash, wearing different jewelry etc.
Post # 8
Thank you all for the wonderful perspective (and your kind responses, I was a bit worried when I posted)! I will be trying on her dress again now AND dress browsing/shopping to make sure I don’t rush into it. Thanks again for your thoughts!