Something else to stress about…

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016


I was going to suggest a first-look to get some photos out of the way before the ceremony. But you are anti-first look.

You could do some family portraits of your side, and bridal portraits with your bridal party prior to the ceremony outside. Are there indoor locations (either at your venue or elsewhere) that would make good locations for couples portraits after the cermony? Did you have your heart set on an outdoor photo location? If the inside of your ceremony location appeals to you (I’m assuming it’s inside because it’s mid-November) that might make a good location for some photos. But you won’t have natural light to work with after your ceremony- if that’s something that you really wanted.

Also with the timing of your ceremony, when were you planning to start the reception/how long were you planning to spend on photos?  It’s good to come up with a rough time-line.

Post # 3
1528 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think a first look is your best bet but if you are against that, take a look at this post which will give you some great ideas for indoor wedding photos in Boston.  My only other idea is to move your ceremony up by a half hour or so so at least you can get some outdoor pics with your husband after the ceremony. You can get a lot of your family pics done before the wedding in natural light.

Post # 5
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Prettysmile40:  I didn’t want to do a first look either, but sometimes it’s just the most practical option.

Post # 6
3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Natural lighting will always result in the most flattering photos, there’s no way around that. I get that you don’t want the first look to happen, but I really think it’s your best bet if you want to have nice photos of the two of you for your wedding day. The good thing is that the wedding is still a couple of months away, so you have time to come to term with the idea and make the best out of it. Find a nice location where the two of you can meet up, and I’m sure it’s going to be really special too.

For all it’s worth, my husband and I meet before entering the church and it didn’t take away anything from the moment – if anything it helped me keeping my nerves in control! 

Post # 7
70 posts
Worker bee

On the plus side, “sunset” means when the sun starts to set- you’ll still have a good amount of twilight after that for photos.


However, Every person I’ve ever spoken to who did a first look was extremely glad they did, and I’ve spoken to couples who didn’t and ended up regretting it. You get to have this private special intimate moment before the ceremony, and it will still be a thrill for him to see you walk down the aisle because you’ll be in that moment. Plus, you can always add the veil for the aisle or some other special feature.

Keep in mind, even if the light is good, unless you have a super short ceremony, you haven’t left yourself much time to take pictures in general if the reception starts at 5.

Post # 10
1528 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Usually the photographer will arrange a moment between just you and him. From the pictures I’ve seen, usually the groom is standing somewhere with his eyes closed and the bride remains hidden and then she approaches him, and the photographer captures the reaction when they see each other for the first time. You can set aside a half hour or so for your ‘first look’ and then have your families/bridal parties meet you there. At the wedding I was in last summer, the bride and groom did their first look out in the garden and the bridal parties remained in their suites (us girls watched the first look from the window). The photographer then sent someone to come get the girls and guys to take group shots once he was done with the first look. If you google ‘first look photos’ you will see some gorgeous shots and it will give you some ideas.


Post # 12
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

A first look is going to be your best bet, definitely. However, mid-November is pretty brown and dead here though, so inside might be a better bet anyways!

Some ideas for indoor photos: the Public Library (gorgeous!), the MFA, the ICA, the Opera House, the Skywalk Observatory, the State House, maybe the historical hotels like the Omni Parker House. You might require permission for some of these places, so check beforehand.

Post # 14
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Come to Australia for your wedding, in november sunset isn’t till 8:30-9:00. (I can’t even get my head around sunset at 4:30 half the day would be in the dark.)  Since that probably won’t happen, talk to the photogropher I’m sure they deal with sort of thing all the time. They might have some good ideas. 

Post # 15
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

HappyK:  Where in Australia are you? I’m in Brisbane and I certainly have never seen a sunset as late as 8:30-9pm… maybe 7pm at best?

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