(Closed) Something his aunt said…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

How many times has she met you? What did your SO say?

I would be upset by that too.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

How rude!!  Why will it be two more years if he’s saying things like that now?

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Oh, that’s rather rude! I’d be a bit stung, too. I’m sassy, so I’d likely be all ‘U-r-a-c-i-l, Uracil. You should remember this one, it’ll be the last one you need to learn ;-)’

But that would depend on if they’re stuffy aunts or if they’d play along and it would make them realize that they were a bit rude with their comment. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

“It’s [Uracil], it’s a pleasure to meet you again – I believe we last met at [Christmas, as well as the last two Thanksgivings and Debbie’s wedding].  Will we see you at [Thanksgiving/John’s wedding]?”

Really, being rude will only hurt you later, even though what she said was rude.  About the best you can do is say “well, I plan on staying” but that’s in your face, so better to avoid entirely and instead remind her of why she really ought to try to remember you by listing family gatherings you’ve both been at.  Then mention future plans you’re making to suggest you’re around for the long haul.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Uracil: Oh don’t get me wrong.  If that happened to me, I’d be sputtering and not think of anything to say at the moment. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

wow that was rude. why can’t people think before they speak?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

W-oo-w. Classy lady… I would be stung, too. Though I probably wouldn’t handle it the way I’d want to (lots-a-sass!) and instead would just smile, looking sad and hurt, and move on. If you’re happy with him, just keep dating and see where things go. Once she gets a wedding invitation maybe she’ll learn to remember your name.

I am curious, too, what your BF said?

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

Ugh….just ugh.

I’ve been told similar things that while aren’t that rude….are pretty awful.

I sympathize, and glad that your SO was appalled as well. Just as he should be. 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I think the best thing you can do is kill them with kindness and bite your tounge you dont want to say anything that will come back to bite you in the butt when you get engaged, some people are just rude/nasty by nature and all you can do is try to not let it get to you

Post # 14
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Newbee

Don’t feel too bad!  My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half years and his dad kept calling me a totally different name last week haha.

 

Although I agree she was very rude.  Just shrug it off and don’t let it bother you.  They’ll see eventually that you’re there for the long haul.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

My boyfriend’s grandmother used to call me his ex-girlfriend’s name (right after we started dating).  His grammy is a really nice old gal and she didn’t mean anything by it. He had been with his ex, a former friend of mine, for quite some time, but they broke up long before we ever started seeing each other and it stung like hell. The second or third time she did it, I ran out of the room and cried, which was totally embarrassing for me as well as for his granny, who didn’t say it maliciously in the slightest. Fortunately, it’s been a year and a half since that incident and she has made sure to get my name right ever since!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Aw, she was probably just trying to be funny. But yeah, that sucks 🙁

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