Something I hadn't considered… hotel rooms for wedding party? Advice please!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You definitely aren’t responsible for arranging and paying for lodging for your WP.  And the only transportation you really need to provide is between the ceremony and reception locations if they are different – which doesn’t apply to you.  It’s nice to help organize transportation to the wedding, but, in my experience, the WP is on their own to get home.

Post # 3
1532 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No, you are not responsible to pay for this. You are responsible for giving them advice. Even though they are close by, they may not know any info on the hotels or taxi services in the area. You may want to look up the different hotel options and see if there are any deals going on. But you are in no way responsible for paying for their transportation and lodging.

Post # 5
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree that you have no responsibility to provide hotel rooms for the wedding party.

I do think the bride should provide (make that organize) transportation from wherever you are getting ready to the church, and from the church to the reception.  That doesn’t necessarily mean paying for taxis, limos etc, just aking sure that everyone has a ride.

After the reception they are normally on their own to get home.

Post # 6
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

MrsRevolutionize:  Totally agree, you’re the bride, not the den mother….people can get their own rooms if they want.

Post # 7
2916 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

No the couple should not have to pay for the hotel rooms of your guests, including the bridal party

Post # 8
1622 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I dont feel you should be responsible for this. When you accept the responsibility to be in the wedding party, your accept financial responsibility as well. You should only provide the lodging if you choose too.

Were having an elopment/ destination wedding and we are paying for the entire weekend for our two best best friends. Were not having a wedding party, they are our witnesses. They just graduated law school and it will be a perfect thankyou/ congratulations gift to them. But everyone else is on their own!


Post # 9
5767 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think if you offered to pay for taxi service back and forth for them, it would be a lovely gesture and very generous. People like to have their drinkies at a wedding, especially if it is only a cocktail reception, and while they all should be responsible enough to figure out how to avoid drink driving, it’s always very kind and gracious when someone takes the time and effort to make it easy and affordable for you!

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