Post # 1
So… am I supposed to spring for hotel rooms for the bridal party if they live locally but will still have to drive home?!
Our wedding is in mid-August, so we’re getting close, and I just realized that I hadn’t considered at all hotel rooms for the wedding party. We’re having a small ceremony and cocktail reception and afterwards we’re walking down the street from the venue to a bed and breakfast that we’ve booked up, but there’s only three rooms, and two of them are already claimed. We don’t have a lot of out of town guests (we have 3 couples that are out of town, and they’re all staying with their families) so I never thought to do a room block. Also, transportation isn’t really a consideration, because we’re a small enough wedding that we can easily travel between hair/makeup appointments and the venue in regular cars, and the entire shindig is going down at one place.
But… am I supposed to book hotel rooms for the wedding party? And then transportation for them? Are they supposed to just… get home on their own? I honestly never considered any of this, and now I’m wondering if I’ve made a huge etiquette faux-pas! I can definitely still get rooms at a hotel, but then I’d have to splurge for some sort of transportation too, right…? And that’s not in the budget :S I guess I just assumed that everyone would get themselves home somehow…
Help! Advice! What do I do?
Post # 2
You definitely aren’t responsible for arranging and paying for lodging for your WP. And the only transportation you really need to provide is between the ceremony and reception locations if they are different – which doesn’t apply to you. It’s nice to help organize transportation to the wedding, but, in my experience, the WP is on their own to get home.
Post # 3
No, you are not responsible to pay for this. You are responsible for giving them advice. Even though they are close by, they may not know any info on the hotels or taxi services in the area. You may want to look up the different hotel options and see if there are any deals going on. But you are in no way responsible for paying for their transportation and lodging.
Post # 4
koi424: RunsWithBears: Phew! Thanks so much for helping to clarify! I was terrified that I’d completely missed something, hahah.
Post # 5
I agree that you have no responsibility to provide hotel rooms for the wedding party.
I do think the bride should provide (make that organize) transportation from wherever you are getting ready to the church, and from the church to the reception. That doesn’t necessarily mean paying for taxis, limos etc, just aking sure that everyone has a ride.
After the reception they are normally on their own to get home.
Post # 6
MrsRevolutionize: Totally agree, you’re the bride, not the den mother….people can get their own rooms if they want.
Post # 7
No the couple should not have to pay for the hotel rooms of your guests, including the bridal party
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
I dont feel you should be responsible for this. When you accept the responsibility to be in the wedding party, your accept financial responsibility as well. You should only provide the lodging if you choose too.
Were having an elopment/ destination wedding and we are paying for the entire weekend for our two best best friends. Were not having a wedding party, they are our witnesses. They just graduated law school and it will be a perfect thankyou/ congratulations gift to them. But everyone else is on their own!
Post # 9
I think if you offered to pay for taxi service back and forth for them, it would be a lovely gesture and very generous. People like to have their drinkies at a wedding, especially if it is only a cocktail reception, and while they all should be responsible enough to figure out how to avoid drink driving, it’s always very kind and gracious when someone takes the time and effort to make it easy and affordable for you!