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Well we've been doing great and are having a vacation (T, my son and I) in 2.5 weeks and having a blast this summer.

Last night was his birthday and we had a good time.  we took him out to dinner and we got him the most awesome cake!!! Very small, but four layer almond cake w/strawberry slices inbetween the layers and buttercream!  Yum.  Great night.

Aftewards, my aunt (the designer one) called and was discussing my son's birthday (almost 2 mos away) and then I told her it was T's birthday..she asked to speak to him and they chatted for about 10 minutes.

During that talk I heard what sounded like (she has a rather distinct voice) she was asking him about us.  I heard multiple yes's and her laugh really loud and then him say "yes that would be perfect" after she asked him about our vacation and then "yes, that is the plan".  He walked away from me after that to talk to her and he was very happy and sounded somewhat sneaky towards the end of their convo and he handed the phone back to me.

I get  the phone back and my aunt (a very discerning woman and one who truly speaks her mind and wouldn't be afraid to ask him what his plans were for me) said "Well he is the one..WE will keep him!" She sounded also strangely overjoyed too.  Strangely.

After we got off the phone, within five minutes my mother calls (yes the mom..ya'll know).  She too sounded wierd.  Strangely super happy and all exuberant.  Like this, "Hey Belle! What are you two doing tonight?" .  And then just about nothing and she finally wished T a happy birthday.  Both she and my aunt were behaving wierdly and super strangely happy.

My mother also admitted my  aunt called her! Something strange is afoot at the Circle K!(Bill and Ted's excellent adventure)!!!

I know THEIR usual patterns of behavior.  T's birthday is a nice thing to them, but not to the level of the enthusiasm that I heard on the phone last night.  It was as if I had something to tell them but they weren't sure if I knew about it.  Like they were waiting for me to talk to them.

Then last week T bought alot more insurance.  He's my little Alex Keaton and super conservative in his spending and finances although extremely wise. (great businessman he is).  He made a huge deal of telling me how much more he bought.  I was like "Oh that's good to be prepared." (me sorta clueless).  He said "well I hope this makes you realize that this was for you (and son) to secure things for good."  He mentioned it again the other day.

So somebody knows something.  And they're not telling me.  I think things may be a bit closer but am totally not going to expect a thing.  So somewhere between Friday night and our tradition of seeing the Harry Potter movies on opening night and T and my son building a tree fort with his friends on saturday and a visit to a no. georgia festival by a mountain lake on sunday and the vacay in a few weeks, I think something may very well happen rather soon.

Did any of your relatives do something wierd or act strange if they KNEW it was getting ready to happen?  Did you guy tell any relatives first?  

Well we KNOW we're getting married and everybody known for a year now that was the intention..but no ring.

Maybe this is soon. 

Everything is just wierd though.  My father is not with us anymore (he's been gone 10 years now..) and my mom is well..my mom (see other post about this one) so who does he really have to ask?  I have no idea.

My aunt did invite us again to CA soon and we'll go when we can but it won't be anytime soon. 

I guess it's a wierd sitch because he has really nobody's permission to ask you know?  But these two women (my great aunt who is my grandma's way younger sis and my mom) were behaving super strangely.  I have not know immediately my aunt to call my mom that quickly. 

Despite my mom's strange recent behaviors (with her bf) she was acting so happy..so unusually happy and upbeat and almost mom-like again!  So that was great.

I am just not one to hold my breath about a damn thing though.  I'll believe it when the post is being typed and the pics of it uploaded HERE I tell ya!

Much love to everybody.  It is a fun yet unique phase we're in right now.

I know he could not tell my son.  My son would sing like a bird..lol!  And of course..he CAN be paid off !!!

I'm just ready to finally get on with stuff.  We've known what we want for a long time.  I'm just ready for him to put this into gear and go!  

Yep.  We'll have wi-fi at our condo.  Of course I'd let you know. 

But when it happens.  I plan to throw everybody here for a loop.  Just be fore-warned!!!  lol!  I am somewhat goofy you know.

Did I mention that I love everybody?  Ya'll are so sweet..thanks for listening to my drivel.

I hope so too..it's one of those things.  Everybody already knows.  He's said it's going to happen and not that far off.  But I am deliberately NOT asking a damn thing about it at all.  Seriously!  I really am not asking about the ring and its landing date.  Haven't inquired about it since we had our "discussion" about me not wanting to hear about stuff until it's "landed".

You're right Oracle..that's what I'm doin'.  NOTHING.  Not a thing about it.  I am very very calm about the whole sitch. 

Ask me this again in December if this hasn't happened and I may give you a different answer though..

Thanks Oracle.  he's a very loving, loyal person.  My friend at work said..."hey you can buy more life insurance too..but can't you also buy "ring or jewelry" insurance or riders also if you're doing some insurance upgrades??"

Makes me think a little.  But I get myself into trouble when I do the thinkin' hard thing outside of work..

Of course he would not tell me that.  and I refuse to ask him!!! lol!

I am deliberately NOT asking the boy anything about getting the formal engagement accomplished ever.  Never ever again.  If he does it, he does it. He knows what kind of ring I want, knows my size already (did the thing where he pretended to see how small my finger was in comparison to his and put my ring on his pinkie and then said "wow..you're hands are small.  do you wear a five or five and a half on your ring finger?" and he asked what shape and he gave carat size suggestions already six months ago.  We had an hour long discussion on what engagement ring I wanted.

We'll see what Mr. Alex Keaton has up his sleeve if anything.

I'm just not sweating this.  I dunno why.  Just not anymore.  Guess that is good. 

Fingers crossed!

I know I know..the vacay sounds perfect, but I have made him not mention anything for some time.  We had our "ring planning session" about six months prior..but then again he has a perfect memory and can recall something I said last year on a tuesday at 2 pm on a saturday...he really can.

I don't know if it's lack of sanity or the fact I've been exhausted as of late with work and stuff that is making me laid back about stuff.  I'm just not worried.  But if we're still here waiting in december, HE should be the one who is worried.  I'm an older bee here and what is good for somebody 25 isn't good for somebody who's 30..and what's good for somebody who is 35 isn't a good timeline for somebody who just turned..gasp..40!  Time takes on a different meaning unfortunately the older you get.  I want "options" when I am still (at least on the outside and my silly sense of humor) somewhat young-ish.

So if he doesn't walk the walk by december I myself might do a bit of walking if you know what I mean.  And I'm good with that too.  I personally don't think I'll ever have to get to "that point" though.

Just laying my thoughts and honesty out here. 

Well to his defense, I am not sure what is exactly happening if anything is at all.  I just know that there's silence now..not heard a peep from my mom or my aunt.  We'll see what's happening soon enough. 

Maybe it's a bit conceited of me, but I'm not worried even if I don't get engaged by what I consider a reasonable timeline (since he says we'll be married by this time next year and I say we need a MINIMUM of 6 months to plan things due to merging of 2 households and a little wiggle time to plan).  I just think everything is gonna be ok.

Who knows.  It could be now, it could be in a few months, but he knows I believe, deep down that I am keeping score and watching the timeclock. 

I've been thru alot in my last decade.  After going thru the divorce with xh, seeing him remarry the day after our divorce and simply SURVIVING after that and them have a baby 3 months later, I think I could survive anything.  Heck, I think I have.