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Something "old" -- mom says this doesn't qualify!

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    Wannabe-diy-bride    September 17, 2011   North Dakota

    Something blue - I have a blue ribbon in my garter, also blue undies
    Something new - my dress, shoes, etc
    Something borrowed - a brooch from my stepmother, I'm wearing it in my hair
    Something old - my diamond stud earrings I got from FI 2 years ago (wearing them in my 2nd holes)....and technically the brooch is old.

    So...methinks my mom is just jealous that my stepmom has something going on me rather than her...so she's frantically trying to find somehting "old" that will work because she doesn't think that the earrings qualify!

    The things she mentions I don't WANT to use....they're ugly and don't fit anywhere! So she might "make" me put an old coin in my shoe...which to me that just sounds annoying. Do I just do that to make her happy and feel like she's contributed to this tradition?

     
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    Miss Apricot    May 30, 2009   Minnesota

    To be fair, I don't consider two-year old earrings to be old, either.  Does she have a pair of earrings that you could wear?  Or a ring? Something?  Or something from your childhood/teen years that you could wear, or sew into the lining of your dress?  

     
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    Armetus    October 13, 2012   Shorewood, IL

    I'm with Miss Apricot and your mom...2 years isn't "something old" =(

     
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    melodicsighs1    May 22, 2010   San Diego

    I agree that the diamond earrings can't really be considered "old", but the brooch could certainly be considered both "old" and "borrowed" I think. It seems like the real issue here is that your mom feels left out because you're honoring your stepmom by wearing someting of hers, but nothing of your moms. Why don't you look through your mom's stuff with her so you can maybe pick out something you like of hers? That way she feels honored too and you don't have to "give in" to the things she's suggesting that you don't like.

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    If you want the brooch to be your something old then why dont you let your mom give you something borrowed. It could be anything like a handercheif or locket attached to your bouquet. I dont really think your earrings are old either. But  you dont have to the "Something Old, something  new tradition.." if  you dont want to

     
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    stillme    October 2010  

    Yes, just let her put an old coin in your shoe. It's worth it to make your mom happy, and no one will see it. 

     
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    Wannabe-diy-bride    September 17, 2011   North Dakota

    Thanks everyone.

    I can't really go look at her stuff with her because she lives 10 hours away, and she leaves today to come here. I'm sure she is bringing a few things with her. I will probably go with the old coin and just tape it into my shoe or something so it's not all over the place in there. :)

     

     

     
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    Glue the coin to the bottom of your shoe so it won't hurt.  ;-)

     
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    RachelD    September 17, 2011   Central NY

    Yes, honor her request if that's all she's asking.

     
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    sarahbabs    September 8, 2012   NYC, wedding in the Hudson Valley

    @RachelD: Agreed!

     
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    Moja Milosc    September 24, 2011  

    I always thought the something old was something you already owned, not like antique.

    It's a rhyme, I'm sure there's no age requirements on the something old. Do what you want.

    If you do the coin you can sew it into a little pouch of fabric to make it more comfortable to have in there.

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    Anything that is not purchased brand new for the wedding is old. So your mom is incorrect.

     
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    julies1949      

    I agree with the pp. The real issue likely is that you won't have anything that belongs to your Mom, but you will have something from your stepmother.

    Rather than have something  uncomfortable in your shoe, or glue a penny onto your shoe, I would make a little pocket inside the dress, easily done by hand with a little square of fabric or bit of lace. Whatever your Mom brings you can go in the pocket.

     

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