- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Hi @Kat212: Sounds like a really sweet idea, and that you are an incredible friend.
That said… with the Wedding so far off, I am guessing that you’ve just recently made the committment to be a Bridesmaid for her.
So I offer up this…
I see so many posts here on WBee where either the Bride or the Bridesmaids (mostly Bridesmaids) are overwhelmed by how much the whole Wedding can end up costing them any or all of the following:
Shower Organization – Bachelorette Party – Bridal Party Gift for the Bride – Dress – Shoes – Hair & Make Up – Manicure & Pedicure – Transportation to the Wedding City – Accommodations (several nights) – Wedding Present for the Bride & Groom etc
It can really add up quickly…
So altho adding on something else monthly might be a marvellous idea, I’d be a little cautious on adding a lot more expenses that you’ll be carrying.
Hope this helps,
@This Time Round: Thanks for the cautionary advice. I am well aware of the associated cost of being in the wedding. (I just got married last year, and my friend was my MOH). We have been best friends since we were six and my brother is her FI. Cost isn’t so much a concern, I am just having a hard time coming up with something unique for each month.
@This Time Round: Always stellar advice!
@Kat212: I was recently a bridesmaid and, as TTR said, I was pretty shocked at how much money it ended up entailing. Not just dresses and parties…. but lunch dates to help the bride pick vendors, gas money to meet her at venues, brunch that led to coffee that led to dinner that led to drinks because she was having a bridal melt-down.
So, I’d say maybe set a day aside every day but tell her that’s your “bride’s beotch” day. It can be for whatever she needs- bitch session, DIY hot-glueing party, envelope stuffing, crying over what color veil she should get…. your time is going to be the most appreciated…. and setting the dates for it now will keep you from being over-worked and her from feeling like she’s constantly asking for your help.
@Kat212: You are such a sweetie! She’s very lucky to have such a wonderful friend.
I agree that it’s nice to think of low cost ideas. What about talking to her about having a regular Bride/MOH night once per month? You guys could do whatever works that month – help her with DIYs, have wine and moan about finding a venue, get mani/pedi’s before her shower…etc! I think she’ll be so elated to know that you are genuinely excited to help with her wedding.
This isnt’ quite what you were asking but it’s an idea. For my sister’s wedding, I knew I wanted to make her a scrapbook/photobook of the whole “engagement process” after the wedding was over. I wanted it to include all the big events (engagement party, showers, bachelorette, rehersal dinner) but also lots of fun “behind the scenes” tid bits that would be forgotten, or that she wouldn’t have seen on her own. To do this effectively I
– made sure to bring my big camera and take lots and lots of pics at every event
– saved emails (for example, the email where the bridesmaids kicked off planning the bachelorette party)
– kept notes to make a cool timeline of events (Sept 3 – Venue booked, Sept 19 – wedding shoes purchased, Dec 5 – bridal shower…etc)
– saved various “artifacts” such as menus and invitations from important events so that I could scan them and include them in the book
– put the word out to the BMs to take “behind the scenes” photos when they prepared for events (for example, one of the BMs made her an AMAZING cake for a particualr party and took all these great photos of the baking & decorating process).
At the end of the day I was able to pull all these little tid bits together to make a really cool book that looked back on the whole process and even included lots of surprises and things she hadn’t seen before.
@cbgg: this is sooo amazing I am making a behind the scene scratchbook for my own wedding at this time. I just took a picture (and copy of my letters) and I will be taking lots of pictures of our excursions together. Not only is your wedding party there for you but you are there for them I plan on giving them photo books at the end of the wedding with all the amazing fun we had. Each one will have the name of the BM the Date of our wedding and I am really happy to see that you are doing that for your bride.
I agree with 1 day per month to do whatever she needs! Helping with DIY or visiting venues or just having wine and bitching about family drama. She’ll be greatly appreciative!