Post # 1
So last night my friend and I were breezing thru Walmart as two mid twenties girls do when they’re too broke to go out on a Friday night and we stumbled across something that bothered both of us to the core.
While we were careening thru the shoes *yeah, careening….right. More like moving like molasses and trying on every shoe in the place* we stumbled across a little family of four, a mom, a dad, and two children under the age of 8. The kids were a little girl *maybe 6* and a little boy who couldn’t have been more than 3. We had heard the little boy for the last few minutes whining to mom about needing to go potty, and mom said we’re almost done.
The whining started to get worse, and started to turn into slight cries. Again mom told him to wait and that she would take him once they were done. *Note, in this Walmart, you can SEE the toilets from the aisle they were in shopping for shoes for the little girl* When he continued to cry, the dad/father figure, told him to shut up and that they would be done soon. Each time he says something his parents become increasingly mean and the dad/father figure eventually told him to shut the F up. By this point, the little boy is crying and holding his crotch and trying to climb out of the basket to take himself to the bathroom since they wouldn’t do it.
We were about to go up to them and beg for them to take their child to the bathroom when a Walmart employee beat us to it. Finally, finally! The dad got up from the seat he was sitting on and took him to the bathroom. It broke both of our hearts, and my friends’ especially since she works for a preschool and has seen things like that completely derail/or reverse successful potty training.
Now, for the opinion part, if you saw something like that happen in a busy store, would you go up to the parent and ask them to actually pay attention to their child, or would you let somebody else sort it out?
Post # 3
That’s awful. I’m not a confrontational person so I would probably be reluctant to confront them, especially since most people like this would probably be no more likely to listen to a stranger than to their child. If it got to the point that it did in your story, though, I would probably feel compelled to say something.
Post # 4
@kgirl91: I felt so bad because at first we couldn’t figure out what he was saying and just thought he wanted some toy. It wasn’t until we got within two aisles that we could figure out what was going on and by that point we were trying to figure out the best way to go up to them. Neither of us are confrontational either.
Post # 5
What shitty parents. I don’t care if I just started trying on the shoes or whatever. It’s a terrible feeling for me as an adult to have to wait to use the restroom. Honestly I can’t believe that poor little boy didn’t pee his pants. If there were an employee nearby, I’d ask them to help with the situation. If not, I’d feel compelled to ask if I can be of any help and take the kid myself. Ugh, what a horrible situation for the kid.
Post # 6
Yeah, I would be just all “Hey, take the kid to the bathroom already.” Because really, I have no desire to see a kid piss himself in public. Parenting questions aside (obviously bad parenting), it’s rude to subject everyone to the whining/worries of aisle flooded with pee.
Post # 7
That’s awful! I would absolutely feel compelled to say something to the parents directly, however I would probably get a very arrogant stare and told to mind my own business. How terrible for the little boy 🙁
Post # 8
I wouldn’t say anything, because I am too non-confrontational. However, if Darling Husband were with me, he would DEFINITELY say something.
But, I might offer to walk the child to the restroom with an employee since they clearly won’t do it themselves. How sad for the child 🙁
Post # 9
No I wouldn’t say anything. It’s not my role to tell someone how to parent. But yes, I would be annoyed and feel incredibly bad for the child. Good job Walmart employee!
Post # 10
I think I might say something if I wasn’t alone. You never know how people will react to you interfering. At the very least, I would probably ask an employee to say something since their uniforms at least lend a small amount of authority/credibility… “Sorry Sir, it’s store policy that all children must be let to go to the bathroom as soon as possible.”
Post # 11
Sadly I see that quite often. I’m a manager in a department store. When I’m working I’ll say, “excuse me just wanted to let you know our rest room are xyz I know your son has to go. I’d be happy to hold your items while you take him”. They are usually very pleasant & grateful, every once in a while I get some attitude. I also say something with people trying to get strollers on the escalator, the elevator is right there you’ll be much more comfortable & its so much safer. When I’m just shopping I might say something, nothing nasty just hey you know the bathrooms over by such and such. If the parents don’t seem friendly I’ll just mind my business.
Post # 12
That sucks. Sadly I see way worse things all the time. It is weird- do they want him to go in his pants?
Post # 13
How horrible! I worked with preschool age children as well. This is not healthy for kids on so many levels. And, can we all say bladder infection!! Instead of talking to the parents, I would say something to the kid like, ‘You really have to go potty, huh? You’re being so patient, I’m sure your mom or dad is going to take you soon.’ This would probably engage a conversation with the child and/or parents, or get the parents to take the child to the restroom more quickly.
Post # 14
Horrible! I was a teacher for 15 years and am a nanny now. I have no issue pointing out things to other adults or their kids. I would just point out that the bathroom was not far and available to the public. I feel bad for those kids. 🙁
Post # 15
Ugh i dont know what I would do because i dont like confrontation, or being told what to do. maybe there wasa reason, but I do not agree with making him suffer. I would have wanted to say something, but i wouldn’t. if the childs life was in danger, i’d say something definitely!
Post # 16
That is so HORRIBLE!!!! While I would be very skeptical about approaching someone because I’m a wimp like that, I would become very angry and might call up child services and give a great description of the family what kind of accent they have, where you were. I’m a total wimp especially because people at my Wal-Mart scare me.