- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
So, I have scarring on my back/shoulders. I grew up super self-conscious about it, but when I met FI, he made me feel beautiful regardless. I learned quickly that most wedding dresses are sleeveless, and didn’t think twice about it because for the last 7 years with my fiance I’ve felt beautiful and haven’t thought about my shoulders/back at all.
But during one of my dress shopping trips, my aunt abruptly confronted me with “Woah, you’re considering a sleeveless dress?? Well, you should at least see about getting a chemical peel or some kind of treatment for your back.” My aunt and I were already feuding (see my previous rant post – she was pissed I did not ask her daughter to be a bridesmaid), so I really tried hard to take her comments with a grain of salt, and not take it to heart.
I continued my dress hunt without her, and found a dress I fell in love with. But…. her comments keep ringing in the back of my head, even now, months later. I don’t want to give up my dress, I still love it and have no regret, but now that I have more pictures of me in it… I AM starting to worry about my back and shoulders! I want to try to wear my hair down….. but I don’t think that’s enough. 🙁
A lace bolero would be fantastic (I REALLY love the look of lace boleros!!!) but I’m afraid it would clash with the detail at the top of my dress.
What do you think?? Could I pull off a lace bolero with this dress?? 🙁
I asked this in a previous poll, but responders seemed to steer toward “don’t worry about the scars!! go strapless!” but… I’m still feeling really worried and self-conscious about this…. so if the lace bolero won’t work, please offer other options! 🙁
P.S.: I posted this in Full-figured because I am a plus size bride, and that adds its own insecurities as well… like my flabby arm fat. 🙁 BAH!
Oh! Here’s my dress so you can see what I mean about my shoulders/back:
And the detail of my dress: