- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
My boyfriend really wants to go on a cruise with me… But I am in no financial position to do so. I am graduating in May, and he told me his parents already offered to pay for my cruise ticket (as a graduation gift from them). First of all I feel weird taking such a huge gift from them (especially since it will overshadow the gifts my parents can afford for me)…
But secondly he asked his parents without consulting me and already researched a date that will not work for me. I may be going back to school in the fall, which he knows about, and yet he still was looking at a cruise in October.
A few weeks ago he mentioned me going to France ( he goes for work) with him in August, which is also a bad time for me because that is the month that I make the most money at the restaurant I work at. He knows that I cannot take a week off of work (lose about $1500) AND pay for myself to go to France… So he suggested his parents pay for my flight ticket. Again, too big a present for graduating (at least when you compare it to my family’s gifts), but I also can’t afford the loss/expenses once there!
Part of me feels like I am making excuses… But part of me feels like my boyfriend is not really considering what works well for ME. He just seems to use what worls for him. We’ve had discussions about each option, and I’ve told him that the times just don’t work for me… But I have not mentioned how grand I think the presents are. Should I tell him I cannot accept these gifts because of the money? Should I be grateful for these opportunities and pick to go on one?
I think because I feel my boyfriend didn’t take me into consideration when making these plans, and only focused on what works for him, I feel quite annoyed. So whenever he offers to change an aspect of the plans, I just get annoyed and shut the whole idea down. He got offended at me tonight because I told him I didn’t look at the cruise online anymore… I was spending 10 hours on my thesis today!!
I really have better things to do right now than worry about a vacation I can’t even afford… And the way my boyfriend is shoving them down my throat is really annoying me. I know I should be grateful for these opportunities… But I can’t afford them, and even when they are paid for, I lose money by going…and I’m just annoyed!! Plus my boyfriend has gone on 2 cruises in the last three years… It’s not like he hasn’t had a vacation recently! I’m just not used to living such a luxurious life… And the way he places emphasis on it really irks me. Especially when he complains every day about not having enough money… And yet he wants to go on another $2000 cruise?!? Put your priorities in line, buddy!!!
Thanks for reading… If you made it this far, I commend you! Haha. Basically it all boils down to I like to save money… And my boyfriend likes to spend money…