Post # 1
What is something you specifically included in your ring choice that is avoided by the majority?
Mine would be a high setting. It seems that most don’t like that due to hitting/snagging everything. I actually special ordered my ring to be as high set as possible. I love the look of an obnoxiously high set ring lol…I would like mine higher actually.
What about you bees?
Post # 2
I had to special order my setting in 18K yellow gold because so many settings are not offered in yellow gold. And it is a cathedral setting, so it is too high for many people’s preferences, too. But it is exactly what I wanted.
Post # 3
I feel SO alone in my ring preferences, on this site especially. I love marquise (which I think is the most unpopular shape here,) I love colored gemstones, and I like smaller rings.
Post # 4
I didn’t choose my e-ring, but I asked for no diamond and no prongs. For my wedding band, I wanted a thicker band and no stones.
Post # 5
I love love love yellow gold! White gold is not for me! And so much is only available in white! That and I don’t like pave!
Post # 7
Thicker bands and bezels. Oh, I also love yellow gold and dislike platinum.
Post # 8
My one ‘had to have’ was marquise. I love it, and haven’t seen anyone else with one!
Post # 9
A lot don’t like curved bands. I had two curves bands custom made to create a wrap for my e-ring and I love it sooo much!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I didn’t want a huge honking diamond, but something more vintage. 😀
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
Baguettes! To more they are classic but the jeweler tried to talk me out of them because they don’t sparkle like rounds. also plain matching wedding bands. In other words no stones in the band. Everyone insists I want diamonds in mine. No one in my area stocks plain bands for a woman.
Post # 12
I definitely want colour in my ering! I’m not decided between a blue round or pink marquise sapphire yet. Oh, and I would like a plain wedding band.
Post # 13
i wanted a thicker band and a solitaire. No side anything. i love the ring he chose.
Post # 14
msformaldehyde: a natural, unheated sapphire. I didn’t want a diamond.
Post # 15
Sterling silver. I only wear sterling silver, so I wanted a sterling silver ring. Though the artist making the ring did end up talking me into putting a little bit of rose gold on the bezel, as an accent, because the accent would make the color of my stone (which is a colored gemstone, since I also dislike clear stones, and in particular diamonds) pop more. But most of my ring, and all of my commitment band, are sterling silver. Everyone always goes on about how sterling is “too soft” for a lifetime ring, but that’s not true. With silver, you can get a thicker, stronger band without paying out the nose, and it’s less likely to deform than a thinner band of a more durable metal like platinum. Silver is just as durable, when worked properly, as the high KT golds. The low KT golds are more durable than silver, yes, but both my mother and I have had silver rings that have seen daily wear for years – decades, in her case – and held up just fine. The durability of metal is often determined by whether or not it is properly “work hardened,” not just what kind of metal it is. (And to a certain minor extent, I can work harden it myself, here, without damaging the ring, and add some durability – the specific design of a ring will determine exactly how much I can or cannot do in that area.) In addition, I know how to maintain silver, since it it what I wear and what I myself prefer to work with (I’m a hobbyist jeweler). If something on my ring needs to be fixed, and it’s a minor thing like a buffing job, I can do that myself. Stone resetting will have to be taken in, because of that rose gold accent. I don’t have the experience or equipment to work with gold.
And no, maybe the sterling rings won’t have the resale value of gold rings, but I’m not interested in the resale value of my rings, because I’m not planning on reselling them. I’m keeping these rings. People might say, “Well, what if your relationship ends?” I don’t think anyone understands my view on that clearly. The rings are symbols of our commitment to one another. If our relationship ends, I’m not going to throw the rings against the wall in a fit of tear filled rage. I’m not going to have to part with the rings because I’m not going to be able to stand to look at them. They’re going to become pretty pieces of jewelry at that point, and will no longer be symbols of our commitment. They might be symbols of a happy time in my life, with a man I loved, and good memories. Nothing more. But they won’t be relegated to the “sell at a loss” block just because I can’t handle what’s going on. And if my partner and I had ended up not getting together, and not getting the rings? I would have purchased this same set for myself at some point, as a token of my independence. And I probably would have worn them on my left ring finger, just like a wedding set, to flaunt the conventions that say that only married women can wear wedding rings. Because Screw That Noise, and the oppressive idealogies that go with it.