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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    Dear Co-worker

    I did not invite you to my wedding reception for one simple reason - I DO NOT LIKE YOU.  You have irritated me with your constant singing, talking, bragging, self obssesed chat for over 2 years now and I've had enough.  You have admitted (and I'm not that stupid to have not noticed) that you have never liked me, so WHY then are you raging at other co-workers because you didn't get an invite to my wedding.  My FI dislikes you as well and dislikes your treatment of me over the last 2 and a half years.  You are rude, arrogant, obnoxious and get in everyone's face.  STOP talking to people about my wedding!  Admit that you are upset that you are not invited to the wedding as you are about the only one and cannot believe someone in the office dislikes you.  Well live with it because I hate you and contrary to what you might think - Parties DO go off with a bang without you there! You are not necessay to the proceedings OKAY.

    I am looking for another job principally because I cannot WAIT to get away from you!!!

    P.s You are 63 years of age.  GROW THE F**K UP!!!

     
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    Just_Squeeze    September 11, 2010   Ottawa

    @skyeatnight: Wow. She's what I label a bully and she's not worth your stress!

    Dear MIL:

    Thank you for not returning your son's phone call all weekend. When he picked up the phone in front of me on friday night, it took a lot of courage. He did it for me and I love him more for it. But I knew you wouldn't call him back all weekend. Thank you for proving me right. Now I can sit and say without guilt that you are a vindictive witch. I know you or FIL will call him today at his work while I am out of earshot. Just as you always do. I hope he gives you what you deserve. He is sick and tired of your false love. Get ready to hear an ear full.

    Your not so loving DIL.

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @Just_Squeeze: OMG I thought my FMIL was bad!

     
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    soyjoy222    June 1, 2012   PA

    I found a new job b/c I couldn't stand a few people's rotten attitudes at my last position...and I won't invite ANY of them to my wedding! And while we are playing the 'what I wish we could say to others' game...

    Dear Everyone,

    FI and I talked for hours this weekend about how we both do not want a traditional wedding and would go to the courthouse today if we knew that people wouldn't give us grief for the rest of our lives. Sorry I am the only child and all these 'white wedding' dreams are on my shoulders and I have no interest. Sorry I am not the perfect, traditional, poofy dress wearing, dollar dancing type of daughter that you wish I was so you can have a big day with what you want to show off to your friends. I am having nightmares about this wedding because I don't want to do it this way. Please accept how I feel.

    Sincerely, Soy.

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @soyjoy222: :( How awful.

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    Oh, I've got sooooo many, and I can't say the one I really wanna say, damn it.  

    Ok, well, I'll say this: 

    You know who you are (cause I wouldn't be surprised if the person involved knows my SN here and reads what I write):  It's not gonna work.  SO FU!

    Also, to a certain "director" I know:
    A movie with no less than a dozen rape scenes isn't a good movie. It's SHIT and my FI takes MY feelings into consideration.  So guess who isn't going to do shit on your movie?  That's right, MY FI!  

    To another couple I know:

    Since everyone already knows what we're planning for our wedding, the fact that you'll probably try to copy us will be VERY EVIDENT.  Especially since we've told all those who are gonna go to yours and ours what we're planning.  Now who's gonna look the fool?  

    And to another girl I know:

    GROW THE FUCK UP!  

     

    Hmmmm.... I think that's all for now.... 

     
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    soyjoy222    June 1, 2012   PA

    @skyeatnight: weddings bring out the crazy. Your co-worker is proof :)

     
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    gc762    July 9, 2011   Baltimore, MD

    Dear cousin:

    First, you do not add someone to your RSVP who was not invited.  Second, I was nice enough to add him to the guest list.  Third, it would have been nice to know that you, the guest, AND your mother were not coming before the middle of the reception.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    Dear "friends",

    Thanks for proving that friendships really do change once you get married. I am hurt that you still call me your friend, but never ever invite me out to do anything, as just myself or as a couple.  Just because I am married does not mean that our friendship had to change. I'm sorry that I don't like going out to the bar every weekend like you, but I will stop inviting you over, since you either never reply, or say you will come and then never show up.  Don't be surprised when I remove all of you from FB, since I am tired of seeing all your weekend pics posted, especially when you told me that coming over wasn't an option because you wanted to stay in that night. I'm glad going to the bar is more important than hanging out with your "friends".

     
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    gc762    July 9, 2011   Baltimore, MD

    OH, and to my cousin:

    Just because something is old and dirty, does not make it antique. 

     
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    PitBulLover    August 21, 2010  

    Dear friends,

    I love you guys dearly and I am so happy for you guys that you have moved and are happy in your new places. However, this does not mean that I want to move to where you guys live. I grew up there and do not want to move back. I live in a different state now that is only a 15 minute drive from you so stop acting like I live hours away. I am happy in my house and my neighborhood and don't have any desire to come live near you guys just because you are too lazy to sit in traffic to come visit me!

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    @soyjoy222: Yeah, I'm right there with you on that.  I shudder and cringe at the traditional weddings.  It just isn't ME!  I can wear a pure white gown and look awesome in it (or off-white, or ivory) but I am NOT wearing it for my wedding....  Sorry, but the cost just ain't worth it.  They also just don't feel "right".  

     

    @Just_Squeeze: Yikes.  Sounds like she DESERVES a good talking to!!!

     

    @skyeatnight: pity you can't resort to violence.  A good smack upside the head might do her good ;)

     
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    couawilou    October 20, 2012   Toronto, Ontario

    oh boy I also have many, but right now the main one is this:

    Dear Sister,

    I'm very glad to have a niece, do I know her? NO! You live 6 hours away from me, you do not talk to me, nor ask me anything about my life. I e-mail you asking about my niece and how you guys are doing, and all I get is we're good. I ask you if you need anything for my niece, you answered, No but mom does. I already help mom thank you very much! I don't talk to dad you say? Well I do actually, but does he talk to me? No.... you have not asked anything about my FI, YOUR FBIL, nothing about my wedding, nothing... and you expect me to pretend everything is peachy... hmmm.. I think not....

    Good thing this is just a "wish you could say to someone".... yes I know this is harsh, but at the moment that's how I'm feeling.

     

     
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    Just_Squeeze    September 11, 2010   Ottawa

    Thanks guys. He said "Why should I call her if the only time she calls me is when she needs something?" But then he understood that all this secret calling makes me uneasy since I'm the one she hates. So he called her and lo and behold, the phone was silent all weekend. (Yes, he left a voicemail) Should be a fun monday night!!!

     
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    med700    November 5, 2011   Canada

    Love this, although I am sad that the MIL's, co-workers and "frien-emies" involved in these posts have acted horribly enough to warrant such letters.

     

    Dear Best Friend,

    I hurt everytime someone tells me that you aren't giving/supporting/planning events the way I was when you were getting married.  I keep defending you even though you really haven't done anything to deserve it.  I hate how I feel when I defend you and I hate that everyone tells me I'm an idiot for doing so.

     

    Dear Mom and F-MIL,

    I'm tired of your opinions.  I'm tired of your "how about this?" suggestions.  Don't say my wedding day is My Day because we all know its about you guys and you are both slowly making me resentful.

    If you think you will have this much say in my life when FH and I get married and have children, you'd better think again.

    Also - F-MIL - please stop comparing me to your daughter's shot-gun wedding.  The differences are astounding, including a ten year age difference, my full-time, well paying job and the sheer fact that I am a willing participant, unlike your own daughter.  Also, I understand that you planned her entire wedding but I will not let you do that.

    Phew!  that felt good!

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @soyjoy222: How right you are!  What a nasty, ugly evil witch she is. 

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @Zinzerena: LMAO!  I have had dreams of this for a while.  Goes somthing like this *bitch slap* *crack* *dusts hands, feels better, heads off for brand new job* Wink

     
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    UK Bride    November 26, 2011  

    Hmm, I'll bite. 

    Dear church ladies and other assorted busybodies, 

    Why is it that all of you start pouring out of the woodwork to be my friend once I get engaged, even though most of you have not spoken to me for 8 years? Where were you when I needed some support last year after going through a crisis? 

    STOP being smarmy sweet to my face, telling me that it is my wedding and that I can do whatever I want, and then being snarky behind my back about how your feelings are hurt because you, person x, person y, and person z weren't invited, how you can't believe I'm not getting married in my hometown even though NONE of my family live here and BOTH of my fiance's families live in the country where we're getting married (the nerve, right?), how I'm spending too much money on a wedding (even though it's all coming from a super-generous FFIL, not any of you), or how I didn't invite my cousins who I have loathed since the age of 5. Yes, I realize that my envelopes are black. I'm sorry you feel like it looks like a funeral invitation--personally, I like them.  Obviously you do NOT really think it is my wedding, otherwise you guys wouldn't be freaking out.  Most of you didn't even know I was engaged until some other tactless moron waved their save-the-date in front of you at church. You are a group of vindictive cows, and I don't care how long you have known my parents, I do not want any of you to be at my wedding. I can't tell you how glad I am to start over somewhere new. And no, the fact that you support my parents as missionaries does NOT mean that you are entitled to know how much my wedding is costing. I say again, you are a bunch of vindictive, selfish cows who need to get over yourselves and get lives. 

    Love, 

    UK

     

     

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @UK Bride: Mormons?

     
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    UK Bride    November 26, 2011  

    @skyeatnight: nope, good ol' fashioned small-town protestants 

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @UK Bride: REALLY!  Wow.  Religion doesn't make you a nicer person obviously. 

     
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    UK Bride    November 26, 2011  

    @skyeatnight: LOL, no, religion doesn't do anything for a person. I think that relationship with God does, but a lot of these ladies mistake one for the other, sadly. 

     
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    SimplyChic11    December 30, 2011  

    Dear Catty-girls who act above me,

    You overrate yourselves! Please stop posting fake congratulations on my man's facebook, everyone but you seem to realize it's totally 100% fake happiness. It's pretty obvious that you aren't in support of us since you told everyone we were desperate and FI still liked you when YOU turned him down years ago and expected him to stick around you on your unfair yo-yo games. I am glad you moved away and are out of my life for good, but I still hurt over the way you played him up in front of me and made me feel terrible about myself each and every day you belittled me in front of my peers. I hope you realize the reason you are still single is because you are a bitch. Please stop posting catty things over facebook. I don't care how un-classy it may seem, but I am ready to reply and tell you excatly what I think of you.I honestly think your words and actions sent me into the depression I've been facing for months now.

    Dear FSIL,

    Please stop sucking our future family dry of all desire for wedding-stuff in general. You are getting married in 2 months, and I am getting married a few months after you. We have to share our future family and no, I'm sorry, you cannot control everyone in it months before your special day. I try to be nice to you whenever I see you but I can't help but feel resentful now. Seriously. It makes me sad the way you are treating me by leaving me out of everything and yet expecting my fiance to be at your beck and call although he lives with ME now and is far away from you. Stop acting like it's your day every day until your wedding. It's not! I honestly can't wait till your day is over and done with so our future family will have some sanity left.

     

    * there * I feel better!

     

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @UK Bride: Self righteous people obviously. I know Mormons...horrid people with narrow minds (and these are family)

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    @UK Bride: lol, I think I know some of these people!!!!

     

    @skyeatnight: LOL!!!!  If only, right?  

     

    Does it help that I have a co-worker who say something I printed for the wedding and demanded (yes, demanded!) to know who was getting married... and when I said "I am" she again demanded to know when? LOL!  

    I felt like saying, "Lady, I've been wearing a ring on my left hand the LAST THREE YEARS I've worked here.  Did you think I was going to stay engaged FOREVER?????"

     

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @Zinzerena: I didn't realise co-workers were in a position to demand!  Surely we have Unions for this sort of thing lol. Why must we tread a carpet for 8-10 hours a day with these people.  That's one of life's little nasties.

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    @skyeatnight: hehehehe, My FI's family is Mormon.  I adore his siblings (well, I adore two of his three) and his dad.  His mom?  Uh, no.  I get along with her, but.... don't leave me alone with her! PLEASE!

    Oh, and here's another I'd LOVE to tell his younger sister:

    You knew what your husband was like before you married him.  Then after you had your daughter.  WHY THE HELL did you NOT get birth control before you had the twins???  Did you honestly THINK he'd change and help you???  Please.  You got yourself into your shitty situation, now get yourself out.  GROW THE F UP before you kill your parents and older sister by making them drive up to you in MD EVERY STINKING WEEK!  They're YOUR kids, now start learning how to take care of 'em.

     

    Believe me, I'm soooooo tempted to say that to her.  Frequently.  Probably would, too, given the chance.  And her bro, my FI, would be right there with me!

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @Zinzerena: Yep, my FSIL is EXACTLY the same.  This is what I am desperate to say to her.....might actually do it one day :-/  Have kids and take responsibility for them!!

     
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    murmur    April 14, 2012   California

    I changed my mind. That was too sad for this thread.  ^^;

     
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    UK Bride    November 26, 2011  

    @Zinzerena: Ugh, I know what you're talking about! And then a lot of these co-workers expect to be invited once they know you're getting married, right? Seriously, the world is a sad, sad place sometimes... 

     

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @murmur: What was too sad :-(

     
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    skyeatnight    August 13, 2011   UK

    @UK Bride: Yep you are so right.  The "bully" in my work hasn't spoken to me for 3 weeks now because of no invite.  Demented.  She doesn't like me but doesn't want left out.  Weirdo and a little creepy.

     
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    panterapeach    April 2011  

    Dear boss,

    why did I get such a low raise this year?? is it because I spend too much time on WB?

     

     
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    UK Bride    November 26, 2011  

    @skyeatnight: I know, right?? I swear, some people have the social grace of a baboon. As a people pleaser who has a hard time saying no, this kind of scenario has caused so much anxiety! I think I've probably aged 10 years in the last 6 months... thank goodness I'm only planning on getting married ONCE!

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    @skyeatnight: it gets better.  Her daughter is a BRAT.  Uber brat.  Even my FI's parents (who once saw her as an angel and my two as hellions) see her as a brat now!

    Wanna bet your co-worker would probably have RSVP'ed "NO" then bad-mouthed the wedding, anyway?

    @UK Bride: I know!  I'm inviting only a couple from work.  Was gonna invite more, but then I realized I don't hang out with them OUTSIDE work!   (Hehehe, We're not even inviting the one girl who IS related to my FI!)

     
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    murmur    April 14, 2012   California

    Dear 'friends' on FB:

    I already saw this profile picture- 3 days ago, and 2 days before that, and the whole week before that.  And the next profile picture, that was when you were 17, and we saw it yesterday.  GET SOME NEW GOD DAMN MATERIAL AND STOP CHANGING THAT PIC SO MUCH YOU INSECURE PIECE OF WHITE TRASH!!!

     
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    murmur    April 14, 2012   California

    @skyeatnight: yeah, I thought of something more light hearted haha. it had no business being spoken in such a funny thread

     
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    JsDragonfly    December 29, 2009  

    @skyeatnight:  Ouch...I'm mormon and can honestly say none of that happened to me when I got engaged/married.  What gave you the idea?

     
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    Oneeleven    April 7, 1992   Ontario, Canada, Getting married in the Mayan Riviera

    @murmur:

    wow!!  lmao!  I'm a guilty party of pretty much daily changing my profile pic Embarassed

     

    Dear Friend who was supposed to be coming to my wedding,

    I am very glad you're going to now go to India and volunteer and travel that part of the world. I am very glad our boss agreed to let you take off the time to do it.

    I just wish you knew that I am only having a tiny wedding and you were my 'girl'.  I will be sad not to have you there and fear that I won't have any friends, just family.

    Signed,

    The big fat loser

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    @murmur: lol, that's about as bad as the "self-taken phone picture in mirror" photos.  I have one person who's constantly doing that.  Of course, she's also got an on-again-off-again thing with her "fiance'".  

    Dear L on FB:

    If you're gonna date him, date him.  If you're gonna dump him, dump him.  STOP CHANGING YOUR STATUS FROM "ENGAGED" TO "SINGLE" EVERY OTHER WEEK!!!!  

    Seriously, girl, just dump his sorry ass and find someone else who isn't gonna abuse you mentally, emotionally, or physically!!!!

     

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