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but can't...because, well it wouldn't be nice.
I've been having a lot of drama (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/relative-being-horrible) and there are so many things I would love to say to her, but I can't.
What's one thing you wish you could say to someone right now...
To Whom it May Concern,
I did not have a deadline for my boyfriend to propose, what a mean thing to say. My boyfriend likes talking about getting married to me, unlike yours, who wouldn't let you talk about marriage. We talked about him proposing because of the situation...he was asking if it would still be OK. Don't be a jerk.
Quit talking about me behind my back.
Sincerely,
A.G.
To Whom It May Concern,
Just because you two waited years before getting engaged doesn't mean it's wrong for us to get engaged after six months. Just because you decided to save "I Love You" for the wedding night doesn't mean our love is less real when we declare it to the world. Just because you don't want me getting married the same summer as you doesn't mean we're "rushing things." Get over yourself... others being happy shouldn't take away from your own happiness - seems to me you've got a problem of your own!
Sincerely,
DW
To Whom It May Concern,
While I understand that you truly are an expert when it comes to planning weddings (consdering that you have had four of your own in your short 35 years on Earth) I am quite fond of my ideas and decisions and do not need your approval or opinion for every little thing. I know how much you would like for the wedding to be about you but for once in your life, it will be someone elses turn to shine. So sorry about that!
PS--your going out and partying ways are really starting to show. You better stick with the one your with cause you probably won't find hubby number 5.
Anonymous
Dear Mom~
I really wish you would have been as excited about a "wedding" 6 years ago as you are about our vow renewal. I'm sorry that we missed out on the special mother/daughter moments and I really wish you were paying for this. LOL I have expensive taste, you were right. :) Oh well, I'm very excited to be renewing my vows to my wonderful husband in front of our friends and family. But, no...you can't wear white. I'm not even sure I'm wearing it!
~Kate
To Whom It May Concern:
Just because I'm married and over 30 doesn't mean I'm crazy with Baby Fever. We've only been married 4 months! You don't have to ask me every time you see me when we're going to try to have a baby or when you'll "finally" be a grandparent/great-grandparent/great aunt, etc. Believe it or not, the only people who actually get to have an opinion about if we're ready to have a baby are my husband and me. And we're not...so, butt out!
Sincerely,
Jessie
To Whom It May Concern,
your boyfriend proposed and set the same date as we did because he still wants to piss me off. Your ring is recycled.
anonymous
Dear Boyfriend,
Hurry up and propose already! We already know were going to be together forever, why not start not?
Hehehe.
Love,
Me
To Whom It May Concern:
I know you're paying for this wedding, and I appreciate that - I truly, truly do. But if you aren't going to be at all interested in helping plan it, do you really think it's okay for you to criticize my choices? No, I do not want to get married where your friend's kid did. No I do not want to have the exact same wedding as every other one we've ever been to. I have ideas - I am creative. Please let me know you that.
Sincerely,
Amanda
P.S. I research. Alot. So please trust me when I tell you I have found the best deal on something. I promise, it really is the best deal.
Dear Wonderful Man of My Dreams:
POP THE FRIGGIN' QUESTION ALREADY!!! Damn!
Love you smoochies!!
B ~~~~~~~
Dear Mom -
No, it was not okay for you to reply, "Why? Are you pregnant?" after I told you that I was engaged.
Love,
Your only daughter
AND
Dear Bridesmaids -
Even thought my wedding is nearly 3 years from now, it is okay for me to begin planning this extravaganza any darn time I want! AND I'm going to talk about it whenever I want too! You jerks.
Love,
Ronda
lol, the second one made me laugh.. first one, not so much.
To whom it may concern:
Your ridiculously controlling & incredibly mean wife is known as "Hoover" (because she sucks a lot of...) to her entire office. She really isn't the lady you like to think she is & you deserve A LOT better.
Love always,
Me
(oh my... thats been weighing heavily on me.)
(I am loving this thread!)
To Whom It May Concern,
I try to be the considerate one for you my whole life. I wanted to finally give you a wedding you could be proud of. Your oldest, she had two courthouse weddings, one which no one was even told about until after. Your middle, you had a falling out with him and none of us got an invite. Now me, your youngest is getting married and you act as if you couldn't care less. The two times I ask you to go dress shopping with me, you sit there texting or you go outside for 10 minutes. I want to include you, yet you tell me things like "You'd look better if you had make up on." Or you guilt trip me about having my sister in my bridal party....the sister that I have never gotten along with, ever. I'm sorry that you've had three failed marriages. I'm sorry the last one was 15 years of hell. I'm sorry that you're in the middle of divorcing him. I really am. But I'm your daughter. You're last, you're youngest. This is it. I was with you, and experienced the 15 years of hell more then the other two did...shouldn't you be happy that I found someone who doesn't treat me like that? Or are you too busy going through your mid life crisis and acting like your 20??
Sincerely,
Your youngest
@ amanda.lynn I would say the EXACT same thing to my mother. She is getting better though.
Dear FMIL,
You know, if you stop going to bars every evening and living extravagantly outside your means, you would be able to pull together some money for your son's wedding. Stop trying to make him feel guilty about his wedding. Stop fussing about how your husband needs to wear a tux when he much rather wear a suit. He doesn't own a suit. So that would be more expensive in the long run. Stop fussing at him about how much this wedding is going to cost you when my parents is paying for everything. Stop saying how its a bad time for a wedding because you are broke when we gave you 10 months advance notice of the date and you know anytime would be a bad time because you are always broke anyway. Stop saying you are left out of the loop like it is my fault because it isn't my fault you live across the United States.
Love, Your FDIL
Dear Guest-List,
Your collective atrocious behavior and unwillingness to at least let *us* be happy with our wedding has indeed led us to elope. Please find your way to the exit out of our lives.
Sincerely,
The Happy Couple
P.S. It was the best decision we've ever made not to tell you we're eloping.
To whom it may concern,
Today was the first time I've cried because of this wedding. You've made it clear you do not want to be involved in the planning and I understand. Today when you finally wanted to talk wedding, all you could do is criticize. Sometimes I wish you would show some enthusiam towards this wedding. You don't know it, but your indifference hurts and is the most hurtful thing you have ever done.
Hoping it gets better as the wedding draws closer,
me
To whom it may concern.
While I appreciate you always wanted a daughter and didn't get one that doesn't give you permission to live through my wedding. You had your turn, now it's mine. Don't question my decisions, don't force me into going dress shopping with you.
JUST BACK OFF!
We are moving 3 hours away after the wedding so that you can't interfere with our lives anymore than you already have-we'll tell you when we've found new jobs so you can't guilt trip us into staying.
Love, me.
P.S No you can't wear white to the wedding and you need to stop drinking!
Miss Yap- I sympathize!
Dear F.M.I.L:
I never dreamed of a big wedding, your son and I wanted to elope but, didn't because apparently that would have really hurt your feelings, we planned to have a wedding so not to tread on your toes or crush your heart. I started to plan the wedding and you told us you couldn't make it because it was in Ohio, I was pretty irritated with you. We would have been fine eloping. Now we have to have the wedding in your home state because you and your husband are not responsible enough to save up a few hundred bucks to fly half way across the country to your oldest sons wedding. Shame on you. Now we have to spend several thousand dollars on a wedding that is really all for you and now we have to wait until we move to California in a a year and a half just so you can come. Damn, meet us half way woman!
Peace and love :)
To whom it may concern:
Stop posting stuff on The Knot and all your little planning sites that you know will piss me off. I sent you a reconciliation letter to try to make ammends, and even made the joke that I had found your wedding on a few bridal sites, and you refused to respond to me. Now you're going to say that crap on public websites for all to read.
Thank you for NOT writing back, because it's clear you haven't changed one bit, and I'm happy you're not in my life.
And hey! GROW UP.
Sincerely,
Your ex-friend
*sigh* @Leafy, yes you have my sympathies as well. At least I have my FH support. He is equally upset which makes me upset. lol
To Whom it May Concern,
Your opinion really does not matter to me, and even though you think that all wedding ceremonies should be in a church, and all receptions should have cake... mine will not. So you can stop with the passive aggressive comments, and deal with it!
To Whom It May Concern:
Just because you are an unhappy, unmarried person doesn't mean you should prevent me from enjoying a first anniversary trip with my new husband by not approving my time off--I gave you enough notice! And no we can't save our trip for the Christmas break, we are hosting Christmas at my new house this year! I think it's absurd how you won't be able to accomodate me for the rest of this year, but my co-worker can take her cruise in 2 months...WTF!?!
Sincerely,
Me
P.S. I'm loving this thread!
Dear Mum,
I love you dearly and I am really super excited that you're excited in your own special way about our wedding. But please, we are young and creative. Just because you had a small courthouse wedding and an afternoon reception and we're going along the same lines does not mean that we are having the same wedding as you. If I want a guest book then I'm going to have a guestbook. And if it means a lot for the Mr. to have kids from his relatives there then they will be invited. I am doing a lot of little projects on this wedding because I want to - because I want it to go off well.
In addition, the Mr. and I enjoy living with you for the moment. But we've done it now for 2 years and if you think that I'm going to start my newly married life still living with you then you're sadly mistaken. The Mr. and I have plans to find our own place to live before we go on honeymoon so we can move when we get back from our 'moon. This doesn't mean we don't love and appreciate you - it means we need to have our own newlywed space.
Love,
Your Daughter
@littlemissmoo- I love that you will be moving into a new place right after your honeymoon. It is a modern spin on an old tradition. What a fun and romantic way to start your new life together.
To Dad,
Please stop telling me that God is *punishing* me by giving me endometriosis. My impending surgery is doubtfully a result of me being a horrible person, but thanks for the sentiment that I brought it upon myself. This is a ridiculous notion and you should keep it to yourself, not kick me when I'm down. I'm not *bad* just because I don't believe and/or pray JUST like you, which by the way, is a little fanatical and crazy for my taste, so NO i'm not going to ask you to *guide me* like you want. I had no idea you were the only *right* one in the world and you should stop being so self-righteous towards me.
Sigh. Can you tell he's been on my case lately? haha. I love this thread!
To my ridiculous, immature and annoying coworker -
GET A LIFE, HONEY.
Your passive aggressive little attacks and hostile attitude are most unbecoming. You really need to get over whatever little thing it is about me that gets under your skin - I've done nothing to you, yet you still try your damndest to make me as miserable as possible. I loathe my job. I dread coming into the office. Satisfied?
So, as much as I'd like to face plant your sorry a$$, I can't - but I WILL tell you to grow up and ACT YOUR AGE. You're 41, for gods sake. Isn't it time you started acting like it?
You're an idiot, and I pity you.
To whom it may concern,
Stop trying to change my mind about every decision I make, this is my wedding, not yours. Just because you have never been to my venue before does not automatically mean that it will not be as good as the other places you have been to. Try something new!
I love you, but you need to back off.
Love,
Me
Letter #1
Dear Most Out-spoken and Opinionated person(s),
I am aware that I was married before - I am still paying off what the divorce cost me, thankyouverymuch.
I have been blessed with a wonderful man - my soul mate, I believe. I intend to support him and love him as much as he does me, forever. If this means that we will save for, plan, coordinate, and pay for the wedding of his dreams (and mine too), then so be it. Doesn't everyone deserve that? Let me make a few things perfectly clear:
So what if I walked down the aisle before - would you like to see the list of things I endured over the time I was married so that you may consider my divorce "approved" ? It wasn't pretty. Trust me. Hopefully you don't treat your dog that way. Anyway, I've moved on with my life, could you?
Will you please stop asking me ridiculous questions?
If you intend to remain a person that I consider important in my life, please refrain from verbally vomiting all of your opinions about my wedding, our life, my choices, and anything else inappropriate.
Much appreciated,
Jessica
Dear everyone I come into contact with as of late,
Please stop asking "ARE YOU EXCITED! or ARE YOUR PARENTS EXCITED/HAPPY?! or You must be freaking out...are you nervous?" I am excited - SHOCKER! No, my parents arent excited or happy actually, they think FI is a sh*thead (sarcasm obvi - seriously, what kind of question is that?) and, this may come as a surprise, NOT ALL BRIDES GET NERVOUS BEFORE THEIR WEDDING!"
Also, please stop giving me unsolicited advice and opinions including, but not limited to, "You CANNOT spend the night before the wedding with him!! Thats horrifying!" or "Um, you reall shouldnt wear navy blue shoes..." etc. MMkay thanks
KellyV
Letter #2
Dear Mom,
I know we've been down this road before and that you cannot help but compare me to the bride I was at 19. Please trust me when I tell you it is different this time... I am after all, 30 years old now. I KNOW that some of the little stuff is no big deal, that no one will notice the details. I WILL NOTICE. THESE THINGS ARE IMPORTANT TO ME! Please stop suggesting that I give the things that "aren't important" less attention. I know I am a mom and a have a full time job - I LIVE THAT EVERY DAY while you are at home. I am fully aware how much this is costing me. I know you and Daddy are generous and extremely helpful with many, many, things. I appreciate every bit of that with my whole heart. That said, please do not suggest I go the easy way on everything - yes i am sure I want to may my own invitations. And NO - having real flowers is NOT important to me, so i will have beautiful silks. This is my wedding, I am your daughter. Please just be happy for me and pretend to be excited if you are not. I'm excited. It's really difficult to fake not being excited. I'm not good at it.
I love you,
Jessica
BEST THREAD EVER................................
That was seriously a huge stress reliever....
Dear Cuz,
I have struggled and struggled over how our relationship has been. Truth be told we are just not close anymore and I feel like we are "faking it". You don't include me in your life anymore and although it hurts I have come to terms with it. Things change and so do people. It's a shame that it has come to this. We used to be like sisters. I wish you well! With that said, I hope you are not offended that I have not included you in the wedding party. I just dont feel like you are genuinely happy for me. Makes me sad but life goes on.
-me
To whom it may concern,
You do not need to see me every weekend, and I do not enjoy feeling pushed around. Yes, I am distancing myself from you, and I feel it's best for me at this moment in time. I think you need to get over yourself, and realise what's best for me may not be exactly what you had in mind for you.
Jess.
To Whom it May concern:
Is it really that hard to rent a car in Ohio for 3 days? Why do I have to pick everyone and their mother up from the airport? Do I have a "airport express" label on my forehead?! I know weddings are expensive but jeez, it's like $19 a day. suck it up!
Love,
Kara
I love this thread too!!!!
To whom it may concern:
Get out now-it will NEVER change.
love, me
(I've actually favorited this thread)
To Whom It May Concern,
You know what...I'm glad you didn't call. I didn't want to work for you anyway. I'll just continue to be broke and jobless. But now atleast I can still help my friend, and still do something fun every Tuesday, by taking on 3 of her lessons. They're adorable kids and I get to work with horses. Much better then answering phones for you all day.
Sincerely,
The person talking herself out of disappointment.
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