Something's wrong and I need help pt. 2

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

What people in your life are supportive of you leaving this guy?

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

On the bright hand of things, OP, at least having over five hundred posts on the other thread just goes to show how many people you have pulling for you and caring about you. :)

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@upsetbeee:  I thought your dad didn’t care that he hit you.  Maybe I read that wrong.

I would move out, and stay with a friend.  Show that friend this thread.  Tell her everything.  Then she can help you NOT go back.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@upsetbeee:  I am not the most mature person in the world either. I used to tell my Fit’s ok for me to call him out on things and he should call me out on things as well so that we can get “better”

That’s a F-ed up way to treat someone. Trust me.

It’s again not being responsible for your own actions. I was used to things being this way, cuz I had been with someone with a similar mindset to your FI. But it is not right. By saying that, your FI is saying  1) things that you do that bug him are your fault and you need to fix them and 2) things that he does that bug you are your fault and you need to fix them.

That is F-ed up!!!! Don’t let anyone treat you this way.

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Bumble bee

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@upsetbeee:  Can you see how he’s screwing with you and it’s the overcoming barriers to actually leave (finances, place to stay) that is stopping you from leaving? Or do you still truly believe he’s a good guy?

No judgment – I know the abuse stats. Just curious.

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@upsetbeee:  You should pack your things and go.  He’s abusive.  You deserve better.  If you’re not going to listen to the scores of people here telling you that, listen to your friends and family.  And if you’re not going to listen to them, then I don’t see the point in continuing this thread.

I know it’s a lot easier to tell you this than it is for you to do it, but you HAVE to.  For yourself.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@upsetbeee:  Where do you see yourself in 10 years if he doesn’t change? 20?

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@upsetbeee:  This is all a part of the abuse cycle.  He’s told you ALL of this before and then went right back to abusing you.  As for going somewhere else if HE wants you to, you should go somewhere else if YOU want to!  Make this about helping YOURSELF.

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