- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
Hi bees, im going undercover for this particular thread.
This is probably gonna be long, but i’ll make it as short as possible.
When my (now) Darling Husband and i started dating, he told me about some not so nice experiences with sex he had (all of his experiences where bad, not because of the sex, but the context around it) and told me he wanted to be celibate, i agreed and time went by.
We did have sex a couple of times but we stoped because the ideology we have (it’s personal and hard to explain, sorry).
Two years later we got married and decided to try sex again, it was great but then i had almost no sex drive so we decided to stop again.
So a couple of weeks ago we decided to give it another shot and well…Too Much Information ahead
The left side of my… vajayjay hurts at the beggining of intercourse.. i think it’s because he’s slightly bent to the right. The feeling stops after a while when i get into it… but each time we have sex again, it hurts more and more… as if it get sore…
Today we were at it and it was so unconfortable that i asked him to stop and this started an issue.
I felt pathetic… i mean.. i used to be (acording to my exes) a Sex Goddess and now i just… it hurts.
He was telling me “if it hurts you should listen to your body, maybe we should stop, i don’t know why you wanna keep trying if it hurts you, i love you and i dont want to hurt you”.
TBH i dont care if i have a celibate marriage, all i want is to be with him, but the thing is that if we ever stop having sex is for conviction not because it hurts.
I told Darling Husband this and he says it’s fine and that we’ll do it only when i want, but i still feel awful because of this.
I’ll make an appointment with the gyno and everything, but i just wanted to hear some advice or some motivation.
Thanks for everything.