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Uh oh. But you know what? None of us is going to have YOUR wedding. Which is going to make it entirely yours and completely unique and absolutely perfect.
Right?
Sometimes I do. .Don't worry, I think a lot of bees feel that way at times. Just like ring envy, there's dress envy, venue envy, etc! Especially if we are insecure to begin with. Cheer up, and try to enjoy what you have! There will always be someone with something bigger, better, etc. is the way I see it. I hope you feel better soon!
Anyone else feel this way
no because i embrace how tacky i am. there was no class involved from how i got the ring to how we married but looking back we laugh about it a lot and loved everything about it
im sure you day will be wonderful!
The most important thing is that you and your FI are happy with your day. Don't compare yourself to others - do what feels right for you two!
@lorelai: I am totally happy and I think our wedding is going to be amazing. . . yet the insecurity lingers!
@Miss LusterDust: There will always be the what-ifs and the feeling that things could be "better" - at some point we need to make a call. I'm a bit of a perfectionist and I like to ensure I'm making the right decisions so I understand where you're coming from. Those feelings will probably always be there as part of your mind chatter, but listen to your heart whispers. -- I hope that made sense? (Not sure if that helps?)
How boring would life be if everything we did/got was the same as everyone else...
That being said, it's normal to feel envy when you see something you wish you had or could do but totally not worth letting it make you feel insecure. You're the only one comparing your wedding to anyone else's.
@eloping: hahahahaha your posts always make me laugh!!!! DH and I are the same way, except we fully embrace our nerdiness and we LOVE. IT.
OP, don't compare yourself to others. One of the nice things about this board is that we have people here from all walks of life with all kinds of different circumstances. Just because someone else is doing something amazing doesn't mean it would be right for you, nor does it mean that what you're doing is any less special or important. Enjoy your day and don't worry about everyone else!
In life, you can't compare yourself to others. This isn't a contest. Relax
It's the booze talking. ;)
Try to be happy with the choices you make! Who knows, there may be someone looking at all YOUR stuff (dress/ring/etc.) and wishing theirs was more like yours.
@Miss LusterDust: I feel this way sometimes. Yet I'm addicted to the bee. LOL
i would post that i had sardines and crackers for lunch if it made you feel any better. because i did. i also need to take a shower and i didn't put on any make up today. the most exciting thing to happen to me today was the mail came. and i got to rip up a couple of credit card offers. all of this is true.
the point is, nobody posts about mundane shit like this. but everyone's life is mundane to some degree.
@roxymalone: lol. I ripped up a credit card offer too! It really annoys me how I get ones from the same place every month. I mean, get the message!
I can completely relate. Every wedding I've ever been to has been 20K+... The wedding I am planning is going to be 8K or less. I've had to cut corners on just about everything, and with a little help from my parents, I was able to spend a bit more on my wedding dress and photographer.
In the end, it is the day we planned to share with our closest family and friends. We are all there to celebrate and have a good time. No one remembers what decor you had on your table (unless it was over-the-top), what favor they took home, etc. People will always remember if they had a good time. Good times can be had anywhere, anytime, any budget... :)
@Miss LusterDust: well tomorrow i get to go pick up my bifocal contacts from wal mart. then i'll really be rockin the kasbah.
top that!
@roxymalone: I get to pick up my contacts and only one is bifocal. :/ BUT I also get to pick up my new glasses! ;) Lol.
I think we all have a tinge of "It would have been nice if my X was like hers." But at the end of the day we all have amazingly unique stories. And like @roxymalone said, not everyone's life is full of awesome ALL the time. ;)
Its hard to avoid this feeling. Think about t.v shows, movies, celebrities, magazines, blogs, friends, family membmers, and a zillion other wedding related outlets that you can be exposed to.
Follow your heart and enjoy all that life has to give. You make it special! Not a dress, or a RSVP count.
This is why I stopped looking at dress threads and watching bridal shows! I don't want to have anything ruin my day and I was getting a little green-eyed watching some of those shows with $50,000+ budgets or giant bridal parties. Oh well! I say love what you have and avoid threads that might bother you (rings, venue, etc)
i stopped too! Once i got my dress, which has been almost a year now, I stopped watching say yes to the dress and all those other shows I LOVE LOVE LOVE my dress, and was not willing to spend as much as they do on those shows!! I have gotten some amazing DIY ideas off WB and feel like becuase of Weddingbee I have been albe to stay in budget and pull together what is going to be an amazing wedding!! I agree say away from the ones that will triger those bad feeling about your wedding/engagment. Do what you want and have the weeding of YOUR dreams :)
Only about my dress, but at this point I'm glad. I realized I really kind of hate my dress. It's not me. It was on sale and very pretty, but it's not me.
I wish I could afford real flowers, or a limo, or a prettier venue or a better photograper, or a DJ, or a videographer. Um...yes, I think that is everything that I see on weddingbee that makes me go "I wish I could afford that." But, that would just make the day more luxurious. And at the end of the day, I probably won't even notice most of those things.
I will say that sometimes I have proposal envy, but I got two proposals so I can't really complain 
This is why I stopped looking at dress threads and watching bridal shows!
i saw a 4 weddings episode the other day and this couple had a backyard bbq wedding (catered) with pulled pork and ribs - thats a wedding i want to go to!
Yes! That is one of my main regrets about knowing what the internet, Weddingbee, etc. have to offer about weddings. Otherwise, I'd just do what I could think of and probably be very pleased with it, like I never would have found the dream dress that I wouldn't want to spend the money for even if I could. But as I think others have been saying, there's a time to make the call, and then stand by your decision, and so far that has worked well for me and my peace of mind about planning.
I have selective reading. I scroll right pass the topics about large diamond rings. Or any other topic that I'm really not feeling.
@AmeliaBedelia: they are bifocal AND toric. i'll let you know how this works out. ... i'm not expecting much.
the internet wins again.
i totally understand, don't worry.
Tell me about it. Throw in all the expectations of beauty and you could really start to feel bad.
Your proposal, ring, wedding, dress that is all between you and your soon to be husband. Your life is your own and whatever happens just make sure that you love it all...that is what counts.
I honestly feel that way all the time. Then I just remember that it's my day and it's going to be exactly how I want it to be, and it's going to reflect exactly who Mr. D and I are. In the end, we will be married and that is all that really matters :)
I actually don't have envy when it comes to the material things but I have super envy when I see threads about helpful family, friends, and wedding party. I would love help planning my wedding. Also I am so envious of crafty DIY brides. Gluesticks are not my friends
Remember, the posts you're reading with the beautiful proposals and rings are not the story of the venue emergencies, alterations hell, and all the things that only look perfect because they are highly polished for the Internet. If you want to see the more down-to-earth WB, go to the Emotional boards.
Love looks through a telescope; envy, through a microscope.
Sometimes you have to remind yourself to step back and look at the bigger picture. I started talking to a friend today about her wedding and after hearing about all the sparkles and silver and crystals doo hickeys and fancy pants folded linens and I started getting jealous because it sounded so over the top and extravagant.... Then I remembered "you hate that crap!".... I got caught up in the comparison game and started believing mine wasn't good enough... But it's awesome and so is yours because it's what is special to you!
@Miss LusterDust: You are so wise!
You must have been tipsy!! :p
we've all been there. It's so hard to not compare yourself to other brides here. I constantly felt like my wedding wasn't going to be as beautiful as other bee's. But at the end...our wedding was just that: OUR wedding! It was perfect because it was what we wanted! Hang in there. It'll be just fine!
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I may be slightly tipsy right now. . . but reading the posts on here makes me feel so insecure sometimes. My proposal story wasn't good enough, it was too much; my engagement ring isn't special enough; the stone is too big/too small. My dress isn't as beautiful as other ladies, my venue's too fancy or not fancy enough. So many beautiful brides, and I worry I won't be one. Anyone else feel this way?