Post # 1
So I posted about a week ago on how I was going to make better diet choices, lose the baby weight, start loving myself again & all that jazz… Well, I left out the part about why exactly I had decided now’s the time. Here’s the reason:
We had a Super Bowl party at work. In true potluck tradition, there was quite an unholy feast full of cheeses, sugars & saturated fats. After I had gone back for seconds (& maybe thirds) one of my coworkers (who no one really likes that much because she says whatever she wants whenever she wants to whoever she wants) said in front of 4 other coworkers “Man, I can’t believe how much you ate today!”
Um. Thanks &!#*@.
I firmly believe unless you are someone’s BEST friend, or Jillian Michael’s, you have no business saying something like that. Especially to someone who:
1) Just had a baby
2) Is still nursing
& 3) Is breathing.
So anywhoo, after I (& everyone else) snapped out of a shocked stupor, I decided:
1) She was even more rude than anyone originally thought
& 2) She was right.
I KNEW I couldn’t continue eating like that forever, despite nursing (which I’m not doing exclusively, so it’s not burning AS many calories as it would otherwise). Her remark was the final push I needed to get back on track & feel healthy again. Don’t worry, I’m not one to do any crash diets or starve myself because someone hurt my feelings. Instead, I’m using her observation to fuel my success! I’m happy to report I’m already on the right track 🙂
Sometimes anger is the best motivator.
Post # 3
@okqueenbee: How awful! BUT, isn’t she going to be one to “eat” her words when she sees you all slim and trim in a few months time!
I never think it’s right to belittle someone for their food choices, but to have it be a stranger or someone who isn’t close to you – STEP OFF. Seriously.
Good for you on making healthier choices and getting on track! It’s hard but we can do it. 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
@okqueenbee: Always good to turn a negative into a positive! Keep up the good work. Though in a party setting I often allow myself a little extra guilty pleasures in food. Even if I eat good all week and work out. Those are my few instances to splurge a little.
I’ve also been motivated by insults. Similar situation but not weight related…I was trying to replace a burned out headlamp in my car and I just wasn’t getting it. I went online to see if there was some place I could take my car in and get it done. Instead though I came across a ton of posts by men saying that women need to learn some basic mechanical work and it’s so easy and no one should be so stupid that they can’t figure this out themselves. I was so mad and offended by these men’s comments I went back to my car to try again and I did it! LOL. I was very motivated by all the insults that women can’t figure this stuff out.
Post # 6
@okqueenbee: I’m betting the person who said it to you doesn’t think you are overweight, or, at least not overweight enough to be offended by an off hand comment like that. I hate to think someone is really that rude : I had a close friend that was really tiny, and ate like she was a grabage can. I commented on it, but we both knew it was because I was insanely jealous and secretly hoping she would choke on a ho-ho snack cake. I ended up losing touch with her when I moved, but I’m betting she’s still smokin’ hot and putting away whole pizzas by herself.
I think you have a good attitude, and you are taking lemons and making lemonade. Good for you 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Unbelievable! How do people like that make it to adulthood without someone clocking them?
Post # 8
I’m sorry she was so rude to you but I’m glad that you are now motivated to work hard! I need to get back into the exercise groove as well.
Post # 9
Who says things like that? I really would just like to know why they think that is okay because I just don’t get it. There are people in my office that make similar types of comments and it just baffles me! No social etiquette whatsoever.
On another note – thats great that you were able to turn it around and use it as motivation!
Post # 10
Rude! My “push” came from being gifted size XL pajamas. I was still having delsuions of medium! I’ve lost 25 pounds since then, and those pjs are practically falling off now.
Post # 11
That is a good motivator!
Post # 12
Anger really is a good motivator. Sometimes we really do need to hear the words to get back in the gym.
Post # 13
Kudos on the motivation, but comments like that are why I always eat at my desk and rarely in public unless with true friends/DH. I grew up with a diet-obsessed mom and had major issues b/c of it. I refuse to let strangers comment on my food choices/eating habits.
Post # 14
@okqueenbee: That person sounds horrible! Pay no mind to her, do it because you want to!
I just started working out regularly, got a personal trainer, and am trying to make better decisions about what I eat (this is the HARDEST part, by far, for me).
I joined the gym about 10 days ago, have been to the gym about 8 of those days, and have lost about 3lbs so far! You can do it!!
I highly recommend using Myfitnesspal to track food and workouts, it really helps put into perspective the things you eat. Add me as a friend on there if you use it, we can help motivate eachother!! mzap85 is my username.
Post # 15
Thanks ladies for all your thoughtful responses!
She really did hurt/shock/anger me at the time, but I sure didn’t let HER know it & since I’m the newest employee there, once she walked away, everyone told me “That’s how she is. Just ignore her. No one likes her.” Lol.
Honestly, I forgave her, & I still talk to her, but next time she opens her mouth & inserts foot like that, I might have to insert my own foot somewhere 🙂
@Ms_Purple: Yep. Sometimes all we need is someone to tell us we “can’t” do something!
@Bridey77: lol @ “..choke on a ho oh cake..”!
@prahajess: Exactly! but that only works for some people. If I said whatever I wanted, someone would have punched me years ago!
@Laurenplusalex: lol @ delusions of size medium! I’ve had similar delusions! It usually involves me holding up an appropriately sized pair of pants and going “Surely my butt isn’t THAT big!” Well, guess what…
@MrsNewDay: Ugh! Sorry you feel the need to hide from people when you eat 🙁 That’a awful
@Baroness_Meg: I haven’t started working out yet, but I just started counting WW points again based on what I USED to eat on WW, but added a few more to compensate for the breastfeeding! I haven’t started going to meetings yet, but that’s coming soon 🙂 I’d love to have a motivator buddy, but maybe we can just do it on here! I don’t want another website to log into lol. I’m lazy in that regard 🙂
Post # 16
@okqueenbee: lol, exactly! But reality was, I weighed over 200 pounds, not good for my 5’5″ frame. I’m down to 180 and can actually fit in some mediums now!