(Closed) Sometimes caring to much sucks.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Mrs.Larson11:  I think there are a couple of things you need to do.
1. Take a deep breath and realize that even though she is like a little sister to you, she is not your responsibility and you can only do what you can do (as in, you can only do so much)
2. I think you need to sit her down and have a serious heart to heart, no distractions (might not hurt if her bf is there too) and explain what your concerns are and what you’re willing to do to help
3. you need to leave it up to her after that. You can’t force her to smarten up, unfortunately. There are some people in the world that just won’t learn until they experience the backlash of their mistakes…

I hope that isn’t the case, but you should be prepared unless it is. Bearing in mind I don’t know much about your family or the rest of the dynamic, I would almost think you should talk to her mom too/have her there when you talk to the cousin so everyone is on the same page.

I think you should be prepared also there may be some people who think it is none of your business, and I may have been of the same mind set but again, since I don’t know much else about your family relationships I think this is the best I can offer

Post # 4
Member
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

She might be depressed/in denial– even though she said she wanted to get pregnant, this is a big change and she may be freaking out inside. she may be trying to convince herself that this is what she wants and just trying to find the path of least resistance. instead of devoting the energy to figure out how to have a job and raise her baby, she may be in denial. my big question is-what is she doing all day? if it’s something escapist like TV, that is a big clue.

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